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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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Over the past weeks it has become glaringly obvious to me that I have been trying to find myself – and failing miserably I want you to know. It seems that I am trying to recreate the live I had before the divorce, sans the abuse, with my current husband.It’s not happening. 
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Wednesday, 02 April 2014 15:26
As if it isn’t difficult enough to make the decision to divorce a narcissist, walk through the nightmare, and begin the healing process there will come a point when someone will look at you quizzically and say, “So if it was so bad why did you stay?” 
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Monday, 31 March 2014 14:47
Infidelity is a common issue in narcissistic relationships. If you have experienced that particular betrayal you can find some small comfort in the fact that you aren’t the only one by any means. It doesn’t help that for some reason in our society it’s expected that husbands will cheat and wives will get over it. If you happen to go to therapy it’s likely that the therapist will encourage you to contemplate your relationship and identify the things that you did to contribute to the infidelity. More and more you can read articles that explain how it is instinctual – how men can’t help being pulled into sexual liaisons outside of marriage because of the prehistoric need to procreate. 
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Wednesday, 26 March 2014 15:21
Getting closure is an important key to moving on with your life.Have you seen the cartoons where a salesman is at the door and the lady of the house is trying to politely turn him down but he keeps his foot in the door so she can’t close it? He hopes that by keeping the door open he’ll keep her attention.
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Monday, 24 March 2014 15:21
How many times in the last few months have you had the thought that if you had tried harder, been prettier/thinner/more stylish, or [fill in the blank] your marriage would still be intact? 
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Monday, 17 March 2014 15:29
There are plenty of articles about how to heal after divorcing a narcissist but what if you want to try to keep your marriage intact without losing your mind?That’s actually much more difficult than the divorce route. It is certainly do-able but it is going to take time, dedication, and a thick skin on your part. Make sure that you count the cost and understand what you are signing up for. 
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Wednesday, 12 March 2014 17:58
Once the ink is dried on your divorce decree and you’ve recovered from the hangover you got trying to make it all go away for a few hours (or celebrating with your friends, depending on your personality), reality hits hard.
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Monday, 10 March 2014 14:46
It’s often true in a narcissistic relationship that the narcissist is the likable one in the couple. He’s the one that people notice, that seems to have everything together, and who knows how to be social. Often the other person in the relationship is quiet, shy or introverted, and seems to ride on the coattails of the narcissist.
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Wednesday, 05 March 2014 16:19
It’s important to own your feelings after divorce, shoving them down and covering them up just leads to trouble later on. Even so, eventually it’s time to rejoin life and find your new normal.
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Monday, 03 March 2014 15:49
True or False? Since narcissists are so concerned about what people think and keeping up appearances they will be careful about making their child support payments.If you have divorced a narcissist and you have children you know that the answer to that is, more than likely, false. He has better things to do with his money than give it to you, even if it is court ordered. Quite frankly, your ex-husband doesn’t spend much time at all worrying that the kids might not be able to continue on in karate or go to camp. He doesn’t really care if hot dogs are now considered gourmet fare at your house. Truthfully, he isn’t sitting around thinking about how to make your life more difficult – it really doesn’t occur to him that you exist. Well, at least not until you create problems by saying something.
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Wednesday, 26 February 2014 17:11