How To Deal With Your Child's Divorce

It's good that someone's addressing this topic. I am the 2nd wife, and though my MIL didn't hang on to the ex-wife, she was not supportive of me and our struggles with the ex-wife. She claimed to my DH that she "didn't like conflict". Oh well, everyone has to deal with it! But she didn't. She put the same pressures on our marriage as she did in the 1st. DH is very much a mama's boy, and she had tons of social events that she wanted us to attend, to make her look good. I went along with this for awhile. After a few years, I didn't feel I needed to be her little puppet at these events, and decided not to participate. It caused a lot of animosity with my DH. She was not supportive of us; talked behind our backs; had the sisters-in-law turned against me. And the only thing I did was not attend her events! Grandparents are not always wise. Your children are not there to make you look good. Only when our jobs were moved did the situation get better, because she couldn't demand (and my DH acquiesce) to every demand to join this organization or go to her friends' parties. She recently died, and I feel somewhat liberated, that I will never have to deal with this again! At least I hope. But, having gone through this, with the divorce rate higher for 2nd families, the grandmother, especially, should be supportive of the new family. It was very stressful dealing with SD and ex-wife, and then I had this MIL, too, ugh! Too many demanding women.