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5 Tips to Successful Independence After Divorce

Why you need to learn to say NO more often

Posted to by Naomi Dunne on Wed, 09/01/2010 - 10:09am

If you're anything like every other working divorced mother on the planet, you have too much on your plate.

You also have a really, really hard time saying no.

For a while after a divorce, when we have nothing better to do or we're trying to make friends or build our career, being asked to do things for other people makes us feel needed and wanted. It's wonderful to feel like you're an important part of other people's lives. Eventually, though, it gets tiring. Eventually, you've said yes too many times, leaving you focussed on anything but regaining control of your life after your divorce.

Eventually, you need to stop.

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The Effects Of Divorce on Adult Children

an exclusive series of articles written by children of divorce

Posted to by First Wives World on Sun, 08/29/2010 - 4:04am

Now that you’re “Divorced with Kids” instead of “Married with Children”, do you find yourself blaming your divorce for every little quirk in your kid's personality? More importantly, does your kid?

If you could climb into a time machine and travel to the future to find out from your kids just how much you think the divorce might have SCREWED them up, would you do it?

Well, while we don't have a time machine, here’s what we can offer: A panel of grown kids who—GASP—actually survived their parents’ divorce to provide us with a unique brand of expert insight on divorce: What helped them, what could have been better, and what just “totally sucked”.

Strap yourselves in and join Alyssa, A.J., Antonio, Vanessa, and Justin as they journey back to their parents’ divorces. Perhaps you'll see your life (and your kids) reflected in theirs. Or perhaps you'll just see a glimmer of hope through our small portal to the future.

From Children of Divorce:

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4 Tips for Erasing Post-Divorce Anxiety

Posted to by Laura Campbell on Sat, 08/14/2010 - 1:42pm

I simply can’t believe it is August already!  I wish I could simply slow down time!

I don’t know about you but when I turn the page on the calendar to August, I immediately begin to feel a little bit stressed, anxious, overwhelmed and as if my time is running out.

I embrace the slower pace of summer and so that little word, “August”, implies that summer is nearing its end that the fall is coming.  And, while I love the fall and the opportunity to start anew, it also brings with it:

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Reclaim Your Personal Power After Divorce

Posted to by Dr. Fern Kazlow on Fri, 08/06/2010 - 9:45am

Giving away our power and authority is something we learn early in life. Milestones in our life, including divorce, offer an excellent opportunity to reclaim it.

When I was asked to write for Firstwivesworld, I was excited to connect with you and share my passion — helping you create the financial success, the fun, freedom, and fulfillment you desire.

While I have helped tens of thousands of people do this, and have the professional credentials to do so, claiming my own authority is my most important qualification. And as necessary as it has been for helping me to create my life, finding and owning your authority will help you create yours.

It All Began On An Elevator

One of my most crucial life lessons began innocently enough in an elevator with a close friend when I was in my late twenties. The door to the elevator had closed and we weren't moving. Elaine said to me, "You didn't press the button." I nodded, mumbled, and pressed the button.

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When You Need a Man…

Posted to by Sharon McCormick on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 1:00am

Going through a divorce is hard, even if it’s something you wanted. Buying a new house or trying to maintain the one you have, solo, is scary. So many things can go wrong — but you already know that! And the last thing you want to do is call your ex for help.

Make finding a reliable, trusted, creative handyman a priority. Don’t wait for the first thing to go wrong. Having him “in your pocket” will give you great peace of mind. My handyman’s motto is “When things go wrong, call Don.” And I do. He’s on speed dial.

Word of mouth is the best way to find your new guy. Ask your realtor, neighbors, co-workers, senior citizens, single women and inept men who they use. Name drop when you call your prospects — tell them who referred you and you’ll probably get a faster response.

Interview a few handymen. Look for experience, creativity and integrity. Do you feel comfortable leaving this man your key? Start small, and trust your instincts. Ask him to hang some towel bars, replace a cracked tile and fix that leaky faucet. If that goes well, you may be on to something!

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Mastering the Instability of Divorce

Posted to by Laura Campbell on Thu, 07/29/2010 - 9:55am

Just a short time ago, I was actively seeking out women going through separation and divorce, or as I frequently say, going through a life transition.

I realize now though, that everyone is going through a “life transition”….especially given the recent economic challenges.

In some ways, this is comforting because even if it is not the transition of a divorce, anyone going through a major transition is managing an unstable time.  What makes divorce different is that it is a catalyst for change in EVERY area of your life.

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Sex After Divorce

Debbie Does Divorce with Pepper Schwartz

Posted to by Debbie Nigro on Sun, 07/25/2010 - 9:00am

Are you finding it difficult to imagine yourself engaging in an intimate relationship after your divorce? Listen in as Relationship Expert Pepper Schwartz explains to Debbie the importance of reclaiming your womanliness, your sexuality and your bliss in life and how to go about doing it without feeling too vulnerable.

Click the following to return to the directory for Sex and Dating Post Divorce

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