In my view, finding the best dating site has much less to do with being a divorced woman than with avoiding overwhelm and considering factors other than marital history. Here are my picks:
www.match.com: Match is still the biggest site, with the best brand recognition — everybody knows about it, it's where most people start, meaning the biggest pool of available men. Online dating is largely a numbers game — at the beginning, you need a lot of options. Match is easy to use, relatively inexpensive, has great links to advice, and you can access Dr. Phil if you want for $10 extra a month. If you don't find someone in six months, and you follow the site's administrative rules, you get another six months free.
www.chemistry.com: This site suggests matches for you, by way of an exhaustive personality profile — you fill it out, and the computer scientifically finds potential partners. The jury is still out about whether this system works better than your own instinct, but as a secondary site, I think it's a good idea - why not put modern technology to work on your romantic behalf? There are other sites offering similar services, but I like this one because it serves everyone, regardless of sexual orientation.
A niche site that caters to what you consider a contract breaker — common ones are religion, ethnicity, even medical conditions. To find the right one for you, Google the word "dating" plus "Catholic" or "Korean" or "herpes" (obviously, this list is endless).
A niche site that caters to something you love — like pets, cycling, Democrats, running. Ditto the Google strategy detailed above. It stands to reason that a pool of people who share a passionate avocation could produce a great match.
www.nerve.com: I make this suggestion from personal preference — it's a good mainstream site, which seems to have more than its share of edgier people. I like edge, so if you're like me, it's worth a try.
It is really unnecessary to use more than one site — and it may keep you more organized and less confused not to. Your call. There's a lot of overlap between the sites, given so many people use more than one — if you sign up for several sites, you'll be seeing a lot of the same people!
Three More Great Links for Online Dating:
Evan Mark Katz is a competitor, though I suspect his demographic is younger and "maler". Regardless, I'm always happy to recommend this blog. Evan gives excellent, well-written, thoughtful, honest, sympathetic advice and a man's perspective is incredibly helpful, regardless of age.
Look Better Online: Wherever you live, you can find a photographer to produce affordable, clear photos. Obviously, take the time to thoroughly research the choices in your area, and look at the photographer's portfolio carefully before making a choice. Several of my clients in far-flung locations have been very happy with photos obtained through this site. Always read the tips about preparing for the shoot, and if at all possible, hire the makeup and hair person (it's totally worth it, unless you're a pro). Even if you're the "natural" type, a little well-applied makeup and a professionally-wielded hairbrush will make your features "pop" for the camera.
Have fun clicking around - just don't forget to take regular breaks for live, in-person dating!
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