Some call it karma or comeuppence, or stars colliding but not in your favor: Sienna Miller's romance with "Brothers and Sisters" star Balthazar Getty now seems over. Sources say that Getty was stalling getting the divorce he had promised, and now the relationship is over.
Although his representative released the standard defensive, that the actor had had problems in his relationship before this happened and he and his wife were in the midst of separating, the news came a shock to his wife, Rosetta.
In the past four months, Rosetta has played it smart by building her own life away from her husband but still welcoming him to share the children's birthdays and school events. This allowed him to see what he was missing while the novelty of something new perhaps wore off with the ho-hum of everyday life. Plus, it's hard to be involved in a relationship that so many disapprove of, something the couple faced on a daily basis. Getty complained about the intrusiveness of the press, calling it "dangerous."
Last weekend, Miller acknowledged to Us Magazine that it's "nice not to have a relationship that the press constantly want to scrutinize."
Well Sienna, the press wouldn't be scrutinizing it as much if you were not with a married man.
Also, best as an actress not to be strutting around topless on a boat, since paparazzi have zoom lenses. The pictures of the two frolicking ricocheted all over the world. Miller reportedly later sued the photo agency but so far there has been no settlement.
Despite the lawsuit, the press follows her like a swarm of bees.
Miller's complicated personal life has also impacted her career. She was set to be in Guy Ritchie's film about Sherlock Holmes until her ex-boyfriend Jude Law was cast as Dr. Watson. The film, which also stars Robert Downey Jr. as Sherlock Holmes, let her go. And other film project of hers, Nottingham, was also put on hold.
The break-up does follow a pattern. Most relationships that break-up a marriage rarely lead to another one. In a study by Dr. Jan Halper, less than 3 percent of the 4,100 men who had affairs divorce their wife and marry the lovers. In a study by Frank Pittman, that small percent who do marry their lovers have a divorce rate of 75 percent because of "guilt, expectations and a distrust of the affairee."
Now that the couple broke up, what is their future?
"I'm single at the moment and completely happy with that," the sun-streaked blonde told Us Magazine. Many would be happy if she remains single, and if not, finds a single boyfriend who is not married.
As for Getty, maybe he will get forgiveness from his wife, Rosetta, and be allowed back.
Or maybe she has decided to move on without him, because too much damage has already been done. It requires effort on both spouses’s parts to address the problems that caused the affair and remedy them.
Research in Gary Neuman's book "The Truth About Cheating" reveals that only 8 percent of men cheated out of sexual dissatisfaction with their wives, and the majority of men strayed because they felt their wives did not appreciating them emotionally.
(Then again, if the wife has a baby, chances are she is too tired to be nursing her husband too, and would appreciate some appreciation herself.)
Often it is hard for the hurt spouse to trust again, and he or she will search for signs of cheating, or maybe imagine them. Though as we reported, there are some surefire signs to tell if that happens, studies say that a gut instinct is often the best indicator. Sometimes the earliest signs are not that obvious.
As Getty said last summer, “The breakdown of a marriage is a very difficult and painful experience, especially when children are involved."
Will Rosetta take him back? Will he want to come back?
Although Rosetta may be getting some satisfaction from the break-up of his relationship with Miller, it is still a difficult time for this family.