And You Thought Your Split Was Messy?

Posted to House Bloggers by Naomi Dunne on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 11:11am

I freely admit that this is not my own story. It's my nanny's story, but it's so good that I couldn't help but pass it along.

Linda had been married for about 10 years, suffering from numerous health problems and their resulting fertility issues. She lived in a place where the services of a fertility specialist were not free like they are in Canada, so Linda and her husband had to save up for a long time to see a doctor. They both worked extra hours and picked up occasional second jobs to pay for the privilege of maybe getting pregnant.

After eight months of trying, they decided to give the whole thing a break for a while to give Linda's body the chance to recuperate. One day, Linda's fertility specialist called her in for an appointment on her own. Without a clue what could possibly require a solo visit, Linda dutifully went along.

When she arrived, she noticed the doctor was pregnant. When she congratulated her on her pregnancy, there was an awkward silence. It turned out the baby was Linda's husband's. The doctor didn't like being the bearer of bad news, but Linda's husband would be leaving her and marrying the doctor instead.

By the time Linda got home, her husband's things were gone.

It's so easy to think that our divorce is the worst divorce, the hardest divorce, the most acrimonious divorce. Sometimes, though, we hear someone's story and it makes us gasp out loud. Do you have any stories like this one? How are your friends coping?

Comments

AGAINST THE LAW!!!

Submitted by mayberryangel (not verified) on Mon, 04/30/2012 - 7:18pm.

I practice medicine and I can tell you I don't care what state she practices in she should be reported to the board of education in the state in which she resides. Her malpractice insurance will not cover her for this I can assure you that!. It will come out of her pocket to try and defend herself and she will lose her license period. She is not fit to practice medicine. This is a CLEAR violation of the ethics code. Please, please turn her in. She is not stable, she is not in a position to practice medicine. She will do harm. If she is like this to woman to begin with can you imagine if she just doesn't like a woman she might sabotage her care into not getting pregnant. That is deplorable. We all know as woman what a traumatic experience infertility is to begin with. What happens if she just thinks "oh she's prettier than me" perhaps and strings her along and in the end no baby just more emotional turmoil. Would you want any family member of yours or your fellow sister to be under the care of this very, very sick individual. God help us all.....

I hope this doctor was

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Sun, 12/18/2011 - 10:37am.

I hope this doctor was reported to the authorities! She should be brought up on ethics charges! This *has* to be against the rules of patient/client relationship!

Mess

Submitted by PJA (not verified) on Fri, 08/19/2011 - 12:09am.

My situation is certainly messy. Messier than many. But nothing like that. Not even sure how to respond to that. Just OMG!

One word...

Submitted by Michelle Hill (not verified) on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 10:19pm.

...Bitch!

well, every story of divorce

Submitted by DOLA (not verified) on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 9:44pm.

well, every story of divorce is a horrendous story of breaking of dreams--of too much expectation from the other partner, of breach of trust, of the feeling that nobody on this earth is ur own xcept u urself.i got married in 2009. my parents arranged the marrij as happens in the eastern cuntries like INDIA. i had not known the man b4 marrij. after marriage, from the very 1st hour of my reaching my in-laws house, they started pointing out my mistakes in everything as if they had xpected some perfect robot & not a living , breathin human being. my husband treated me like a servant hu wud do all the all the household chores while he wud loll on the sofa. wen askt 2 help, he wud b telling me that male-chauvinistic piggish statement--"I AM A MAN. I AM NOT SUPPOSED TO DO THESE HOUSEHOLD CHORES."things didnt stop here. he was a thorough drunkard & used 2 come home drunk everyday.his language after he came home is not worthy of sharing.he started insulting my parents over everything.my mom-in-law always joined in this.i remember wen we hd gone on a honeymoon,he insulted me on anything & everything in front of his frend & his wife hu hd accompanied us on our tour.our physical relations turned sour & the moment he touched me, i used 2 feel irritated.after we came back, my mom-in-law.i dont know 4 wat reason, started having the insecurity that her son was going out of her hands. so she decided 2 instigate him against him on every flimsy issue which my husband was foolish & wicked enough 2 believe.last i remember, he had used physical force against me which was not possible 4 me 2 bear.it was then that i decided 2 part ways. i informed my mom that i was coming back 2 them 4 ever.things ended 4 me,after that i got a divorce. but even now i am shy & hesitant 2 talk 2 guys & i feel that this thorough gentleman in the bedroom will also turn in2 a beast wen the doors r closed.neither can i bring myself 2 believe in the fact i can b happier single nor can i settle down with sumbody so easily. so every divorce story is the story of A SHATTERED MIND.

I am sorry to hear about your

Submitted by Steve (not verified) on Tue, 08/09/2011 - 10:29pm.

I am sorry to hear about your experience. Make sure next time you get in a relationship that it is YOUR choice and no one else's. Be true to yourself, and don't be afraid to approach anyone. Have confidence in yourself to go for what YOU want, not what some else wants. This may be your only life, so make the best of it. There are plenty of men out there that will treat you the way you should be treated, don't let this fool taint your impressions otherwise.

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