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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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It has taken me a while to get to this place, but I must say that I am happy to have arrived. I totally feel sorry for the other woman, the one who was the final straw in our marriage, and the one who he now calls wife. I feel sorry for her because, you see, whether she believes it or not I have been there, living with a cheater I couldn’t trust.
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Friday, 16 May 2014 21:44
A lot of attention goes to the narcissist when it comes to research and writing. There are literally so many articles and books about narcissistic husbands (Roughly 75 percent of narcissists are men) that you could not read them all in a lifetime. More are being written every day. Why?
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Monday, 12 May 2014 14:34
I’ve talked to more than one woman about her relationship with her narcissistic husband and heard her say, “There’s no way out. He will always win and I can’t overcome this so I might as well make the best of it.”
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Monday, 05 May 2014 15:37
I was talking to some friends the other day, one who thinks she might be dealing with a narcissistic husband and is counseling with him, and the subject of forgiveness came up.“The counselor told me that I needed to forgive him for my own benefit.”
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Thursday, 01 May 2014 14:50
If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for a while you already know that every single thing that happens is your fault. If there is absolutely no way that it can be your fault then it will be his employer’s fault, the pastor’s fault, or even one of the kids’ faults.
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Monday, 28 April 2014 07:14
You usually hear about the forceful narcissists that come in and control everything with their mind games and manipulations, anger and verbal abuse. There is another category of narcissist that is just as difficult to deal with, but somewhat more difficult to identify. The passive-aggressive narcissist uses an entirely different method to victimize his prey.
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Friday, 25 April 2014 16:10
Do you remember the Mad Hatter’s tea party from Alice in Wonderland? I prefer the book to the movies but that scene tends to remain the same whether you’re reading or watching a movie. There wasn’t one thing that happened that made sense. Alice asked if she could sit down and was told there wasn’t any room even though there were only three guests at the table. She was offered wine even though there was only tea – but most of all every word she said was twisted or refuted by the Mad Hatter. He would say something totally nonsensical and expect her to agree. When she didn’t he diminished her logic with his illogical tirade of chatter until she didn’t know what she really thought anymore.
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Monday, 21 April 2014 15:55
It is nearly midnight. My new, ever-so-slightly-used husband is sleeping next to me. I can hear the dog snoring and the house is totally quiet except for the occasional outburst from my 20 year old who is in the kitchen playing some game on the computer and eating pizza with his best friend. I’m sipping a weak, way-too-sweet Pina Colada as I write. It sounds peaceful, doesn’t it? 
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Monday, 14 April 2014 15:27
Coming out of an abusive relationship of any sort is not easy. It can take years of counseling, reprogramming, and struggle to break the old habits and ways of thinking. Although some narcissists are quite physically abusive it is rare. They usually prefer to use verbal, financial, sexual, and other forms of abuse that are less obvious to the outsider. Remember, they must maintain their outward appearance at all costs. 
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Friday, 11 April 2014 20:49
I am a big believer in self-help books. I have an entire library of them that contains everything from how to diagnose a medical condition to how to fix your marriage – especially how to fix your marriage. When I was homeschooling my kids I learned that I was a visual-kinesthetic learner, I learn by reading and physically doing things. I teach myself much better than I learn from others. My mom didn’t call it visual kinesthetic, she just said I was obstinate.
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Monday, 07 April 2014 14:58