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Is Divorce Becoming a Luxury?

Sunday, 06 July 2008 20:24
Is it possible that times are so bad, and divorce is so expensive, couples are staying together? It seems that divorces have moved into the luxury category, along with gas-guzzling cars, soy lattes at Starbucks, and big homes. Fine for those who can …

Did You Know...?

Tuesday, 28 October 2008 08:12
A new divorce law in France, which took effect in 2005, removed the concept that, if someone sued for divorce after six years of separation from his or her family, that person was liable to pay alimony for life. It reduced the period of time from…

2008: The Year in Divorce

Thursday, 25 December 2008 00:34
The splits. The fits. The emotional pits. And all the couples who called it quits.This past year had it all. Some stories touched us, others moved us, many angered us, and a few even tickled us.After much culling and sifting, we narrowed it down to…
I am so sorry you are going through this.  I am thankful that I found out about the affair and other stuff so long ago and don't have that to deal with that on top of the divorce.  All I can offer if that I went through some of the same stuff you…

The Best Man I Know

Wednesday, 10 April 2013 12:50
The best man I know senses something is amiss even though I have not shared any details about this crisis in our lives.  The best man I know gets up in the morning and gets ready, often by the time I'm out of the shower.  The best man I know asked …
I think its hard enough dealing with a marriage breaking down without adding betrayal and another woman into the mix.  I am now eight months out and finally feeling like I'm over the hump.  There are more good days than bad now, and I still have…
I hope I can take my own advice and take the next year to journal, study, and work on exactly who it is I am meant to be in this world and where I'm going from here.  "They" say that it's important to do something that you love. I guess I would…

Striving To Embrace Calm Through Divorce

Monday, 08 April 2013 12:56
You deserve better.  We all do.  You deserve that calm.  Embrace it and remember it.  I know where you are coming from, but it's glorious to know the calm is there even though it gets squashed from time to time.  It'll come back.  I have…
Take care of yourself.  Eat right, work out, mediate, read, be social, relax, pamper yourself, love yourself.  Besides if you don't no one else will, and that is the truth.  This site helped me in more ways then I can ever say.  Some women on…
All in all, I will win from this loss, and I will become better than I ever was before.  I will tell myself every day that I am ok being alone, and I'm not lonely.  This is my time to strengthen myself and realize my full potential.  I will lean…

Cycling Through The Stages of Divorce

Saturday, 06 April 2013 14:58
I know it's hard, but the only way to move on and be free is divorce him and quickly as possible. Once you detach a bit, while you still may cycle through the stages of grief, it slowly gets better.  Personally, I still get stuck in the disbelief…
I hope you will find that place where you realize that even at your worst you are better than his best.  As for what you should be doing at 33, thumb your nose to it.  Just remember: Half of those who are living that life will cross to the other…
So sorry to read all of the stress you are undergoing.  I've been doing yoga meditation, antidepressants, etc., and when they don't work, I comfort myself with inspirational quotes.  Here's one that usually works for me:  You never know how…
It's always easier to blame someone else than accept our own defects of character.  You need to stay strong and not accept that blame.  We feel responsible for our EX's or STBX's unhappiness and believe that we are the reason they are leaving.…

Working Through The Hurt And Pain Of Divorce

Wednesday, 03 April 2013 14:53
It's so important to work through the hurt and pain and not try to avoid it or band-aid it.  I know it's hard.  I know it hurts.  I think most women on here can relate.  The fact you have put your story out there and that you are asking for help …

The Other Woman Is The Sloppy Second

Wednesday, 03 April 2013 12:56
First and foremost, you are not worthless, nor are you something to discard for a better model.  You ARE the better model.  The OW is a sloppy second, and she's more than willing to be that person for him.  Eventually you will see that they…
You were loved by someone who does not know how to love.  Do not blame yourself.  When you give to the right person, they stay, they do not leave.  In time you will move on.  You are going through a grief stage as all of us women who are…
Give yourself time to heal, and stay off social media, it just makes it worse.  In the meantime, read a couple of books:  "The Sociopath Next Door" by Dr. Martha Stout, and "How To Spot A Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved With One" by Sandra…

Sayonara Mr. Roboto

Tuesday, 02 April 2013 12:34
As time goes on I am beginning to notice a few differences between M (my significant other, partner, love connection?) and myself.  First off,   he makes the bed. Every morning.  Super weird, right? He doesn't like clutter.  Also, he believes if …
Stay strong.  Take a deep breath and keep calm when he say things you don't want to hear, and then get on here and talk to others who have been through it.  It's a tough road, but it does get better.  There are so many of us who have been through …