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Cathy Meyer
Cathy Meyer is a single mother, certified relationship coach, marriage educator, divorce mediator, legal investigator and freelance writer, mother of two sons and a survivor of divorce.
Seven years ago Cathy found herself knee deep in the trauma of an unwanted divorce. Her only source of support, an inept attorney and the Family Court System seemed ill equipped to offer her the legal protection she needed. This is when she decided to take matters into her own hands. Learning all she could about the system and how to make it work in her best interest became a passion for Cathy.
As a Divorce Coach Cathy has the tools and strategies to enable her clients to live a rich productive life during and after the divorce process. As a freelance writer and coach, Cathy shares her expertise on the Divorce Support Channel on About.com.
Most Recent Articles
Planning For The Emotional Stages of Divorce
Wednesday, 10 November 2010 13:40
My divorce caught me off guard. I had no time to plan my emotional response and being the planner I am, I found this a bit disconcerting. Actually I was highly pissed. Want to set my world a twirl? Pull the rug out from under it ...
Some Men Just Don’t Get It
Tuesday, 09 November 2010 10:55
I had a conversation today. Actually I listened while a male client vented about his ex-wife. I had heard what he had to say many times so while listening all I could think was, “some men just don’t get it and never…
Running on Empty: How to Fight Single Mom Burn-Out
Friday, 28 June 2013 12:41
Is multi-tasking your standard method of operating? If you are a woman, it probably is. Married or single, us women are caregivers, problems solvers…we are everything to everyone. If you are a divorced, single mom who works, more than likely you …
What to do if Your Husband is Cheating
Thursday, 02 May 2013 14:24
If you are sure your husband is having an affair, your first reaction may be to react (with anger, tears, threats), instead of responding with reason. An affair is a crisis — time seems condensed, and we feel that we have to fix the…
How to Protect Yourself from Adultery
Tuesday, 09 October 2012 08:40
Before no-fault divorce laws, the courts considered sex something that was exclusive to marriage. A wife was protected from the negative consequences of adultery by criminal law, specific divorce laws that addressed adultery, and, in some…
How I Survived My Unwanted Divorce
Saturday, 09 October 2010 09:15
I didn't want a divorce. Nope, I wanted my marriage to work no matter what the cost. I invested years of energy trying to keep the marriage humming along. In the end, I discovered that it takes two people who are willing to invest…
Why Divorced Women Need To Start Thinking About Sex
Wednesday, 08 September 2010 10:15
I have a confession to make about one of the First Wives World polls, the one asking how many times a month you have sex now that you're divorced. It seems that I'm part of the majority, the group of women out there getting…
First Date After Divorce? What and What Not To Do
Friday, 22 March 2013 12:53
Dating after divorce is a daunting experience if you aren't prepared — especially for those of us who were in long-term marriages. Sharing space and time with a member of the opposite sex is nice — something most of us long…
Courtroom Quid Pro Quo
Wednesday, 14 December 2011 07:32
If you have been through divorce then you are familiar with the rules and procedures that govern the legal process. Divorce is a civil action, and every state has rules of civil procedure. What you don't hear about — but have probably fallen ...
What Happens to Deadbeat Dads Who Do Not Pay Child Support?
Tuesday, 14 August 2012 08:56
Over the years, I've spoken to many women whose ex-husbands were defying court orders to pay child support. What most of them have learned when they take their ex back to court for contempt is that judges rarely throw a deadbeat in jail. They…
Growing Where You're Planted And Reaching For the Sunlight
Saturday, 02 October 2010 12:03
I go for a bike ride three mornings a week. I enjoy getting out early while the day is still new, and not many people are out. The other morning I was riding along, listening to some "funk sway" on my iPod, when I spotted something in the road…
Burning Down the Barriers to Success Post-Divorce
Sunday, 20 January 2013 11:15
Do you ever ignore an opportunity? Or, worse yet, make excuses that keep you from facing fears that can come with an opportunity? I had an opportunity stare me right in the face last week and I found myself making excuses, backing away from it as if …
Keep The Fight, Lose The Struggle
Wednesday, 02 June 2010 09:05
You might say I have a passion for divorce, all aspects of divorce. This peculiar passion took root while I was going through my own divorce. I went into the process with my ears backed and determined to protect myself emotionally and financially.…
Survive the Unwritten Rules of Divorce Cases
Wednesday, 26 June 2013 12:50
There are certain unwritten rules that have more to do with the outcome of a divorce case than the written rules of civil procedure, and it's imperative that women learn how to protect themselves from the chaos these rules can cause. When you…
Avoid The Rebound Game After Divorce
Tuesday, 09 April 2013 13:15
A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the divorce. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a "rebound relationship." A rebound relationship is a distraction. It's a…
Coping With Unwanted Divorce
Wednesday, 18 March 2009 17:48
Have you found yourself the recipient of an unwanted divorce? Your spouse may have just walked out, or left you for another woman. There may have been a midlife crisis and you no longer fit into his "new life." Whatever the reason, coping with an…
Don't Let Divorce Consume Your Life
Friday, 22 February 2013 11:53
When I began navigating the process of divorce, it consumed my life. I ate, drank and slept divorce. It seemed to be all I could think about or talk about and all that talking and thinking fed my raw emotions. If you are consumed by the legal,…
Making The Most of Your Alone Time
Saturday, 01 May 2010 08:15
When was I first separated and divorced, one of the hardest things for me to deal with was the time my boys spent with their father. During those every-other-weekend visits, I found it very painful that my family was out doing things without me. I…
6 Mistakes to Avoid in the Divorce Settlement Process
Tuesday, 07 May 2013 15:06
Maintaining your financial security is one of your most important considerations when faced with divorce. Your main concern should be negotiating the best possible settlement agreement — one you know you can live with after the ink dries on your…
Telling Your Kids About Your Divorce
Monday, 18 October 2010 14:30
Once you and your husband decide to divorce, the most important task you will have is telling your children. There are definitely wrong and right ways to do this. Recently, Oprah had