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How To Share Your Divorce News

Posted to by Maureen Wild on Sat, 01/14/2012 - 8:28am

Five years ago, one of my best friends got divorced. Her husband met another woman and left her and their two small boys. Heartbroken and alone, she and her kids moved in with my family while she tried to get her bearings. Oh, did I mention the jerk who left her was my brother?

Until then, I had never seen divorce up close and personal. Most of the people I knew were in seemingly healthy marriages. When my sister-in-law moved in, I honestly imagined that home-cooked meals, some pretty new clothes, a bedroom makeover in feminine florals and oodles of babysitting would get her right back up on her feet. After all, “she’d be better off without him after what he did to her.” She was smart, young and pretty. Why was she moping around? “Shake it off.” I thought. “Get over it and move on.”

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Can Women Have Trophy Boyfriends?

Posted to by Marilyn Stowe on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 9:07am

“Tell me,” asked Mrs Merton famously to the glamourous Debbie McGee about her well-known magician husband, “what was it that first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?”

The image of the not so stunning but very wealthy Paul Daniels flashed into everyone’s mind and the audience laughed. It’s a clever question that has stuck with me since then; every time a nubile young female is seen with an older man, the same thought goes through my mind.

Would these gorgeous very young women be hanging onto the arm of Silvio Berlusconi, Mel Gibson or Ronnie Wood — especially Ronnie Wood! — if these men lived hand-to-mouth? Would these men have the same appeal? The same charm?

I don’t think so.

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Is Sex With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Debbie Does Divorce with Lisa Steadman

Posted to by Debbie Nigro on Sat, 09/10/2011 - 7:58am

Are you contemplating sex with your ex? Well, according to Lisa Steadman — The Relationship Journalist and author of It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown — this is a bad idea! Listen in as Debbie learns why you should never go there and how to avoid the urge to do so.

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Online Dating Profile Tips for the Newly Divorced

Posted to by Allison Gamble on Wed, 08/31/2011 - 8:02am

The divorce papers have been sent. Time has passed, and you're finding yourself a little bit lonely on Friday nights. Of course, it doesn't take a psychology degree to know that dating was stressful the first time around. But what about now, when you're diving headlong into a new dating culture, scars still fading after the end of a marriage?

Why not try easing yourself in with dating online? It's low-pressure (as opposed to turning down the guy at the bar, you can just ignore his message online and spend much less time “saving this seat” for an imaginary friend that is never going to turn up), and a great ego-boost when you're feeling at your lowest.

What you like

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Post-Divorce Dating: Helping Your Children's Plight When Looking for Mr. Right

Ten beliefs and strategies

Posted to by Deborah Mecklinger on Tue, 04/05/2011 - 8:46am

Why is your child not jumping for joy when they see stars in your eyes instead of tears? After months or even years of stress, sadness, and loneliness, how can your child not be thrilled to see you out on a Saturday night instead of home alone reading the latest self help book on surviving divorce?

If your offspring is turned off by your dating, you are not alone. Your post-divorce social life is a challenge to be expected when your children are asked to smile, accept, or applaud the arrival of a guest they did not invite into their lives.

The following issues may precipitate your child’s aversion to your new diversion:

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Forget Surviving Divorce... How Did You Make It Through Valentines Day?

A Valentine's Day post-mortem

Posted to by Andrea Nemerson on Tue, 02/15/2011 - 10:19am

A few years back a colleague asked me to come up with slogan for a fundraiser he was organizing, a Valentine's Day reading of stories about awkward sex, disappointing relationships and terrible break-ups called "My Sucky Valentine."

I came up with "Sour Grapes and Bitter Chocolate: Good Writers on Bad Sex," and have never really been able to think of Valentines Day any other way since, married, single, or separated. I actually love both sour and bitter as flavors but they're not precisely the attributes most of us are looking for in a holiday.

So, Valentine's Day. Did everyone survive?

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10 Survival Tips To Navigate Valentine's Day as a Divorced Woman

Posted to by Naomi Dunne on Thu, 02/10/2011 - 4:47pm

Here it comes... Hallmark's nod to love. Valentine's Day is hard enough when you're coupled — talk about pressure! — but when you're going through a divorce or somewhere on the other side of a divorce, it's a sneak peek into hell.

How to survive it? Here are some dos and don'ts:

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