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Diana Mercer

Ms. Mercer an Attorney-Mediator. A veteran litigator, she now devotes her practice solely to mediation. Outgoing and down-to-earth, she makes clients and attorneys feel at ease in solving family and divorce disputes.

She is the co-author of Maing Divorce Work and Your Divorce Advisor: A Lawyer and a Psychologist Guide You Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce (Fireside 2001). She’s an Advanced Practitioner Member of the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR).

My Articles:
Preparing Your Home to Make the Best Impression with the Child Evaluator
Red Flags to Avoid During Custody Evaluations
The Laws of Tuition: When Your Ex Won't Pay for School Costs
Negotiating School Nights: Tips for Post-Divorce Parenting and Schooling
Online Parenting Calendars for the Divorced Couple
Watching Those P's & Q's in a Divorce

A Checklist to Start Your New Life After Divorce

When Intimacy Continues During Divorce
Navigating Divorce: Start Your Own Financial Record Collection
How to Handle Joint Bank Accounts in a Divorce
Focus on Your Future Post Divorce
The Legal Process of Divorce Starts With Your Emotions
What to do Before Your Divorce is Finalized
Divorce Limbo: Between Filing and Finalizing

Diana Mercer

Most Recent Articles

Divorce and Forgiveness

Monday, 17 January 2011 10:02
(The following is an excerpt from chapter 9, pages 189-193 of Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving&

Avoiding The Drama Of Divorce

Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:40
Sometimes people going through divorce behave in ways that make a given situation seem much more important than it is.The following behaviors and the tone around them make the issue seem so pressing and imperative that it is easy to get sucked&

The 8 Keys to Resolving Family Conflict

Wednesday, 26 January 2011 12:26
The 8 Keys to Resolving Family Conflict Be hard on the problem, not the people. Understand that acknowledging and listening are not the same as obeying. ​Use “I” statements. Give the benefit of&

Your Divorce Mission Statement

Saturday, 29 January 2011 08:27
Together, we can change the course of how divorce is handled in our culture. It’s time for peaceful divorce to be the new status quo. If you help pave the way, everyone who divorces will have an easier go of it. Imagine how much family grief…
(The following is an excerpt from chapter 2, pages 11-15 of Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and&

Coping with a Catastrophe

Tuesday, 18 January 2011 14:36
(The following is an excerpt from chapter 6, pages 113-119 of Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and&
We have all heard by now how proper planning prevents poor production but it also prevents anger, frustration and hardship after the divorce is final. Getting your “ducks in a row” can be the difference between a smooth dissolution and one …
Your knowledge of the family assets can have a very positive effect on your future financial stability. Don’t put off knowing today what you’ll want to know tomorrow.Many clients come into their lawyer’s office with no idea what…

How to Handle Joint Bank Accounts in a Divorce

Thursday, 10 February 2011 07:30
When it comes to financial matters, trust can at best be a very expensive luxury or at worst a “sucker’s bet”. It’s your money — take the steps you need to protect it. Don’t be caught off &

Watching Those P’s And Q’s in a Divorce

Tuesday, 11 August 2009 16:32
When two people with differing viewpoints butt heads, the result is often acrimonious. Words can be used in the heat of the moment that can stay with a person for a lifetime, and while we all like to think of ourselves as someone who will take the…

Focus on Your Future During Divorce

Thursday, 23 July 2009 01:16
It's easy to fall into victim mentality when you are facing a divorce. Feeling vulnerable, you may forget that the only person you can control is yourself. This article contains questions you may choose to ask yourself to make sure you are…

When Intimacy Continues During Divorce

Sunday, 12 July 2009 01:42
Sometimes people move away from a marriage as they become involved in a new relationship. Often the new relationship is an affirmation during a vulnerable time that you are lovable, fun, and sexy — contrary to how your spouse is treating you.…

Health Insurance After Divorce

Thursday, 20 January 2011 20:51
No one likes to think about the “worst case scenario,” but planning for life’s unforeseen setbacks is an essential ingredient to a successful transition to single parenthood.Healthcare coverage is a critical issue, and you need to…
Believe it or not, you actually start the legal process of divorce with your emotions. Despite the fact that it is a legal process, there is nothing rational about divorce; it is full of emotion.When the notion of separation forms in one…
We’ve all known people who’ve filed for divorce but haven’t completed the process. Perhaps we’ve even dated someone in this situation! What happens during this time and how long does it take? After the initial filing and interim issues have …
You’ve filed for divorce! Now what? You are in divorce limbo — not yet single, not really still married. What happens next? Once the papers have been filed, a mandatory waiting period begins. Each state has a different waiting …

Red Flags to Avoid During Custody Evaluations

Saturday, 21 January 2012 07:57
Custody mediation can be a dress rehearsal for a court-ordered child-custody evaluation, because if the case is not settled in mediation, an evaluation could be next. Mediation can help parents dig themselves out of entrenched&
Before the evaluator comes to visit, parents should do a safety check and make necessary adjustments. The home does not have to be spotless, but sheets should be on the beds. Odors from cigarettes, trash, pets, and diapers should be minimized.• …
The new school year! Time to get supplies, go to bed earlier, and begin a whole new routine. Time to put away our flip-flops and squeeze into socks and new shoes. If you are divorced and co-parenting, the beginning of the school year can turn up the …
How do you handle the “add-on” expenses of having children? You know, all those little things that are so important: Lessons, sports, back-to-school expenses, etc.Back to school means new clothes, shoes, backpacks, supplies, fees, lunch…
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