I am several years now beyond my narcissistic relationship with my Ex. After our break up, I lost everything; my martial home, cars, and so much more. I lost pretty much everything; while he moved into a beautiful condo with the woman he left me for. I was devastated, but the last thing I wanted to do was feel sorry for my self. Change is what I was looking for so instead of staying in my house for free while the bankruptcy and the foreclosure were going on, I decided to rent a house and let my son stay in our old house as we continued to move things out. It was an impulsive move and financially not a wise choice, so I learned more than ever that patience is a virtue.
My life has changed drastically during these past four years.
Everyone kept telling me to be patient and that good things come to those that wait, so I decided to take their advice. I focused on me, and started eating right and working out. Those two things put me in a better frame of mind.
My job was very stressful and my boss was not a nice person. A year ago a friend came to me and asked me if I would be interested in coming to work for her company. It was a tough decision since I had been at my current job for so many years, but I decided to take the chance and it paid off emotionally and financially. I recently purchased a nice condo, which I thought would never happen. I have wonderful friends, and a great job. Life has turned around greatly for me so the patient waiting paid off.
Let me tell you ladies that karma does rear its ugly head.
Both of my ex-husbands are in relationships with controlling women. They have nowhere else to go because these women control and own everything. These men are stuck where they are, but happy they are not and probably will never be. I still see the both of them in passing every now and then. I always say hi and ask them how they are doing. I'm friendly and always greet them with a smile. I'm happy they are miserable and that is my closure. Ladies be patient good things will come your way. It may not seem like that now, but it will. Focus on you, because only you can turn your life around. There may come a time where you will have an opportunity to take some chances. If so, take that chance, its scary, but worth taking. Remember you are in control of your life and happiness.
I wish all of you the nothing but happiness in the end.
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