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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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There are plenty of articles about how to heal after divorcing a narcissist but what if you want to try to keep your marriage intact without losing your mind?That’s actually much more difficult than the divorce route. It is certainly do-able but it is going to take time, dedication, and a thick skin on your part. Make sure that you count the cost and understand what you are signing up for. 
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Wednesday, 12 March 2014 17:58
Once the ink is dried on your divorce decree and you’ve recovered from the hangover you got trying to make it all go away for a few hours (or celebrating with your friends, depending on your personality), reality hits hard.
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Monday, 10 March 2014 14:46
It’s often true in a narcissistic relationship that the narcissist is the likable one in the couple. He’s the one that people notice, that seems to have everything together, and who knows how to be social. Often the other person in the relationship is quiet, shy or introverted, and seems to ride on the coattails of the narcissist.
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Wednesday, 05 March 2014 16:19
It’s important to own your feelings after divorce, shoving them down and covering them up just leads to trouble later on. Even so, eventually it’s time to rejoin life and find your new normal.
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Monday, 03 March 2014 15:49
True or False? Since narcissists are so concerned about what people think and keeping up appearances they will be careful about making their child support payments.If you have divorced a narcissist and you have children you know that the answer to that is, more than likely, false. He has better things to do with his money than give it to you, even if it is court ordered. Quite frankly, your ex-husband doesn’t spend much time at all worrying that the kids might not be able to continue on in karate or go to camp. He doesn’t really care if hot dogs are now considered gourmet fare at your house. Truthfully, he isn’t sitting around thinking about how to make your life more difficult – it really doesn’t occur to him that you exist. Well, at least not until you create problems by saying something.
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Wednesday, 26 February 2014 17:11
Forgiving the narcissist that turned your world upside down may seem like an impossibility. After all, you were lied to, betrayed, and have the wounds to prove it. Forgiveness may be the last thing on your mind.
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Monday, 24 February 2014 17:25
No matter what you are trying to accomplish if it involves a narcissist you’ll need to make and keep a record of everything that is said and done, everything that is promised, and everything that is threatened. If you don’t then you have nothing when you go to court because, as you know, a narcissist can make a stone statue of Genghis Khan feel empathy to its very core. They are masters at that.
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Tuesday, 18 February 2014 16:11
Happy Valentine's Day, First Wive's World.Even contemplating dating after divorcing a narcissist is emotionally exhausting. You’ve been through the ringer, your self confidence level is at an all-time low, and the only thing you want to do after work is to curl up in front of a chick flick and eat chocolate fudge ice cream. The idea of letting your guard down, even a little bit, is so frightening that it’s nauseating. It takes courage to start dating again after narcissistic abuse and divorce.
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Friday, 14 February 2014 18:58
Whether or not you are actually living with a narcissist you need to develop some coping strategies to keep you from melting down when you have to deal with him. 
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Thursday, 06 February 2014 16:58
It’s time to stand up straight, leave your fantasy world, and figure out how to take care of yourself. Expecting a narcissist to nurture you is like expecting a crocodile to sing a lullaby to a baby gazelle.
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Tuesday, 21 January 2014 21:33