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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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Narcissists are pretty predictable and have a set of attitudes and actions that they share with every other narcissist in the entire world. It’s sort of a secret club except without the weird handshake. Well, in the same way those of us who have been in relationships with narcissists have a pretty predictable way of thinking and acting, too. We usually an empath or co-dependent, or both.
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Friday, 05 September 2014 17:20
I was not quite 50 when I got divorced, but I felt like I was about a hundred and ten. I figured that my life was over – what man in his right mind would want my aging body? After 30 years as a stay at home mom who would want to hire me?
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Friday, 29 August 2014 16:35
Sometimes when I am going over past situations in my head or someone questions whether or not my ex is really a narcissist I get pulled into a whirlpool of doubt. What if I am remembering things incorrectly? What if I am wrong about his narcissism? What if I am misrepresenting him? 
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Friday, 22 August 2014 20:25
When I am an old woman I shall wear purpleWith a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer glovesAnd satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tiredAnd gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bellsAnd run my stick along the public railingsAnd make up for the sobriety of my youth.I shall go out in my slippers in the rainAnd pick flowers in other people’s gardensAnd learn to spit.
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Monday, 11 August 2014 18:08
When you are in a narcissistic relationship reality is twisted. You become a bit like Alice in Wonderland – a stranger in a strange land, unfamiliar with the rules or the terrain – and even the laws of physics seem to be different. I know there were times when I expected Rod Serling’s voice. Imagine if you will, a woman waking up in a universe so different from her own world that we call it. . . The Twilight Zone.
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Friday, 08 August 2014 18:16
I am tired of struggling with healing, with fighting my way out of the fog, and of trying to figure out what the truth is. I am tired, exhausted to the very center of my being, from struggling to separate the lies from the truth. Most of all, I am just ready to be good to myself despite what he says or does. Can you relate at all?
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Friday, 01 August 2014 21:22
One thing that I have noticed in most of the people I talk to who have been in a relationship with a narcissist for any length of time is that we are looking for some sort of validation from the narcissist. We feel we need it for closure. We fantasize about him suddenly becoming aware of how he treated us and coming back to ask forgiveness. In some small corner of our hearts we believe that somewhere deep inside he is ashamed of the things he did and aware of what he stole from us. Somehow, even after all of the lies, the criticisms, the shaming, and the manipulation we still believe that he harbors a spark of goodness and kindness deep within his being.
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Friday, 25 July 2014 15:43
I’ve had terrible moments when I think that maybe the ex was right and I am the narcissist. I look back on our relationship and the times he told me I was controlling and I wonder if he doesn’t have a point. I was certainly not the perfect ...
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Monday, 21 July 2014 16:09
Communicating with a narcissist usually goes one of two ways.  He either is doing all the talking or he isn’t responding at all. You see, either way he controls the conversation.
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Tuesday, 15 July 2014 19:29
Making friends is not easy for me and it never has been. Don’t let the online persona fool you, I am a total book-worm introvert with very little self-confidence in real life. I generally have always had a couple of very close friends that know me better than anyone else does – and then I have people that I chat with when we bump into each other in public. I have never been able to walk up to a person and introduce myself, I don’t do small talk, and I get overwhelmed when I meet a larger group of people that I don’t know.
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Monday, 30 June 2014 17:07