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I'm pretty good some days at nurturing or soothing myself, other days, not so much.  A previous therapist who helped me through child abuse issues said that doing self-care is like a muscle that doesn't get used often ...
Dealing with divorce is likely to bring up some of your worst fears. That’s why it can be so hard to know what to do first. Your emotions can have you sobbing and racked with self-doubt one day and full of anger and resentment the next ...
I have been away awhile. I still come on and read. My heart aches for those who are just starting this journey. I am finally divorced. I had to leave the house I loved and my former life behind. I have no contact with the man I was married to for ...
Saturday is the 3-year anniversary of my divorce. It’s been a wild ride. Many of you have walked the path with me, and it’s truly been a winding, uphill, and downhill muddy thing. I’ve been bloodied more than once in the battle ...
It has been a few months since your affair with my husband ended. Your affair has destroyed an entire family. My daughter has completely disowned her father because of what he did with you, and will no longer talk with either of us. My son has ...
I became a member here a few years ago out of desperation, a last resort, a hope that someone/anyone would listen and be able to relate to my miserable life without judging me or throwing so-called solutions at me to problems ...
Are there common red flags when it comes to identifying a narcissist? The question was recently posed within our private network, and our community responded with a wealth observations and signs to look for when dating again ...
I have come to the conclusion I am suffering from PTSD; nightmares, flashbacks, depression, anxiety attacks. I am not sure how to cope with it. Right about the time I was filing for divorce my therapist moved, and I have not made any move
It never ceases to amaze me how we can all be going through the same thing in our lives, being married to a Narc, yet our circumstances and experiences can be so varied and in some instances ...
There is a lot of information out there about what children should and shouldn't know during a divorce. My children are adults.  I've thought a lot about this, now and in the past, about what to say to them when the ex pulls his BS ...
This is a love letter and warning to all of you younger women, whose stories were my own (yes I was once in my early thirties, great job before I had kids, travel, etc. all was great except who I was married to) and your ...
It's been some time since I've been on FWW but I realized that if it weren't for the love, comfort, strength and support this site has given me, I honestly don't know where I would be today. I also realized that we are all different and ...
This will be my final blog about this gnawing, persistent issue that has become nothing more than that annoying fly you just can't seem to get out of the house until one day you realize that it's just gone. You have choices. I have choices ...
Recently, I responded to another FWW'r who blogged about how sex with her ex was painful.  This got me to thinking about my own experiences and some conclusions that I have reached over the past couple of years. Sex doesn't ...
HAPPY HOLIDAYS! MERRY XMAS! HAPPY CHANUKAH! I know how difficult it can be for many of us to find even a modicum of joy at this time of year. For those of you who know me and how far I've come ...
Lately, I have been talking more about Bi-Polar, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Victim Syndrome.  Mental Health can be a fragile thing.  What do these look like? I. Bipolar My ex has a friend that's nutty ...
Happy: It doesn't really matter where you are in the stages of a narcissist.  You could be married, separated, divorcing, or post-divorce.  Happiness is a constant battle.  A narcissist doesn't want you to be happy.  He is thinking: how dare she …
I am posting here specifically because I hope to help those who see the writing on the wall but are still making excuses, bargaining, in denial, or those who want an intact family at the cost of almost anything. Yes, YOU! Where am I now ...
When is the experience of loneliness most challenging? Through which stage of the divorce? Is it during the time when you or your ex decided on the divorce? Is it during the following transition, leaving the life you knew ...
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