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Nancy Lee

I am a happily divorced mother of three daughters. For years I played the role of happy suburban wife, putting everyone’s needs before mine. Gave up my career to build his business, then the business to raise my children. I felt trapped and alone, married to a stranger who couldn’t be bothered to show up for a family meal.

I don’t have that life anymore. I now have a job I love, my girls are thriving, I awake each day with a sense of great possibility. So much so that remarriage is not an option for me right now. I’ve met lots of nice men since my divorce and found I prefer the role of girlfriend to second wife. Much more fun.

Nancy Lee

Most Recent Articles

Chemistry-Dot-Con?

Wednesday, 03 February 2010 10:10
The headline read: Internet Lothario charged with grand larceny for swindling women out of $140,000.For the past seven years, Westchester, New York resident Solomon Jesus Nasser has romanced women on various Internet dating sites. Spinning a tale…

The Ugg-ly Side of Blended Families

Saturday, 19 September 2009 22:09
I haven’t brought up Ex and his Next for a while, and for good reason. What with J graduating cum laude from college (not that I’m bragging) and actually landing a job in this market (okay, so I’m bragging), L off to her junior year…
I’m racing through campus. I’m late and I have no idea where the building is, let alone the lecture hall. Have I even made it to class this semester? Good Lord, is the final today? In this nightmare, I usually wake up around this point, in …

Puppy Love

Friday, 12 June 2009 13:57
After my disappointing experiment with Chemistry.com, one would think I’d steer clear of online meeting sites, but I have to admit it wasn’t too long before I went slinking back to the Internet, looking for love.And out of the blue, there…

Failed Chemistry

Friday, 17 April 2009 08:45
Or maybe it failed me. God knows I gave it the old college try. A couple of months ago I signed up with Chemistry.com, Match.com’s answer to eHarmony. And I was cautiously optimistic. Unlike Bob from Brooklyn, who was “seeking cosmic love, …
I want to play by the school's rules, honest I do. But when they are just plain stupid and possibly endangering my child's well being, not so much.Even with continued therapy, K's panic attacks are an issue. If I knew then what I know now, I would…
The only thing worse than suffering through your very own first heartbreak is experiencing it a second time, through your daughter. And it's been a pretty wild ride through the wake of The Boy's exit from K's life. Starting with a terrifying five…

Broken Beyond Repair?

Friday, 16 January 2009 01:22
As I've explained in earlier blogs, mine is not the party house. I don't have the big screen TVs with the accompanying Wii, Xbox, or Guitar Hero games. No swimming pool, no hot tub, no recording studio complete with drum set and piano.So when my…

My First Date: Sabotaged

Friday, 01 August 2008 16:12
After years of being unhappily married, I took the leap of faith that my life would be better after divorce. Granted, I had some experience with being on my own — my Ex was so AWOL in the last five years of our marriage that my friends joked…

Online Dating: Meeting My Match

Friday, 08 August 2008 09:25
"Try Match.com," my divorced friends suggested. I was skeptical. I had tried the original computer dating back in college — only for the story, mind you, not to find dates — and hadn't been much impressed — with the story I ultimately …
An old college roommate emailed me a notice about another classmate from our college alumni magazine. "Wasn't he a friend of yours?" she asked. "He certainly has done well for himself."He was and he had. He had been the copy editor on our college…

The Overly Possessive Ex

Friday, 22 August 2008 07:09
Fast forward a few months. Ex had found a lovely new substitute for me, a recent divorcee who graciously took on my former roles as hostess, gardener, and short order cook for the kids. Okay, I'm lying. There was nothing lovely ...

Rebound Man

Friday, 29 August 2008 14:22
I knew from the get-go that Rebound Man was just that; not Mr. Right, but a perfect Mr. Right Now. A gentle reintroduction to the self I lost in marriage. You have to start somewhere.The first kiss was just a gentle brushing of lips, the slightest…

Post-Divorce Sex: The Numbers Look Good

Friday, 05 September 2008 06:32
I just read another dopey article claiming that married people have the best sex lives. How it's so great knowing all the person's buttons, the freedom in having just one partner, yada, yada yada.span&

Waiting for Mr. Wonderful

Friday, 19 September 2008 06:18
So, what about the matchmaking services we keep hearing about? The ones promising to eliminate all that bothersome deleting of Internet undesirables by focusing on core values and future goals rather than the physical (some won't even offer a sneak…
When L called, saying she had an extra ticket to a benefit dinner that weekend, of course I said yes. We'd been friends for nearly 20 years and I knew her extended family as well as my own. It would be fun.&

The Confrontation: Ex, Meet Boyfriend

Friday, 03 October 2008 03:04
There are a gazillion stories in New York, but for some reason mine have a tendency to intersect and overlap. Shortly before I married Ex, the man I had originally moved across country to marry (which is another story in itself) called to…

Online Dating: Try, Try Again

Friday, 12 September 2008 04:33
After Ex got engaged, I thought it safe to test the match.com waters again. (If you recall, Ex popped up in my last online dating search.) This time around, I found the profiles could be personalized to an absurd level: You can&

New Adventures in a New Relationship

Friday, 10 October 2008 03:40
We were on our third date when S put down his knife and fork, looked at me seriously and told me there was something we had to discuss.span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family:&
What happens when a Midwestern land-lubber and her daughters take their maiden voyage with a life-long sailor and his son? The best vacation of their lives!Of course, it could have been a disaster. All of us cooped up on a 47-foot sailboat in the…
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