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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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It wasn’t very long after my second marriage that I realized that I totally did not understand what love really was, I didn’t know how to live with it, and it scared me.
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Friday, 27 June 2014 21:12
One of the most difficult things to deal with when you are divorcing is the relationship between the soon-to-be-ex and your children. If he isn’t a total dirtbag, it’s possible that he will work to maintain his relationship with his kids even though he is done with you, if for no other reason than it would look bad if he didn’t. 
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Thursday, 26 June 2014 16:30
For years after I realized that my husband wasn’t really interested in me I would have fleeting thoughts of divorce. I wondered what it would be like and always came back to the same thoughts. I will be poor and broke. I will be lonely and sad. The kids will emotionally fractured. 
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Monday, 23 June 2014 19:05
One of the most difficult things about dealing with the breakup from a narcissist is accepting that a large part of your life has been based on a lie. There you were, skipping along, thinking that you were both on the Yellow Brick Road to Wonderland when all of a sudden your rose colored glasses fell off and you realized you were in a wasteland surrounded by flying monkeys.
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Wednesday, 18 June 2014 21:58
I really fought divorce. It’s a horrible thing that tears families apart, twists children’s minds, and creates a horrible situation for everyone, right?Well, at least that was my take on it. I was determined to have the perfect family no matter what I had to do to create it. If I was just a better wife, a more diligent homemaker, or prettier my husband would surely value me. I could make it happen – I was sure of it. I’d read books and talked to people who knew what they were talking about. I just had to find the right formula. I had to find the key to his heart.
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Monday, 16 June 2014 20:23
It's very obvious what's happening in this image, isn't it? Most narcissists are much more subtle than that. Invisible abuse is one of their best techniques.
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Monday, 09 June 2014 15:10
Why does he treat his new wife so much differently than he did me? If he had been like that with me we’d never have gotten a divorce! 
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Thursday, 05 June 2014 01:23
I read a lot about narcissism. It’s sort of like being an undercover cop in a drug cartel, you know? I keep immersing myself in the lifestyle, trying to learn more about it so that I can get a deeper understanding of what it is, how to deal with it, and most of all, how to heal from it. I have gotten criticism from those who have accused me of trying to get back at him or just venting my bitterness when, in truth, I could care less about him or what he does. I don’t care if he is miserable or exuberant – I just don’t want others to be unaware of what they are dealing with as long as I was.
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Monday, 02 June 2014 14:42
It takes a long time to heal after you’ve been involved in a narcissistic relationship – don’t let anyone try to tell you anything else. Some of it depends on how long you were involved with your narcissistic ex, some of it depends on the type and intensity of the narcissistic abuse, and some of it depends on the way your mind and body process the whole experience. It rarely takes months – plan on slowly healing over a period of years. 
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Wednesday, 28 May 2014 15:44
When you are in a difficult relationship it can be hard to figure out whether or not you really are being abused. Our minds have a way of softening things are making them seem less serious that they are. A narcissist is especially good ...
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Monday, 19 May 2014 15:23