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What can we learn from serial celebrity break-ups, billionaire bust-ups, misbehaving spouses, pants-on challenged politicos and the ever-shifting landscape of divorce law? Question is, "What CAN'T we learn"? With latte in hand and clicky finger at the ready, dive in for the best in divorce news, views, gossip, and buzz – assembled below for your reading pleasure.

The divorce is final between Madonna and Guy Ritchie, and she can continue being a material girl.

Ritchie, who has his own wealth (estimated at more than $50 million), didn't want manimony and they both keep their assets.

The terms Madonna cited were "unreasonable behavior" by Ritchie — though the decree did not elaborate on what that could be. But what is reasonable is that they worked out an arrangement that didn't escalate into an ugly painful public battle a la Heather Mills and Paul McCartney. That divorce case has become a cautionary tale for any one.

Madonna and Ritchie worked out a custody arrangement where his sons Rocco, 8, and David Banda, 3, who was adopted from Malawi in 2006, can split their time between Britian and the United States.

But as we reported before, this is still a loss for the children since they will only get to see one parent periodically. When school is in session in the States, it's not as though Guy can just take them out for a quick Wednesday dinner or a weekend soccer game. There will be extended time away from his children. But like many fathers, he will deal with the cards he's dealt and play his best hand. Plus, the advantage of cellphones is that you can use them and soon the kids will be of age for email.

As far as Lourdes, Madonna's 12-year-old daughter from her relationship with personal trainer Carlos Leon, she will live with her mom in America. What struck me about this divorce, as amicable as it appears to be, is that Lourdes may not see her stepfather that often. There has been no mention of whether she will join the boys to visit him. Lourdes has known Ritchie for eight years. She has lived with him, ate meals with him, hugged him at night, been picked up at school by him. What does this say about the love that was established.

What often happens in divorces is that stepchildren who develop relationships with their stepmother or stepfather feel that those relationships can't continue and have divided loyalties. Yet it is still hopeful (and helpful) that the parents will encourage those relationships whenever possible — especially if there are other children involved — to show an example that love may change but can continue.

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