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What can we learn from serial celebrity break-ups, billionaire bust-ups, misbehaving spouses, pants-on challenged politicos and the ever-shifting landscape of divorce law? Question is, "What CAN'T we learn"? With latte in hand and clicky finger at the ready, dive in for the best in divorce news, views, gossip, and buzz – assembled below for your reading pleasure.

Dynasty actress Diahann Carroll learned the hard way why so few married men marry their mistress. Surprise, surprise, men can lie while they are lying in your arms.

In her tell-all book, The Legs Are the Last to Go, Caroll admits that Oscar-winner Sidney Poitier had promised to leave his wife for her — and then cruelly double-crossed her.

As the New York Post reports, Carroll, TV's first black sitcom star in Julia, portrays Poitier as a heel who convinced her and first hubby Monte Kay to divorce; she says Poitier confronted Kay, saying he loved Carroll and was splitting from his wife to be with her. But Poitier then broke his promise, prompting her to date another man in frustration, Carroll charges.

According to her book, "Sidney called me at my hotel... 'You bitch, whore, tramp,' he yelled. 'I know he just left your bed. I won't have you running around with other men. You belong to me!' "

Things got worse when, she says, Poitier told her he'd finally called it quits with his wife, Juanita Hardy, bought her a ring, and had her decorate a 10-room Riverside Drive apartment he'd bought.

"I was only home a few days when he called to say his wife was having second thoughts. Our wedding plans would have to be postponed," Carroll writes. "When the apartment was ready and I was about to move my daughter in with me, Sidney told me he didn't want her there... He changed the locks so I couldn't get in. Then he made me write him a check to offset his purchase and decorating costs. I did as I was told, submissive and desperate."

Poitier, who had no comment on the book, would go on to wed actress Joanna Shimkus, while Carroll married three more times, her last husband being singer Vic Damone.

"Sidney and I are now friends. That's a lovely thing that comes as you age — forgiveness and perhaps a relaxing of standards," Carroll writes.

She notes that, at the age of 73, "I'm told I look pretty good for my age, with, I am ashamed to admit, a little help from my plastic surgeon."

The book, from Amistad, hits stores next week.

But this story should be a cautionary tale for any woman.

We have heard countless stories about infidelity and how men will carouse at bars or cozy up to someone at work and, with a “hurt boy” pout, complain about their wives.

"She doesn't understand me," "She only cares about the kids," "I want to get a divorce and I'm about to get separated," are the most common laments.

But what often happens, as Carroll openly admits, is that they start a sexual relationship and rarely relinquish the wedding ring.

The bottom line is stay away form married men and you won't be burned. There are plenty of men out there who are single, available, and actually divorced.

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