It’s a case of “She Said, He Said.” Last week, Meg Ryan dished about the reasons for her divorce from Dennis Quaid while she was promoting her film The Women, in which she plays a scorned wife.
This week, Quaid returns fire. And this is, mind you, about a divorce that happened eight years ago.
In promoting The Women, Ryan told In Style magazine and ABC News that the reason for her divorce was not her affair with Russell Crowe but because Quaid had been unfaithful first and for a long time.
“I find it unbelievable that Meg continues publicly to rehash and rewrite the story of our relationship,” Quaid told Rush & Molloy. “Also, I find it regrettable that our son, Jack, has to be reminded in a public way of the turmoil and pain that every child feels in a divorce."
Quaid has a point. It is a no-no to badmouth your ex in public, because the child, who wants to get along with both parents, feels helpless and conflicted. It also reopens their own wounds, which seriously affects a child, even one Jack’s age, 16.
When an affair has occurred, it rocks a kid's sense of trust.
A deep betrayal has murdered the child’s image of his family. He now has to reconsider his perception of his father and mother and wonder if they might betray his trust too.
Luckily, time does heal those wounds as the parents prove that their love for him is unchanged.
Sometimes kids also see that, with new partners, their parents are truly in love. Luckily for Quaid, he is now happily married to real estate agent Kimberly Buffington and they had twins last November. By all reports, their marriage is solid and loving.
Meg has moved on and adopted a daughter.
So Jack's world has expanded to include a bigger family to love him and share good times.
However, he might deserve an apology from both parents for airing the family's dirty laundry in public. Perhaps the dialogue could start, “Sometimes you have two good people who aren't good together, and we just proved that, but we still really love you.”