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"House Husbands" Looking for Their Share

Maureen Dempsey • 5/14/2008
We reported a while back that more U.S. men are seeking alimony these days, and in a recent Telegraph article, it appears that British husbands are seeking financial support, as well.... read more»
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McGreeveys Head Back to Court
Naomi Dunne • 5/13/2008
It looks like Jim and Dina McGreevey are back in court this morning dealing with alimony. Yes,...
Liv Tyler and Husband Split
Maureen Dempsey • 5/12/2008
Actress Liv Tyler and musician Royston Langdon have split, says Usmagazine.com. The daughter of...
McGreeveys Reach Custody Agreement
Maureen Dempsey • 5/09/2008
Former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey and Dina Matos McGreevey reached a child custody...
Williams’ Drama-Free Divorce
Maureen Dempsey • 5/07/2008
Robin and Marsha Garces Williams have pledged to be honest, cooperative, and respectful during...
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Dangerous Writing

Getting to the deep, dark places in your mind

Elaina Goodman • 5/14/2008
On Thursday afternoons I go to a writing workshop in the basement of a local novelist's home. You've maybe read some books workshopped and developed in that basement, or seen the... read more»
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What's In a Day?
Wanda Woodard • 5/14/2008
Family. That is what holidays have traditionally been about. Father helps children celebrate Mother's Day by purchasing a card or two, flowers, a gift....
Then It Hit Me: I Need Out
Megan Thomas • 5/14/2008
I'm beginning to realize that this state of limbo just isn't going to work. A while back I decided to just disregard the feelings I had about leaving, and...
Marriage Is Not the Enemy
Faith Eggers • 5/13/2008
My uncle and his girlfriend were married yesterday. They've been together for 16 plus years. I've already taken to calling his girlfriend my aunt. It's just...

Beauty Queen (Part 2)

How I Got Through My Divorce

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6/07/2007
In this episode, Shirley Washington Lewis talks about the overwhelming self-doubt she experienced when she left her marriage. She weathered a...watch »
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6/01/2007
Beauty Queen (Part 1)
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Shirley Washington holds six beauty titles and was a Miss Black America. Here, she talks about...
5/17/2007
On Mediation
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Here, attorney Rachel Fishman Green talks about why she became a divorce mediator, the benefits...
5/08/2007
The Hypochondriac
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The decision to leave a marriage is always hard and in Amy's case, it was no different. Amy...
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The Drop-Off: Do's & Don'ts for leaving the Kids with your Ex

with Marsha Temlock

Debbie Does Divorce with Debbie Nigro
5/14/2008
If you and your Ex have joint custody, you know all about the dreaded "drop-off". But are your drop-off tactics helpful or hurtful to your...watch »
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Grown-Up, Dating Tips for the 40-Plus & Fabulous
Judith Scheffler • 5/14/2008
Shed enough tears? Done second-guessing your actions, his actions and all the "what- ifs"?   Great! Now it's time to start dating. If you're middle-aged...
From A Child Of Divorce: The Drop-Off
Vanessa • 5/14/2008
I spent over 10 years going to my Dad's House every other weekend, being picked-up on Friday and dropped off on Sunday, and if there is one thing I would...
The Day Daddy Moves Out
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From A Child Of Divorce: When Kids Know You're Divorcing

Antonio • 5/12/2008
I've said it before and I'll say it again, "kids aren't stupid" and they are very intuitive.  I never saw my parents fight or even raise their voices to each other, but I knew they... read more»
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3 Signs Your Child Knows You're Getting A Divorce
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5/12/2008
Preparing your child(ren) for divorce is a tough task. But are they already...
Peel Me An Onion, Toss Me A Decree
Cathy Meyer • 5/12/2008
In my last article, I wrote about things to consider before making the decision to divorce. This article deals with accepting and recognizing when it is...
From a Child of Divorce: How Teens Handle Divorce
A.J. • 5/09/2008
The basic and average family unit consists of one maternal unit, one paternal unit, and on average two child units. This is the way children (including...

The Drop-Off: Do's & Don'ts for leaving the Kids with your Ex

with Marsha Temlock

Debbie Does Divorce with Debbie Nigro
5/14/2008
If you and your Ex have joint custody, you know all about the dreaded "drop-off". But are your drop-off tactics helpful or hurtful to your...watch »
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The Day Daddy Moves Out
with Amy J. L. Baker
Debbie Does Divorce with Debbie Nigro
5/13/2008
When you separate or divorce, and your husband moves out, how do you...
From A Child Of Divorce: The Day Daddy Moves Out
A.J. • 5/13/2008
It was a Saturday; I remember the morning distinctly because that was when it happened. I was sat down in a big brown and cozy recliner and told by my...
5 Ways to Help Your Attorney Help You
Christina Rowe • 5/12/2008
Most of us have heard the jokes portraying lawyers as money-hungry sharks. Unfortunately some of these jokes are based on truths. As you begin this journey,...

The Drop-Off: Do's & Don'ts for leaving the Kids with your Ex

with Marsha Temlock

Debbie Does Divorce with Debbie Nigro
5/14/2008
If you and your Ex have joint custody, you know all about the dreaded "drop-off". But are your drop-off tactics helpful or hurtful to your...watch »
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Grown-Up, Dating Tips for the 40-Plus & Fabulous
Judith Scheffler • 5/14/2008
Shed enough tears? Done second-guessing your actions, his actions and all the "what- ifs"?   Great! Now it's time to start dating. If you're middle-aged...
From A Child Of Divorce: The Drop-Off
Vanessa • 5/14/2008
I spent over 10 years going to my Dad's House every other weekend, being picked-up on Friday and dropped off on Sunday, and if there is one thing I would...
Step Lightly: How Step-Moms Can Get Some Love
Marsha Temlock • 5/09/2008
Most step moms don't expect warm and fuzz Hallmark greetings this holiday. But, you can have a loving relationship with your step children. It just takes...
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Episode 24: Mother Courage
For a long time my favorite piece of literature was this play called "Mother Courage and Her Children." I couldn't really relate to the literal story (among other things, it is about war), but I loved the name. The play was written in 1939, by the German dramatist and poet Bertholt Brecht and I always remember it around this time of the year because I think on Mother's Day it is particularly apropos. This is why.
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Episode 23: Breaking The Rules
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There is nothing predictable about being in the middle of your life. I've learned that much, if I've learned anything. (Well, except for flabby upper arms....
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Episode 22: Mr. Charisma Meets Obi Wan
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It was bound to happen. The space-time continuum would suggest that it was inevitable. Like the full moon, the rising tide, like me being late for carpool...
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Episode 21: Breast Intentions
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I have to admit, my boobs have always been a big part of my life. Literally. They showed up late — I was fifteen (kind of apropos for me) but once they...