Why is it so easy to make friends with women and it’s so difficult to find a man to be in a relationship with? Am I pickier when it comes to men? When my ex left for greener pastures, I moved to a new city to be near my adult children and because I wanted a fresh start. I've made a lot of friends in the five years I've been here and can be as busy as I want to be after making an effort to find women who share similar interests. Age isn't a factor with women. I can hang with those much younger as well as those who are my age or older. But the men I've met and dated are a different story, and at this point, I'm not sure I understand their story or even want to understand it. They say they like my independence, then turn around and say I don't have enough time for them.
Well, which is it? They say they're active, and then list their ailments and limitations and I find their idea of being active is fishing. Since when does sitting holding a pole qualify as being active? I don't expect perfection. I'm certainly not perfect, and I know compromise is always needed. There are, however, a few things I'm not willing to do without, like a sense of humor, or a non-smoker. I want honesty, and someone who enjoys life. Is that too much to ask for? Am I too picky? Is it because men over 60 are "older" than women the same age? I don't need a man in my life but I'd like having a good man in my life. My ex was not the man he claimed to be. So am I just afraid of being lied to? I was married only once, for 40 years so maybe it's too late for me, but I hope not.
I'm happy with my life as it is. Laughter, family and friends are an important part of it, and a good guy could be the icing on the cake.
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