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My Narcissistic Ex-Husband

Reflections on loving and living with a Narcissist.  Let our experts guide you toward the healing power of moving on and allowing yourself some time in the spotlight.  Get advice on healing from his behavior and finding yourself again.

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If you are in midlife you might remember George Carlin’s comedy sketch about the seven words you can’t say on TV. That routine actually got him arrested for disturbing the peace in Milwaukee. It just goes to show you that freedom of speech has limits. When you are venting frustration about your ex, or anyone, on social media it pays to be careful. You don’t want to get dragged into court or have your hand smacked by the judge because you’ve crossed a line. While there aren’t actually seven things you can’t say (the title was just catchy) there are a few you want to be careful of.
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Monday, 06 October 2014 14:59
If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist you understand what it’s like to not have any boundaries. You might have had strong healthy ones at some point in the past but years of having the narcissist vault over each boundary wore you down, didn’t it?
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Monday, 29 September 2014 22:05
When I announced my impending divorce I generally got one of three basic replies: It’s about time! God hates divorce! Your life will be ruined! Marriage is a commitment! But he’s so NICE!
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Friday, 19 September 2014 20:57
Bitterness.The dictionary defines it as anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment.And who could blame any of us for it? 
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Monday, 15 September 2014 14:59
It makes no sense. Five years is a long time – certainly long enough to get over a toxic relationship. I am resilient. I have lived through many difficulties and gotten over them much more quickly. It is frustrating to keep coming up against this wall and not be able to get past it.
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Tuesday, 09 September 2014 15:56
Narcissists are pretty predictable and have a set of attitudes and actions that they share with every other narcissist in the entire world. It’s sort of a secret club except without the weird handshake. Well, in the same way those of us who have been in relationships with narcissists have a pretty predictable way of thinking and acting, too. We usually an empath or co-dependent, or both.
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Friday, 05 September 2014 17:20
I was not quite 50 when I got divorced, but I felt like I was about a hundred and ten. I figured that my life was over – what man in his right mind would want my aging body? After 30 years as a stay at home mom who would want to hire me?
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Friday, 29 August 2014 16:35
Sometimes when I am going over past situations in my head or someone questions whether or not my ex is really a narcissist I get pulled into a whirlpool of doubt. What if I am remembering things incorrectly? What if I am wrong about his narcissism? What if I am misrepresenting him? 
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Friday, 22 August 2014 20:25
When I am an old woman I shall wear purpleWith a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer glovesAnd satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tiredAnd gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bellsAnd run my stick along the public railingsAnd make up for the sobriety of my youth.I shall go out in my slippers in the rainAnd pick flowers in other people’s gardensAnd learn to spit.
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Monday, 11 August 2014 18:08
When you are in a narcissistic relationship reality is twisted. You become a bit like Alice in Wonderland – a stranger in a strange land, unfamiliar with the rules or the terrain – and even the laws of physics seem to be different. I know there were times when I expected Rod Serling’s voice. Imagine if you will, a woman waking up in a universe so different from her own world that we call it. . . The Twilight Zone.
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Friday, 08 August 2014 18:16