In the ongoing saga of the Gosselin divorce, we "divorcees" all see a little bit of our own failed relationships. There are always two sides to every story, and I so make no judgments and take no sides, feeling only sad for Jon and Kate as I watch each come and go to take the temporary parenting helm for their 8 kids. Can't even imagine the pressure of handling 8 small kids solo.
John Gosselin is now opening up about the divorce and the other day I heard him say he was “verbally abused”. Again, I'm not taking sides, but I do want to comment on the reality of “verbal abuse”. Sounds “lite” in comparison to physical abuse, but it's not. It's heavy.
You see, it's about a mind getting beat up and self esteem getting beat down. It's debilitating, mind boggling, painful and paralyzing. It's usually too humiliating and embarrassing to discuss with anyone. It can wear you out to the point of insanity.
In a way, verbal abuse is weirder than physical abuse, because words are invisible and no one outside the relationship can spot the “marks.”
Men — Please pay attention to this genius of a guy who put a rose at his wife's bedside every day for 60 years. He figured out the formula for a long and happy marriage!!
So, Quick: Go cancel your cable or whatever and transfer those funds to your florist. Give your wife a rose a day and you will live happily ever after!
I tell all the guys — over and over and over again — It's SOOO simple to make a woman happy. Little gestures that make a woman feel adored and desired will keep a flame burning in a relationship!!!
You must remind your woman that she is the absolute object of your affection OFTEN! Every single day is not overload.
Trust me — anything less could be considered underload.
Women suffer from 'relationship amnesia' when it comes to the 'good stuff.' The bad stuff, on the other hand, they NEVER forget. Sorry.
A woman needs to be reminded OFTEN that she is still the most beautiful and desired woman to YOU!
My grown daughter just notified me that my neurotic weather warnings have officially made her... neurotic.
I'll admit I overdo it a TAD once in awhile. She'll point out the time I made her and her boyfriend hustle with me and a flashlight to the ground floor gym in our condo, when the TV weather flashed tornado warnings. They slouched against the treadmill shaking their heads at me. No one else in the building flinched.
Suburban New York tornadoes are a rarity, but show me a red flashing tornado alert on my flatscreen and I'm yellin' Auntie Em!
So last night, my daughter (who never goes out to clubs in NYC) went to a club for her boyfriend's sister's birthday. I'm extra wound up when she's out on the road late. Usually I'm home alone, solo, trying to keep myself awake 'til she's safely back in town.
Last night, I'm at the computer mourning Michael Jackson through the online recap of his tribute, when thunder, wild lightning, and what felt like a tornado, was blowing by.
I googled local dopplar radar and OMG! A tornado warning was issued for my town.
I keep thinking about Michael Jackson’s family and the pain they must all be in. The sudden loss of a Dad to young kids is especially terrifying. Michael Jackson’s kids are 12, 11, and 7. A girl and two boys raised by their Dad, a single parent.
You can only know what a Dad’s sudden death feels like if you’ve felt it. With permission from my 12-year-old nephew Stephen, I will share something he recently wrote in school for Fathers Day about his Dad's sudden death 4 years ago.
My brother Stephen died suddenly at 40. Stephen Jr. and his twin sister Sydney were 8, and their brother Dean was 7. My sister-in-law Susan has since remarried a lovely divorced father named Gary. I was outside in the driveway that tragic day when the cops pulled up, heartbroken for the three little faces inside pressed up against the window.
TLC announced today that production has been halted on Jon & Kate Plus 8 following the Gosselins' Monday revelation that they're splitting up. As a founding partner of Firstwivesworld.com, I want TLC to continue the ''reality" of what really happens when two people with kids decide to call it quits.
According to the LA Times, the network made the decision to halt production, not the family. Hmmm, the network signed on for a reality show about a couple raising 8 small kids, knowing full well that reality shows often cause divorce, and now they're surprised?
Only six episodes of the 40-episode season have aired. Through tears on Monday's show, Kate declared "the show must go on!"
If anyone could feel the Gosselin's pain on TV last night, it's we, the women of First Wives World. Jon and Kate Gosselin of the TLC reality show Jon & Kate Plus 8 are getting a divorce after ten years of marriage.
No doubt about it, divorce is tough stuff. Divorce is a broken dream that sometimes cracks before it blows up. And time, fame, and money often change the marital thought process. Women used to stay in bad marriages because financially they couldn't get out. Now, strong, unfulfilled women with cash make bolder choices — like to have affairs to get through the limbo. Husbands who can't win — privately, or not so privately — bust out too.
These are adult reactions to a slow-stewing marital stalemate without hurting the kids.
Yes Kate, it's sometimes easier to keep the lie going and sneak a little romance to get through, but sooner or later someone needs to call it. It seems to me you likely didn't think Jon would. But he did.
