7 Signs Your Husband is Cheating

Posted to Resource Articles by Christina Rowe on Fri, 02/13/2009 - 9:12am

Extramartial affairs are consistently cited as one of the top reasons women file for divorce. Affairs are a stunning betrayal of the heart, and the pain can cut through you like a knife. Trust me, though — if you choose to, you can learn from the experience, and grow to become a more mature, independent woman.

Sometimes the most difficult lessons in life are the ones that force us to break out of our box and make a decision. You can either learn from the pain or you can be destroyed by it. Everything depends on where your thoughts are — control what you think about and you will control your life.

Here are 7 Common Signs Your Husband is Cheating:

1. Is your husband paying more attention to his appearance? Is he wearing new clothes, using cologne, and making sure his hair is combed? If this is not his normal behavior, then this could be a huge sign your husband is having an affair.

2. Is he critical of you? Has he been picking fights lately? This is another big sign. My ex was very cranky around the time he was cheating and I couldn't understand why he was so angry with me. I remember one night he got dressed, put on his shoes and brushed his teeth. I thought this was odd because it was late and it looked like he was going somewhere. Instead he sat on the couch. As I was finishing something on the computer, he yelled: "So you're not going to spend any time with me? Fine, I'm, going to my friend's house." And he got up and left. I realized later that he was purposely picking a fight so he could have an excuse to leave the house. His "friend" was, of course, his lover.

3. Watch out if he is suddenly too nice to you. If this is not his normal behavior, then he could be trying to assuage his own pangs of guilt.

4. He doesn't want you using his cell phone. This is how my divorce began. My ex twisted my arm when I wouldn't give him back his cell phone. He knew that I would discover the calls to his lover. Ask your husband if you can use his cell. Watch his reaction.

5. Is he staying up late surfing the Web until the wee hours of the night? He may be having cybersex, looking at pornography, or instant-messaging his lover. If you're computer savvy, you can find out where your husband has been on the Internet (most internet browsers have a "history" function that will show every page visited over a certain period. If this list has been "cleared" recently, that could be another sign). There are also programs you can install on your computer to monitor activity and find out what is really going on.

6. Does your husband have a newfound interest in hanging out with "the guys"? Did he just start a new hobby or join the gym? Is he gone certain evenings of the week? You may want to discreetly follow him one evening and see where he is really going, or use a GPS tracker. My ex started hanging out with one of his buddies several times a week. This is the same buddy he used to see only once every few months. It became obvious later that this "buddy" was his girlfriend.

7. Is he no longer interested in having sex? Did he always want to be with you in the past, but now has little interest? This is another huge sign. Sometimes, though, it can be the opposite: The guilty husband syndrome. He may want to be intimate with you even though he is getting it somewhere else too! I coached a woman who found out that her husband was cheating the morning after he made love to her. Apparently, he had been intimate with his mistress the day before too!

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Comments

what now

Submitted by confused4now (not verified) on Tue, 02/07/2012 - 5:00pm.

So I am looking for some honest feedback. 2 years ago after just giving birth I found out some things about my husband that I can't seem to deal with. First he was using porn while I was in the next room with our children during the day. We were at the time having a constant sexual relationship so i m not really sure what was going on first he claimed he was just watching something a friend sent him then he said he was just bored. Then he said he uses it so he last longer when we are together. This all just sounds like crap to me. Second problem he works nights at a resturant. A resturant mind you that we go to together we hang out with others that work there as a family but for some reason he got some girls number and called her twince after hiding the # from me. He said he just wanted to see if he could pick her up. So then why did he call her twince then he said he asked her to met for drinks but she said maybe some other time. So in my head he asked for sex but she turned him down. Am I right? Third I asked him to leave this job so I won't be worrying about this all the time. He didn't. Just to be clear he does have another job .now here we are 2 years later and he has done nothing to make me feel better. He does let me check his phone. But he still works in the resturant he can't seem to understand why I want him to move out. He says I am destorying us. I think maybe he is just one of those guys who just can't be honest. ? A little feedback please. If you really love someone I don't think you would do these childish things. What do you think?

Men were born cheaters

Submitted by sexy stories (not verified) on Mon, 02/06/2012 - 11:48am.

I think th emain problem is that most men want us to be nice and stay at home, take care of everything, while they can have all the fun. Have your ex call you once on the phone and speak nice to him, and immediately your husband makes a big scandal. But it is normal for him if from time to time his secreatry gives him a nice BJ or if he stops by at the massage parlour to 'relax' for an hour or 2. I told him, we are equal. I do what you do, I don't do what you don't. Be frank and open to me: I will never say no to you, but I will do exactly the same. And for BELLA who writes about her worry: would it be possible that your husband started to like men? His attitude sounds strange really. But not like a cheating man.

Snoop was right, they do be crazy.

Submitted by riley freeman (not verified) on Tue, 02/07/2012 - 11:56pm.

Wow, as a dude. This list is insane, if your man is bitchy, he's cheating, if he's to nice... Cheating. Tries to look too good, cheating. And what's this crap about goin through your mans phone. Really ladies, come on now. I'm a cheater, proud, unrepentant, and very successful cheater (cheated on every woman I've ever dated). Was only caught once in a way I couldn't talk my way out of. And as a regular cheater I can tell you, undeniably, and with every fiber of my being, 90% of the reason for cheating... The woman. Now before you broads get up in arms and start pmsing everywhere, hear me out. I cheated because women would nag, bitch too much or just ride my ass to the point I either wanted hate f*ck her and break up, or go pick up a piece of trim and blow off some steam and go back home. Hell I had an affair with a girl BECAUSE I was being accused by my woman of sleeping with her. Hell I figured if I was getting punished I may as well have some fun. And don't act like it's all men who cheat, said affaur and I were each other's piece on the side. We helped each other with problems in our respective relationships, and it helped. Sh*it, we're both still in our relationships. You really want to know the secret to keeping your horse in the barn? 1.Cut down the nagging, not all of it, we men need your girls there to keep our asses in check. Just tone it down a bit. 2.Su*k some wang, not kidding, a study found that an overwhealming percentage of prostitute patrons sought out a hooker simply because they wanted a knobber and their women at home wouldn't do it. See also, dont act like a b-jibber is such a chore.And 3.Dont fault men for watching porn. We are visual creatures, that's what revves our engines. Porn is where we get ideas and vent frustrations. It's healthy, and normal. Damn I don't care if I'm getting sweet sweet loving on a daily basis, I will still jerk it four or five times a week, it's a connection women just don't understand.... I hope this very frank and honest comment helps some couples and doesn't offend anyone too much. I love all women, you are all beautiful unique creatures that deserve love. But love is also influenced by sex. And when one wanes, the other is not far behind. Night ladies.

You are just a DOG! Making an

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Wed, 02/08/2012 - 2:41pm.

You are just a DOG! Making an excuse for your uncontrolled sexual perversion! You can't control IT, IT controls you! So you tell yourself its healthy and normal, when in actuality YOU NEED HELP! Cheated on every woman you had...oh boy. Dont know how old you are, guessing still fairly young, You'll probably wind up old and alone with kids here and there, that dont know you exsist or do, and think the least of you. Thats if you make it to an old age if your peepee doesn't rott off first.

Is he cheating

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 02/06/2012 - 10:00am.

It all started when i was pregnant, i was admitted to the hospital on bed rest with our set of twins while my husband was in AIT for basic training in the army, he came home on leave and always had his phone on him an this girl was always texting him and even in front of me,once i called the number back an she jst didnt answer an texted "im with my boyfriend right now, i cant talk. later n i made him get a new nmber befor he went back for training an his leave was up, a few months later after i finally had the kids we moved down to texas with him to live an got married then he deployed an he was argementative alot befor he left bt never went ot with out me an just went to work his few army hours then wold come home on lunch even sometimes. while he is deployed i googled him an found he had a myspace with all these females on it from around or area and it said he was there for dating/friends an his stas was single, i noticed one of the girls was the same girl that was texting him befor he left, he told me we were in a bad fight an he was lonely that he got her number an they talked an shes married an he told her it wasnt gonna work that he was married an so was she, i was like what do u mean its not gonna work? what did u do? he said he never met her an then deleted the account for me an appologized an said he was just lonely at the time because we werent there, then i find out a few months ag while his still deployed he had created another myspace again with all females an some were on his aol instant messanger an so many of them but he said he did it again because he was lonely an never was gonna meet them. is he planning an affair? im so lost, hes deployed s its hard but hes comming back home on leave soon and we have been doing great ever sense the new yr but now im afraid he has more sites that i dont know about and i have no way of knowing or tracking him because hes gone an deployed.

is he cheating

Submitted by monikiea (not verified) on Mon, 02/06/2012 - 12:24am.

Its been three months and he has not said I love you to me. And when I tell him he dose not say nothing, and he always has is cell phone and don't want me to see it. And won't talk to me on facebook!!!! I don't know what to do cause he allways mad at me. And won't kiss me. Culeless

communicating

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Tue, 01/24/2012 - 8:04pm.

Does anyone know if it is possible for someone to communicate with a "paramour" using short codes? I keep seeing texts, both sent and received to short codes on our phone bill. I am wondering if it is google voice, twitter, linkedin, yahoo or some other social media that forwards messages to cell phones via short codes. The codes are : 141-008-0001 and 121

What do I make of it

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 01/20/2012 - 9:41pm.

Ok so my husband of 6 months works At a pizza place and washes dishes Has started buttering up to me just Handing money over to me to get My hair done and stuff but there Is this girl he works with that keeps Telling me I'm jealous of her and always Flirting with my hubby.. He says nothing Is going on but she all of a sudden want To fight me for no reason we have a 7 Month old boy and if I find he's cheating I'm not sure what to do but what do I Make of this girls attitude???

This Is how To Catch Them Red Handed

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 1:07am.

Unfortunately if you don't know that your husband is cheating it will be a bit hard. If this is his first time you can only pay attention to his action. Watch all the things he does, if you notice that his cell phone can't be found, that will be one of them. Your the only one that can tell what kind of changes he have, like how many times does he shower each day, or if he ever shower everyday. Does he start wearing cologne but he never does before. Have you ever seen the cell phone statement. These are a few ways you can tell. I found the most useful way to catch them cheating is with this information. After going through this is was sooo easy and i finally got to put my emotions to rest

Should I load the gun?

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Wed, 10/19/2011 - 7:23am.

My husband of 9 years, recently started behaving funny. He has always had a porn problem and I am afraid he is beginning to take it to a whole new level. He recently began searching "Free online dating", he hides his phone, and he is taking special outing trips with his best friend and not including me. I am 36 weeks pregnant with our 4th child, and I feel alone and neglected. He tells me I am just insecure and I need to give up. Yesterday he came home from work a little late, didn't even say hello to me, jumped right into the shower, and had taken his phone into the shower with him. When I looked for his phone and found it in the shower with him I asked why and he got mad, telling me to back off. We have been fighting for weeks now about him being shady. I am afraid. Every promise he has made me in 12 years has turned into a lie, I don't know when I can trust him anymore. He says he loves me and I am the only woman he wants in his life, but I just don't believe him anymore. Is he cheating, or just having some long term commitment freak out? HELP!!!

You just answered your own

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Thu, 01/19/2012 - 11:44pm.

You just answered your own question.

What an awful way to feel

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Thu, 12/29/2011 - 1:19pm.

What an awful way to feel when u r pregnant. Im so sorry he is such an ass! My husband has never even let me look in his phone. He actually has it locked w/ a code I don't know. Many times I've asked him if I can use his phone and he will make up some excuse. We have gotten in to many fights over this. Then he has the nerve to accuse me of cheating! Constantly, for 6 years! don't ask me why I put up w/ it. I don't deserve it. I've never cheated on him. We have 3 children. The kids make it harder for me to leave and move on:(

Ive been there.

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 11:57pm.

Unfortunately everything you stated that your husband is doing is exactly what mine did. And mine was caught cheating.He told me I was insecure too. First it was strip clubs, then instead of fantasy it progressed to cheating. He was always angry at me and very critical of EVERYTHING I did. He did not want me to touch his cell phone suddenly when before it was ok with him. One Sunday he was gone for 7 hrs and when he came home he immediately jumped in the shower without even making eye contact with me. He had his cell in his pants pocket and the pants were right in front of the shower door wher he could keep an eye on them. When I reached for his phone from his pants, he bolted out of the shower and grabbed his pants angrily and asked what I was doing? He was suddenly untrusting of me. We had been married for 22 yrs when this occurred. I told him I neede to borrow his phone because I had forgotten to charge mine. He looked as if I had smacked him in the face or something and angrily told me that I'll have to wait for my phone to charge then so that I could learn a lesson and keep it charged. He had changed the cell phone statements to paperless. I did'nt even realize that he had done that a year ago and it all started to dawn on me. Needless to say, I signed up for an account online with his phone number and when I finally got access to his cell phone statement my heart jumped to my throught so fast I almost choked on it. I found the number he had been repeatly calling for 8 months and his 22 yr old mistress answered. There were text messages with him calling her a princess even. He never knew how to text before.. She taught him. He is 50 and texting like he is 15. Another sign to watch for. After I found out he drained 30k from our bank account and left me broke with 3 kids. Never thought this would happen to me. It's true what they say about "Rose Colored Glasses", I wore them. P.S. Don't load the gun. Their not worth it and your kids need you more than ever right now

suspect my husband is cheating

Submitted by mimwe (not verified) on Sat, 10/15/2011 - 1:28pm.

Hi, My husband and I have been married for 4 months now, and I suspect my husband is cheating one me. He firsts doesn't pay too much attention to me anymore, he is verbally abusive to me, he gets angry for no reason. He started this new thing where he loves buying new clothes and dressing up and looking at himself in the mirror to make sure he looks good before he leaves the house. He recently met this girl at the mosque who apparently helped him to look for work, he hid it from me at the beginning, then told me afterwards. But the thing is, the girl keeps on texting him and him too, two days ago, I saw a text from her on his phone talking about her day and putting smileys on it, I just found it weird for someone he just met. Even when I comfronted him he still replied to her text. He keeps on going out a lot these days and dressing up. I know for sure he likes the girl, as she's all that am not. I don't no what to do. I thought a lot about getting a divorce.

cheating

Submitted by lisa (not verified) on Thu, 01/05/2012 - 9:37pm.

My husband always gets mad when I ask him why he is always takeing up for his brothers girl could this mean theres something going on?

Husband's a cheater

Submitted by Erika (not verified) on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 2:05am.

Now I know for sure! Thank You sooo much!.The signs ARE there.He guards his cell phone with his life,he doesn't hold my hand in public,just this past Sunday,I suggested we spend the day together to no success.he eats dinner super fast,just to go back on his cell phone,he no longer kisses me good bye or hello when he is home from work.He carries his phone with him all the time,he sleeps with it also!!!.I think he met this girl at some stupid game website he joined in.It is like some avatar-like-game thing or so.Not long ago I cought him talking on the phone with her,he swore up and down she was just a "friend".She heard my voice I made CLEAR she did!.He tells me I scared her off.Supposedly.If I request divorce is he entitled to pay me Alimony since he is a Cheater? Can I prove Domestic Abuse and Mental anguish?.I have been with this Man 14 years!.

Depends on the state in which you live

Submitted by OrionsBellatrix (not verified) on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 7:27am.

Dear Erika, Depending on the state in which you live you may be entitled to alimony. Domestic abuse can be grounds for divorce and restraining order (to keep him away from your or your children; or to provide for supervised visits) but you must show to the court through police reports/psychological counseling that your husband has abused you. Mental anguish means you have a difficulty functioning with daily tasks...if you have a job and have been working steadily with no signs of poor performance than you show the court that you are "functioning" and mental anguish is difficult to prove. Also, I really recommend that you seek a consultation with a reputable, female divorce attorney. The way you talk about your relationship with your husband makes me cringe that the tension in your household is unbearable. You can't change his behavior. It will only become more painful for you. It is unhealthy living in a relationship that is covered in distrust and deceit. Life is too precious and too short and it's the only one you've got. good Luck!

Is he cheating or just crazy?

Submitted by Missy (not verified) on Sat, 08/13/2011 - 9:56am.

we have been together for almost 11 years married for 10 months. for the past 4 years my husband has been accusing me of cheating on him. he only does this when he is mad about something else that has nothing to do with us or if we are haveing financial problems. i am a stay at home mom of 4 boys and if i go to the ban and make a check for 30 or 40 dollars to get something we need he goes crazy...whiy didnt you call and ask me? do you expect me to trust you? you are always steeling money from me!..I dont think i am steeling money from him. we are married, we are a family. he is not my father, i dont feel i need to ask "daddy" for money. this is when he begins to accuse me of cheating on him. then it gets to where he goes a few days without talking to me..then he is fine..he says he has proof that i have cheated, but whan i ask him to show me, he says "oh its coming just wait". I ask him if he is seeing anyone else and he says if he was he'd tell me to get the hell out. all of this has been going on for the past 4 years.....as of yesterday 8-12-2011 he came in from work not talking to me or the kids didnt eat supper, left in the night time for a while...came back at a very decent time 9:30p, stayed in the basement with his brother watching tv then went to bed at 11:30..this am, still not talking to me or the boys i ask him if he want breakfast-No- he says, do you need me to make your lunch for work today-NO- again...he said no before i could even finish the questions....so i fed the boys...he goes and makes himself a noodle cup and i ask what is wrong? he says "nothing, it is my problem". I said there is something bother you you havent talked to us and you are walikng around all frowny faced. He said you know what it is you never change you keep doing the same thing. When you had the infection the last time what was it...I have had BV-bacterial vaginosis 3 times and he thinks that it is some kind of horrible STD...that he is going to get...i tried explaing to him what it was and talking to him as before that i have never cheated on him and he got mad and threw his bowl of noodle at me and left.....I love this man, i just dont know how to get him to understand that i've never cheated on him. Either he is the cheater or someone really feeding him some BS that he is believing......what do you think?

Has your husband had an injury or is he using drugs?

Submitted by OrionsBellatrix (not verified) on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 7:42am.

Dear Missy, A couple of things really send a flag to me about your husband. He has been showing this distrusting behavior for four years and I am wondering if he had any kind of head injury around the start of his behavior? Don't know in what part of the country you live but has he ever been bitten by a tick? Lyme disease can manifest itself with paranoid/delusional behavior. As far as your husband's claim about STD and cheating print this page or show him this link about your vaginosis. http://www.cdc.gov/std/bv/STDFact-Bacterial-Vaginosis.htm. If he is cheating HE could have given it to you! Also, from the way you discuss your questions to your husband you seem overly solicitous in your behavior with makes me think you have low self esteem. Your best bet is to find some family counseling and present it to your husband as "I want to make this family work and if you want to also then you will go to counseling with me and I'll even find a male marriage counselor." Then, if he refuses to go with you, you should realize that when confronted with the truth he will back down. You need to stand up for yourself and your boys and remember that you are the example of the type of woman your sons will seek later in life. Show them what a self respecting woman is...I am so sorry that your husband ignores you and his sons. He really needs help. Good Luck!

Your husband is verbally abusing you, manipulation isn't cool

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Wed, 10/05/2011 - 1:47pm.

I suggest the book THE VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATiONSHIP by Patricia Evans. I'm not into self help stuff but this book showed me how to spot the subtle and very relationship specific abuse. I may or may not leave my husband but this book made it possible to see how if I stay I am choosing the more difficult path, and may never be truly happy. It also gave me power in a relationship where I had none. Withholding is a form of manipulation this book will end it's effect on you.

Hi there, I came across

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 08/08/2011 - 9:46pm.

Hi there, I came across this page looking for answer. I have been married to my husband for two years but just lately I noticed something different. At first he lied to me about going for a massage because his reason I might get insecure then I just let that go. One day after that, I came home late from work and the look of the apartment was so different. Well of course he isn't there because he is working at night. Anyway, that day I came home with a house cleaned, which he will never do unless we have visitor, my necklace and clothes on the top of my dresser in our bedroom has been kept and al my things on the living room is hidden. And one more thing is the bed is tidied up but its crumpled on top of it which looks like somebody rolled and lay in there. So of course I confronted humans he said nobody came then I checked his phone and everything is deleted (search history, text msg and phonecalls). My question is, is he hiding something from me? In addition to that, I caught him watching porn many times. Please give me advice. Thanks a lot.

Go with your instincts

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 11/04/2011 - 12:14am.

Massage palors are notorious for under cover prostitution. They make them look like the real deal.If you walk in, you will just get a massage, if he walks in, there are (extras) if you know what I mean. Cleaning up his phone records is another (Huge) hint. My husband did this too. He was caught cheating. Ask him to clean the house again out of the blue. Watch his reaction closely.

Phone Spy

Submitted by phone spy (not verified) on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 8:29am.

I want to share one experience here. I had this boyfriend who was really nice and romantic in the early days just like every relationship. But lately I started to notice that he was behaving kind of weird. He would make every possible effort to keep his cell phone away, if he’ll go the washroom he would take it with him instead of leaving it behind with me alone. And then one day while we were going out in his car, I saw a delicate bracelet in his glove compartment, I got really suspicious, upon asking me he just started bushing around. I was really worried and heartbroken but then one day one of my friend consoled me and encouraged me to take control of the things and I did. She told me about this smart phone mobile spy software (StealthGenie) which I bought form the internet and I spied on my boyfriend well now ex-boyfriend. I got to know that he has just been playing around. I read his messages and got to know that what big pervert and lousy character guy he was. With the help of that mobile application, StealthGenie, I located his GPS location; I caught him red-handed while he was with one of his lover cuddle and getting intimate. I didn’t see him since then. For all the ladies commenting, please girls take control; kick these liars and cheaters out of your lives, live a free and happy single life instead of worrying about someone who doesn’t even worth you.

Thank you so much I have

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 01/06/2012 - 8:00pm.

Thank you so much I have download this app...time for me to do a little investigation myself:-) Thank you soooo muucchhh!!!!!!!!

Is my hubby cheating

Submitted by lovelylady (not verified) on Fri, 07/15/2011 - 6:34am.

I've. Been married two years now and everytime I get off work my husbands phone is sitting beside him but they light is on like he just got off of it. When I ask to use his phone he gives it to me but he deletes things first. Lately he has been playing WORDFUED on his phone and he has been more intrested in it than me. I lay in the bed practically naked and NOTHING. WHENEVER HE go to a certain club he don't wwant me to go with him he always say he goin to his mom house but he ends up there. (Noticed this Friday) and he's been kinda anti social toward me all this week. What do I need to do? (Oh yeah u can CHAT on WORDFUED) maybe y'all should send him a request and flirt and let me no what happens.

This article nailed it. Good

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Tue, 07/12/2011 - 2:17pm.

This article nailed it. Good read. steve

is he cheating?

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 06/27/2011 - 2:15pm.

me and my husbands relationship started off onthe wrong foot. i met him during a time he was seperating from his first wife. we began dating,from the beginning he started off witholding things from me. well a year into our relationship i find dirty picturs from a co worker of ours sent to his phone.he says it had to do with a bet and hes sorry he made the mistake. months later i find a number i his pocket,at the time i was 5 months pregnant.took it really hard but he pleaded that he had her number for work purposes. 4 months later i give birth and it seems like everything is starting to change.he even admit once the baby was born he startd taking our relationship serious.a year and nine months later pregnant with our second child he starts acting real ugly,starting fights for no reason and would rather be workin than at home.after every argument he says if you dont like it you know what to do.he says im to controlling and he doesnt have any freedom.when he did have it he stepped all over it. what can it be? has he lost interest in us?is he cheating?am i paranoid or insecure like he says?

he is acting secretive...

Submitted by leah (not verified) on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 3:30am.

Well-iam a stay at home mom and my husband is always working. my problem is that he is always lyeing about everything even the small things he lies about. i tried to use his phone the other day and he squeezed my hand so i would not take it from him. he gets agitated and does not have good communication with me or the kids, he always wants sex from me but thats it. i never give it to him because he acts strange. he is always at work and just recently he blocked his friends from his facebook so i could not see his friends. so now i blocked my friends from him so he cannot see either. i never know what he is doing and i know there is a girl that works down the street from him that is related to a co worker of his and him and the girl are friends on facebook but i cannot get to her anymore because he blocked his friends from me. i dont know if he is cheating or wants to cheat-but i will not give him sex but i want to get a divorce because my kids and i dont deserve this from anyone. what do you'll think?

Is my husband cheating?

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 05/16/2011 - 4:54am.

My husband is always nice to me.We are married for about 11 months,he always said he loves me very much,he will always be there for me forever,and i'm the only one for him.He treated me so nicely and we don't even have an argument since we have known each other until we now,I admit we've always been good together.We already have pretty little girl,she's 1 month old plus...my husband came from work with a very nice gift...a mosses basket,cardis that were knetted,loads of different dresses for newborn...and then i asked my husband if he bought it all and then he said no, this gift is from a lady friend of mine,who worked with him and his dads before,,my husband said,she is a very close friend...then i said to him..oohh she is very generous,,she's given our child loads of things,,why did she do that?and he said,she is just very nice and maybe she likes babies...then he said to me maybe we can go to her place to say thanks to her...and then we went on her place,we bring our child with us...when we are on her place already,,i started to feel different because he already knows where this lady lives and he even know how to open the door because that door needs a password to open...and then he knows where is her room already,,it very clear for me that he's been there already before because he knows it all,,but i really love my husband so much...even though i started to suspect him that maybe his cheating..i still trust him and my feelings wont change...but one night i ask him of what's the story about that lady,,he always says she's just a friend...he said to me are you jealous sweetheart?then i said no,i just want to know about her...then he said you don't need to be jealous because why do i want her,she is old and you are young and you know that i really love you so much and we have a child already,we both do things together,i didn't go out with friends,and if im not at work im with you,and most of all nothings changed with me,and we also didn't argue...but what makes me think is that yes if he is not at work he is with me all the time,,but what if he is at work then maybe on his break time he is with this lady,,because i checked his phone,,he phone this lady on his break time,,and then it registered on his phone that this lady also phone him,,then i ask him why this lady phone him,,then he said just saying 'hi' as a friend...i really don't know what to do,,and what to believe,,is my husband cheating?is all he told me are lies?please help...i need an advice of what to do....i'll be very please if someone will give me an advice for this because i can't stop thinking about this all....thank you and god bless!!!

It doesn't sound like he is

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 6:01pm.

It doesn't sound like he is cheating, it sounds like he is just hanging out with her for companionship/ self-esteem boost. I wouldn't get mad... But if it bothers you so much, ask your husband if he can hang out with her less or cut off contact because she makes you feel uncomfortable. Doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about, though.

is my husband cheating with my friend

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Sun, 03/06/2011 - 1:21am.

Me and my husband have been togeather for 5 yrs now. But lately Im not sure what to believe. I have a friend that is my neighbor. But she is a big whore she sleeps with men while her steady boyfriend is at work. Now I'm not sure if its just because she sleeps with everybody that she comes in contact with or is it that he could really betray me. I never put nothing past anybody & I do some trust issues but even when i'm at work i think about if hes is doing something with this lady.. See i work mon -fri 8-6. He gets off at 2-4 most of the time he gets off at 300. Now I have found out that he has been calling her while we are at work and I ask him why did you call her He tells me something like oh i just wanted to see what she was doin or wanted to talk to somebody & your at work, or sometimes oh why are you juluse that im calling her. So I blow that off but heres the thing when I see her later that day she wont say anything to me about him calling her. Now I know if her man was calling me even just to talk I would tell her. So now I cant believe her. Lately he has been very moody, I came home from work one night & he was at her house but he was outside so I didnt have a promblem with well he came home yelling me & the kids and I didnt know what to think becausse we just walked through the door. Now I have no proof of it but I feel something is not right with this. What should I do?

How I caught him cheating!

Submitted by Angelicka (not verified) on Thu, 02/10/2011 - 2:20am.

I was cheated once by my ex bf (he is my ex since then hehehe). I was smart enough at that time to buy myself one of these software that track mobiles. I was suspicious already, but that day he told me a series of events that didn't really match together. So when he went for his supposedly meeting, I tracked him and located him in another part of the town. So I went there thanks to that spy software, i knew the building because we went there a few times to some parties organized by one of his female colleague (married). I gave 50$ to the security to let me in saying i want to make a surprise to my friend. I got there, the apartment door was not even locked, the lusty bastard was probably too much in a rush to get laid, so I went in with my video on on my mobile and broke into the bedroom where he was just about to release his load in her mouth. He turned and released his load all over the place. They were very surprised indeed. And I caught it all on cam hahahaha! Needless to say that he never saw me again after that day, despite the Gucci bag he sent me, a few pairs of shoes, bunches of roses, and even a nice necklace. I sold them all on eBay (except for the roses). If you suspect your man to cheat on you, just be confident. Don't think too much. Act! Take things in hand, if you are interested in this tracking soft you can always check it out there: http://bit.ly/eYzY5P (and the funny thing: I bought it with his credit card at that time hahahaha!). I highly recommend it. Go to the "crime scene"make them understand that you are not a fool, and just turn the page.You will probably get some nice presents too but don't fall for that! You deserve them. Feel free to contact me if you want more advice on that! Kisses Angelicka

smart phone mobile spy software

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Tue, 01/03/2012 - 11:59pm.

Please send me this information on purchasing this devise. I would love to find out what my husband is doing at the gym with friends until 1-2 in the morning. We have 3 kids.

Do you have an iPOD or smart

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 01/06/2012 - 8:03pm.

Do you have an iPOD or smart phone if so go to mobile spy software and download the free one after the trail you would have to purchase it for a $1 or $2 I have it and I tried it....he's here and it tracked him here.....so it works...good luck.

it's an app

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 01/06/2012 - 8:04pm.

it's an app

Infidelity

Submitted by Majorshadow (not verified) on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 5:20am.

Song Title: "What did I do?" Hear @ URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZp8u_vGgYo A song about cheating

How can I move past this?

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 12/06/2010 - 11:17am.

After 35 years of marrage I am pretty sure my husband caught an STD that is life long while in Vegas for work. It has been 2 years now and we have had sex 2 times. When he first came home he told me something was wrong and went to the Dr after usual Jock itch creams didn't work. He said the Dr told him he caught body lice from the motel sheets or robe if he had been faithfull...and he said he was. Well then he got sick..couldn't breath...but we did see that one coming as he was a smoker. So I patiently waited for a whole year...waiting for him to be well enough to be intamate with me...Well, he got better and even though we are both early 50's and things are slower then the old days I Know they aren't over. Anyway, Then I try and he says I think I have a urinary infection and found out he had been back to a DR. Now a year later he finnaly gives in to me and comes to bed with long johns and t shirt on as well as a condom ( I can not have any more kids ). Says something about urinary infection again and how he is concerned I would catch it. Presure to see a Dr is met with yes yes until he really has time then it is ok but not right now I'll call later. Supposedly there is no burning or hurting or leaking going on. I think he would be so full of puss that it would take a fire hose to put it out when he urinated at this point and I know in my heart that It has all just been a put off. This man is the love of my life and for better or for worse. I have been with him since I was 15 and in the earlier years we stuck through both of our growing pains. Our kids are grown. I am no longer atractive or at least not what I once was. Over weight, Body giving out, plain out old. I can't work anymore..... I am totally dependent on him. Should I fell gratefull he is still sticking around a supporting me or should I push for at least the right to yell scream and cry? Should I leave and move home to mommie after all these years? He comes home every night but every other weekend I belong to a card club and because we have one car I get dropped off and picked up...he NEVER answers his phone during these nights. If I give up my club I am tottaly isolated and house bound unless he takes me to eat or something. I just plain hurt! If he caught something he can share this with another woman? I truelly think he still cares about me because of little things but.....the things that really matter like intemacy are not in my life anymore.

Make your spouse your number

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 09/06/2010 - 11:41pm.

Make your spouse your number one priority. With work and kids demanding your constant attention, it's easy to cut the other adult in your life. But someday it will again just be the two of you, and you are going to conceive that you no longer really know the person sleeping beside you. Take a second each day for your mate and let them know you're thinking about them throughout the day.

He wants to try again

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Wed, 05/19/2010 - 5:56pm.

He cheated, not the first time he wants one last chance. Is it wrong to want details? I wanted to see the history on his phone and and his email. I wanted to see who he was talking to. I want to put a program on his work computer that gives me every stroke he enters, and I want full access to his cell phone. (although he will get a new throw away if he wants to) He also has to come clean with his family and go to therapy 2 times a week. Am I being unreasonable?

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No man is worth it.

Submitted by Kim (not verified) on Fri, 03/12/2010 - 9:29am.

I have been married to my husband for almost sixteen years and I can't take another day of lies. He has never told me the truth in our entire time of marriage and now I think the lies are protecting his girlfriend. I believe in marriage forever and ever, but the grim reality is it in just what you make of it and one person can't make a marriage. I have three boys with this man. I knew he lied about almost everything he tells me, but I never thought it would be a lie about another woman. Just didn't think it could happen to me. He loves me, he comes home to me every morning. He touches on me when we are together in a store and makes me feel like a stupid teenager. He can't cheat on me. Wrong!!!! Family trip to Orlando, my boys rode with my husband. At the end of the trip, my fifteen year old son tells me his dad needs to grow a set and tell me the truth. My heart was in my throat. The most horrible feeling of betrayal. He would not do this to me. I talked with him, he cried, and I took him for his word. He starts losing weight, dressing different. He tells me he is trying to get healthy. He even wore cologne. I cried a little and took him for his word. My mom owns a uniform shop. He goes with me to get some scrubs for around the house. I notice he put something in his arms and left the store. I followed him and asked about what he had. I found a xsmall top, pretty yellow. I cried and we talked and I took him for his word. Just last week, we went to the shop again and I saw him putting something up is shirt. I questioned him and he denied having anything under his arm. I went and lifted his shirt and he had a xsmall scrub top, pretty pink. I screamed a bunch, cussed him, and told him to take me home. Now I asked him for the password to the cell phone account and he tells me he will give it to me, but this won't help us. I will just cause another problem and will start checking other things. He says I will never be satisfied. I am crazy. Obviously, I guess I am. I am crazy for loving him, believing him, trusting him, sharing my most intimate secrets with him. I am not happy. I can't shake depression. I was losing weight, but with my stress level, I can't think rationally. I keep thinking things will get better and that I might be over-reacting. Not a chance. The signs are here and I am not seeing them. Is there someone that can give me some advice? I know what is right and what is wrong, but I am not good at cutting ties with someone I thought would be my life partner. I believe married should be for life. You have to make it through tough times, but with each other, that should be enough. Help, overweight, not dumb!!!!!!!

when you have a husband who

Submitted by Guest on Mon, 08/24/2009 - 8:24am.

when you have a husband who always chooses conflict with you rather than conflict with his ex-wife....what does that mean????????? he calls ME paranoid...but he has always sided with his ex over me....he callls me the 'love of his life' but in any situation (many many situations) he has always picked HER - how can i believe this man???? he wants me to belive him. am i a fool? i think i have been a fool. i have a baby with ithis man....a beautiful INNOCENT babt. WHAT SHOULD I DO? my soul is dying with this man...i have alwyas been faithful imy heart mind and body, but he has not shown me the same. help

IS MY HUSBAND CHEATING??

Submitted by BELLA (not verified) on Wed, 07/29/2009 - 12:26pm.

I been married for 3 n half yrs and i know my husband for 7 n half yrs I love my husband with all my heart but lately I felt like sometime is not right about him, my friends and family think he can be an ass hole time to time and I can related to that but in the same time he can be a sweetheart. about 2 month ago I had fight with him and we did not talk to each others for weeks and there would be a time I would come home late and he did not show that his mad or upset that I stayed late hanging out with my friends, we started talking again not that long ago and I notice something different about him that his way to nice to me and we hardly fight and he become more kind and willing to cooperate, considerate and also willing to communicate he been treating me like a princess which is a plus but there is some thing I’m not happy about him is lack of sex, we hardly have sex lately every time I come on to him he always making excuses either he don’t feel good or his tired and I confronted him if he sleep with some else or if he still attractive to me he respond is he never cheated on me and still very much attractive to me I mean he always with me on week days or weekend I mean I work 9-6pm and he work from 6:30am- 4pm he never leave my sight when we together, we used to have sex everyday at least twice a day and is not like that anymore and it really get to me I mean every time I changed in front of him he always touches me and now he don’t even care, there would be in the middle of the night he would touch me and his penis would get so hard and he won’t even have sex with me like he teasing me, I mean he been treating me so great but in the same time the sex is not there anymore. My brother notice that he change a lot and he been so nice which is I don’t know if that a good thing, I’m really worry about him cheating on me because we planning to have a family very soon and I don’t know what to do?? I mean sex is not everything but is just so weird from wanting having sex all the time and out of sudden just stop, i dont no if i being paranoid or stress Please help me……..Thank you.

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