My husband's affair and our divorce happened so quickly (within four months-long story), that my healing through the healthy release of my anger is still very knew. When things moved so quickly, my head was spinning on what I wanted to do, that I did not always express my anger about things that were going on as deeply as I would like to. I knew that after my divorce (which was official this past May) I would make the healthy release of my anger a priority. So, I bought a pink (yes, pink) punching bag that I put in my garage, having been exercising most days, I allow myself to cry when I know it is deep stuff coming up, I scream in my car and at home, etc. I guess the thing at this point that makes me the most angry is no longer his actually infidelity and the way he treated me, but the fact that I now have to dig really deep to trust myself and especially trust future intimate partners and to have to enter the dating field at some point. This stuff just REALLY pisses me off. But, I am good at turning the messages I have about this to the fact that I stood up for myself many times, including the day we went to the courthouse, and that the day I went through the divorce was the proudest of my life so far. Thus, I will be even better in future relationships to make choices that truly meet with my wants and needs, when I think I did not do this in some ways when I dated and was married to my husband.