We all give lawyers a hard time, especially divorce lawyers. But I thought it was interesting to read some insights from an attorney who specializes in divorce issues.
The Chicago Sun-Times interviewed Jim Hennenhoefer, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, an organization is based in Chicago, and much of what he had to say wasn't too surprising, but there were a few things that caught my eye:
- There's a surge of new divorces right after the first of the year. Everyone wants to just get through the holiday season with as few headaches as possible.
- Someone claims infidelity in 60 percent of divorces. Apparently there's a whole lot of cheating going on. Think about this for a second. About 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. And this guy says there is marital infidelity in 60 percent of those. If my math is right, that means that there's someone cheating in roughly one-third of all marriages. Yikes!
- Women most typically cite infidelity and alcohol or drug abuse as reasons for seeking a divorce. Men say they seek divorces because their wives spend too much money or are mean to them. Yeah, that's us, a bunch of big meanies!
- Divorces end up costing a lot more if you let your ego and anger get in the way. If you need a lawyer to fight for what you deserve, make sure that's all your fighting for. If you get vindictive, you're going to pay for it in legal fees.
- "Anybody who handles their own divorce is crazy." The guy is the head of a divorce lawyer's organization. What did you expect him to say? I think you're always better off going through mediation or collaborative divorce, but not every divorce can be handled that way.
- He's a lawyer, not a counselor. I thought this one was interesting. You expect your lawyer to be on your side and fight for you and have your back. But he's not a therapist. More than often, people forget this fact and it ends up costing you. If you need a therapist, you should find one. It sounds a little cold-hearted, but something you should keep in mind.