Guys use sex to reduce the increased pressure in their lives. With the Dow dipping, no prob if they were turning to wives and girlfriends. But according to a New York Daily News story, they’re down and getting down with sources of gratification that are potential trouble — with a capital T.
On lunch hours they are visiting massage parlors. They are hiring prostitutes. They are going to strip clubs after work. And they are indulging in Internet porn, sometimes at their office computers… and getting caught. They are becoming addicted to sex to relieve their stress.
In a tight job market, this is not an appealing thing to have in one’s file. Most of the men, by the way, are married.
In the Daily News story, psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert reports a jump in sex-addicted men at his Manhattan practice in the past six months.
"Since early spring, maybe late winter, there's just been an increase, and I believe it might have something to do with the economy," he says. "A lot of the Wall Streeters use sex as a way to cope with stress. Bankers do tend to rely on pretty unhealthy ways of coping with stress — drugs, sex.
"A lot of them will use adult services," Alpert adds. "Some of them come right out and say, 'I'm stressed. This is how I deal with it. It's not the worst thing in the world. I'm not using drugs.' But when it starts to increase, then it's a problem."
How do these testosterone titans practice safe sex? According to Alpert, they consider going to an Asian massage parlor to be permissible. To some, as long as they don’t go all the way, being masturbated doesn’t count as cheating.
Others say that escort services and strip clubs will always prosper during lean times. But listen, boys, infidelity is a big risk to your marriage and not worth it.
Ladies, be aware if your guy is spending too much time hidden away in a dark room and on the computer. An excess of on-line porn numbs feelings, distorts views of women, and turns them into sex objects instead of confidantes.
If business is bad, and the stock market is down, and your 401 K plans are showing negative numbers, what he needs is his wife, a confidant, not a computer screen or a sexy masseuse.
Talking is a great release and could be foreplay to something just as good.