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Divorce can be overwhelming, confusing, emotionally wrought and downright terrifying, with so much to consider and too much to do. We know having the right information at the right time is critical to you, so we've organized all of our resource content into a simple directory to provide you quick, easy access to all the tools you need to make informed and powerful choices.

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Sex and Astrology: The Top 10 Hot Astrological Matches

Are Aries and Scorpio a good love match?

Posted to by Constance Stellas on Sun, 03/14/2010 - 8:04am

Many times people ask me what sign is romantically compatible with their sign. They tell me they're not supposed to get along with Aries (or some other sign) but they've had relationships with Aries for years, am I wrong?

The "answer" lies in understanding your whole chart and for that you should get your chart read by a good astrologer. In terms of lust and romance, the sign that your Venus and Mars was in when you were born may hold some clues for happiness between the sheets, as well as in love. Or your moon sign may call out to another's moon and your emotions feel in sync. It's more complicated than just saying that Cancerians are a good match for you, or conversely that all relationships with Scorpio are bad matches. Self-knowledge is the key.

However, we live in a fast-paced society and people may not want to take the time to understand their whole chart. There's a simplified way to determine what signs work for you in terms of overall communication — that is, between the sheets, talking, dating or planning a life together.

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Steps to Managing Stress Through Divorce

Posted to by Felicia Brown on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 9:48am

Life can seem pretty harsh after a divorce or separation. It feels as though every new, stressful situation is about to send you over the edge.

So what can you do about it? Maybe you're used to writing a "to do" list of tasks to turn things around. But have you ever thought about making a list of how to make things worse at the same time?

Yes, it sounds crazy. But this kind of journaling can be a fun attitude adjustment, giving you a healthy new perspective about the issues at hand. Plus, it increases your awareness level.

Once you take pen to paper, you will gradually begin to see more clearly. You may be surprised to find that you've been stuck in a holding pattern of anxiety — worrying, but doing little else to solve your problems. Your "better and worse" list will reveal tangible proof that, instead of just feeling sorry for yourself, you can take actionable steps toward change.

Here are a few examples:

 

FINANCIAL WORRIES

I can make my finances better by:

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The Legal Rights Of Step-Parents

Debbie Does Divorce with Susan Reach Winters

Posted to by Debbie Nigro on Thu, 03/11/2010 - 8:35am

Do you know who really has legal rights over step-children? From signing report cards to drafting a will, legal expert Susan Reach Winters has some surprising answers in her informative chat with Debbie.

Click the following to return a directory of articles and resource videos on Kids, Family and Divorce.

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Carpe Dreaming: Thoughts on Living for Today

Posted to by Maryanne Comaroto on Tue, 03/09/2010 - 12:06pm

I hear fire engines roaring through the valley where I live. I feel the sense of survival rush through my body and privately hope the rescue crew gets to whoever needs them in time. I send my ritual blessing into the ethers and then randomly wonder why sometimes it takes a crisis for us to wake up, to really Carpe Diem.

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“The Marriage Ref” Almost Nails it

Posted to by Dr. Bonnie Eake... on Sun, 03/07/2010 - 9:44am

I recently watched "The Marriage Ref", which premiered earlier this month. According to Wikipedia, the premise of the show involves real life couples who have been having an on-going fight for a long time. A video clip is shown to the three-member celebrity panel, showing both sides of the argument. The panel then discuss the merits of each side of the argument and vote on who they think is right. 

While this show is one of the funniest I've seen in a long time and aims to do the right thing – give both sides a voice and listen to each argument – it doesn't necessarily translate into creating change or fostering the proper habits for the couple. It starts to play off of what I call “Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue,” but they were not able to define and enact these skills.  The Smart Heart Skills were validated but undone by the actors doing cheerleading into each other being right and wrong.  Smart heart skills are not about being right and wrong as opposed to "walking in the others' shoes" and making the person feel safe. 

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Networking For Business Success

3 Post-Divorce Tips

Posted to by Ja-Nae Duane on Fri, 03/05/2010 - 2:42pm

When a woman comes out of something like divorce, her entire world changes. That is why it is imperative to have a supportive community to help you along the way. This advice is especially true for recently divorced entrepreneurs.

Can you imagine trying to rebuild your life as you build your business? Well, what a better time to reach out to those within your circle! Here is how you can do just that:

1. Create a list of the people within your inner business circle (sometimes different from your personal circle). Then make a list of friends and colleagues who are not on that inner circle list, but you still feel comfortable reaching out to.

2. Make a list of your wants and needs. This list could have anything from babysitting to new clients. It doesn't matter if the list includes a haircut, office supplies, networking opportunities or a car. Find out what it is that you now need to continue your journey to success.

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The Dark Side: How Teens Handle Divorce

Posted to by Susan Epstein on Thu, 03/04/2010 - 8:24am

It is a common misconception that, following divorce, teenagers become more self-sufficient and independent. The real truth is that teens often times appear that way, and their parents see this as license to back off and give them too much space, freedom, and not enough supervision and family time. The real danger is that teens can and will deal with divorce in potentially much more self destructive ways than younger children.

Has your teen...

• isolated herself?

•  stopped talking to you altogether?

•  developed a "whatever" attitude?

•  started skipping school and/or grades are plummeting?

•  begun hiding evidence of doing drugs or alcohol?

Or...

•  does he keep saying "Get the &%$# off my back, Mom?"

•  has he pushed or hit someone in the house?

•  is he showing signs of stress like: angry outbursts, talking back and swearing?

•  is he so angry and so out of control that you are scared of him?

And do you sometimes wonder to yourself that he will turn into an ax murderer?

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