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It was a snippet in a (painful) blog by another member here that triggered this blog. I want to offer a morsel of advice that may be of no use or comfort to you now, but it may 'WHEN' you too break free. I had NO MONEY AT ALL ...
Do I cry? I provide a lot of words that are full of encouragement and positivity. I provide insight that may not be always thought of. I try to point to a door that you can choose to open or ignore. What you chose to do ...
 I'm writing this post partly in response to the heartfelt comments I received from a recent blog I posted, but also in response to the odd 'other' posts I've written that inspired or gave hope to some of you beautiful women ...
She lost him, but she found herself… and somehow that was everything. If you are familiar with Taylor Swift then you might know these words. They can be seen in the video "Out of the Woods" - a song about getting through ... 
It was subtle, over time. You wouldn't be able to see it happen, but it did. I myself didn't even realize it was happening. But it did. It was a slow fade, like my favorite black tee. Over the years, I told myself ...
Every day we wake up and think about what we need to do for the day. There are many things we would like to do but those are typically out weighed by a need. The need is important and it takes priority. There are many things in life we determine ...
I find that my apathy is 100 times stronger now than it was a year ago. I have been reading about cultivating indifference and have joked that this is the year that God gifted me with: "It is the year of I don't care ...
Well, I'm a new discarded, and I've been learning lots from all the lovely women on this site. Thank you. I realize now my father was probably a narcissist and that was why I stayed with my narc - his abuse was familiar ...
To all of the women who are divorcing a narcissist, I write this as my own journal and in hopes that it helps others battle a narc in court. If it bores you, feel free to skip reading it. It certainly bores me ...
Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Be afraid, embrace it and figure out worst-case scenarios. Figure out everything you have to fear and then let it go. You have the ability to build a new life, but you must have ...
Gandhi said to be the change you want to see in the world. That is not a direct quote, mind you, but you get the drift. Gandhi was a leader and a hungry one, at that. Okay, bad joke but come one, work with me!!! I have enjoyed ...
If you had to paint only ONE picture that displays the TRUTH about your relationship, what would it look like? This morning while out walking, seemingly out of nowhere, a memory hit me hard. I was riding a bike along the ...
Shortly after my divorce I had to take care of something around the house that I had never done before. A wise friend suggested I recognize all of these new "firsts" in my life. I thought it a good way to look at all ...
Sometimes a narcissistic ex-husband will try to pass himself off as simply being an introvert. "I am not a narcissist. I am an introvert." I find the above statement interesting and quite comical. Being an extrovert or an introvert ...
Why does the OW feel the need to take over the married men and accept being the OW? I have known at least a couple of women that know the situation; they came across a married man at a club/bar, at work ...
Yep! I am writing a blog about blogging. Too funny! I recently read an article on recovering from narcissistic relationships. It was a Psychology Today article. I thought I had kept it but I am unable to find it but the gist of it was this ...
After my divorced finalized, I spent the first two years reading up on what it means to be Bipolar, but now I am onto Narcissism.  I have been reading up on Bipolar, Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder ...
There’s that old saying; love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe. Once upon a marriage, I was paddling my little heart out.   The canoe however was regarded as his. He took charge of navigating ...
Did you know that the powers that be or the professionals were considering not putting NPD as a diagnosis into the new DSM-5?  It came out recently and "they," whoever they are, decided to keep NPD in the ...