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My ex was also really controlling.  He wanted me home with the babies but he would constantly belittle me for not performing, not bringing in an income. So when the kids started any sort of day 
I find it interesting that narcissists plot along in life with a very similar pattern. Many of us have joked that they have a private club handbook or a how to manual that they all seem to follow.  What one narc does the other one ...
When you divorce a narcissist, kids can get all confused in the area of LOVE, RESPECT and MONEY. LOVE. Think about it.  All your married life you showed love.  I define love with sacrifice.  A narcissist defines love without sacrifice ...
Today I was thinking about my older Aunt who recently lost her husband. I have been very close to both my Aunt and Uncle and they've looked upon me as just another one of their own children ...
A narcissist likes to play games. (Setting the stage to feed off of narc supply). They groom you and others for information.  They grab onto the smallest little thing and make a plan.  They manipulated, spin information, tell lies
You were someone before you met "him", you had ideas, an identity that may or may not have been fully formed, but you WERE someone. You had a name, you had traits, characteristics, and you had feelings ...
Never did I imagine I could be here.  You can get here too.  Yes, it was awful, searing, exhausting pain.  You can read my story here.  Divorced and utterly alone at 60, lost, tired, hopeless, terrified, rejected, discarded ...
You never let a Narc know your feelings.  They groom your feelings and try to use it against you. They will even try to use the feelings of the Judge against the Judge. Don't let a Narc "muddy the waters." They like to ...
I know you won't believe me when I tell you that you will make it through your situation in life, if you just hang on.  Things will get better, you will get stronger and you won't miss him at all.  I think of how devastated ...
In a world with so much beauty and so much love, how did I end up in a relationship that lacked each one of those?  Tears, hatred, guilt, blame, anger, resentment - these are not words of love, and these ...
I’m not one to make New Year’s resolutions. Usually what I do is hope for the best of all possible things for all possible people, and face the New Year knowing that only I can make my life happen. Interesting that ...
I haven't been able to relax and sit in a hot tub for a while now; long baths are the way I deal with stress.  I have just endured great stress.  I am sick, and I am in a "just don't care" mood.  ONE:  My third lawsuit is over ...
We recently had the opportunity to sit with Tim Storey, a motivational speaker and life coach whose passion in life has been to elevate and transform people’s lives who are going through difficult challenges. Through his ...
Last Christmas was my first Christmas without #@%hole. I was newly divorced and went through our usual holiday traditions just like every year for as long as I can remember. I remember pushing myself ...
Dear Other Woman, I have been watching you.  I am sorry to have to admit that.  I don’t think I’m a stalker, and have never seen you in person, nor do I want to.  But at the same time, I watch sometimes on social media to see ...
My son recently left to be with his dad for the holiday, and as he was leaving, he paused several times before walking to the front door to go get in his dad's car.  First pause was a gentle sweet smile with eyes twinkling. It was ...
As an expression of personal empowerment, I had planned to get a tattoo the very day my divorce was set to be finalized. Despite an unexpected delay due to lawyer's lies and legal crap that's beyond my control ...
It has been well over a year now since my entire life changed. Despite divorce, death and illness after illness in my life, I have survived. I'm still able to smile each day. I've sat in the pits of hell and I've ...
My narcissistic ex-husband did his best to tear me down, and tried to convince me to believe the worst about myself. And he praised himself – he was smarter, a better parent than me, made the best decision ...