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My poor cousin Dan. A middle-aged joker with a surprising spiritual bent, he'd been single a long time when he met… well, let's call her Lynn. It was great, he said, to be intimate with someone again. They saw each other every day, and within a couple months they were living together. But even on their first date, Dan remembers, there were signs: all the talk about the Lexus or Infiniti she wanted; all that food she ordered and didn't eat. Nevertheless, he felt good about the agreed-upon plan for sharing his place, which he owned. Lynn would pay $500 for rent, about half of what she'd been paying on her own, and they'd split everything else.

Within a year, though, things changed. The first time Lynn said she had no money to contribute that month—despite her midlevel job for a heath insurer that had her jetting around the Pacific Northwest—Dan said it was fine. "Stuff like that happens," he told her. "Just don't make a habit of it." But she did, all the while coming up with unconvincing excuses involving travel reimbursements that never showed up. "I thought, is she doing drugs?" Dan remembers. "Gambling? No, that wasn't her style. I'd beg her to give me a good reason. I wanted a reason more than I wanted the $500."

In the end, he called it quits, and, in the process, learned the truth: For years, while her debts mounted, Lynn had been buying things—mostly clothes, which she'd pack away and never wear. When she finally moved out of Dan's house, he found six fur coats stored in one closet. Another room was full of brand-new items of all kinds, "literally from the floor to the ceiling." She never came back to pick it all up.

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  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 06 July 2009 02:45 posted by Guest

    Divorce Counseling: This is really a great post. As Dan said "I wanted a reason more than I wanted the $500" means he is emotionally attached to her and totally faithful and loyal to her. Sometimes one partner falls in to mental health illness due to such cheating behavior of their partners, which Dan was never expected from her. but the great thing tings is that both of them was sharing every expenses so from starting Dan is not that much emotionally attached to her. One of my friend was also got cheated by their partner. And after that he falls in to depression and started taking drugs and alcohol. he really wouldn't accept such a behavior from their spouse, his condition was getting so much worse day by day and he told me that he don't want her back in her life. Then I suggested him to take divorce and I helped him to admit in divorce counseling, where he got the individual therapy session and some psychotherapy treatment for their behavior modification. Nowadays he is single but living happily with his seven year old daughter.