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Over the more than 25 years that I've been practicing law, I've often been asked what a court will look at when determining a custody award.

While I can tell you that no two cases are alike, I can safely say that while state laws vary across the country, a court will generally consider the following:

1. The parents' ability to agree, communicate and cooperate in matters relating to the child.

2. The parents' willingness to accept custody and any history of unwillingness to allow visitation that is not based upon substantiated abuse.

3. The interactions and relationship of the child with its parents and siblings.

4. Any history of domestic violence.

5. The safety of the child and the safety of either parent from physical abuse by the other parent.

6. The preference of the child if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to reason so as to make an intelligent decision.

7. The needs of the child.

8. The stability of the home environment offered.

9. The quality and continuity of the child's education.

10. The fitness of the parents.

11. The geographical proximity of the parents' homes.

12. The extent and quality of the time spent with child prior to or subsequent to the separation.

13. The parents' employment responsibilities.

14. The age and number of children.

Whatever the criteria used, a court will also examine the criteria in light of "the best interests of the child". I also recommend the use of a mental health professional to appear as an expert and lend his or her professional opinion into the considerations.

There are also different types of custody. Once the above factors are considered, a court may order one of three types of custody: (1) sole custody, (2) joint legal custody, or (3) joint physical custody.

"Sole custody" awards both the legal and physical custody to one spouse. "Joint legal custody" provides that both spouses have joint responsibility for all major decisions regarding the child's health, welfare and education. However, in a joint custody case, the court will usually designate one parent's house as the child's principal residence and determine a time-sharing plan for the other parent.


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  • Comment Link mike Sunday, 29 March 2015 00:19 posted by mike

    Ok my wife is 29 she with a nuthed man who is 20 they live in a motel.we r not yet devors and dss has custdy.can she vet the kids if she is no devorsed and with a nuther man they do no know.

  • Comment Link ghie Friday, 27 March 2015 15:38 posted by ghie

    hi im from phillipines currently im here at uk for a tourist visa , my partner is british and we have a son boy almost 2 years old and registered by his dad name , but now me and my partner are not in good terms and i this month my visa end and im going back to phillipines with my son, but his father treat me that i cant bring my son with me and he want me to go back in phillipines alone not with my son, do i have a right to bring back my son in my place as a mother please help...

  • Comment Link kasia Sunday, 22 March 2015 21:54 posted by kasia

    I want sole custody of my son. My son deadbeat dad petition to court for joint custody but he does not does anything for my son. he told the judge i just stopped him from him seeing him for nothing when thats a lie . I told the judge I stopped letting him go over there cause him and his family members made a false report to dcf and they basically caught on to it and did not open a case. I submitted my pics of his dad with a blunt in his mouth and throwing up gang signs after court was over with. I hope you look over the evidence I presented even though its after the final court hearing. She said give her about aweek or @ for her final decision. I hope she sends a new court hearing since evidence has been submitted and some is showing that the dad and his family are lieng about alot of stuff.

  • Comment Link Tray Sunday, 22 March 2015 04:28 posted by Tray

    I need your help

  • Comment Link jacob habash Saturday, 21 March 2015 10:07 posted by jacob habash

    I live in sydney and on 28th march I have a mentionening to discuss about my time with my son. At the moment I am currently seeing him 2 hrs a week mondays and Thursday's through supervised visitations and I will be seeing him 4 hrs a week just 2 weeks ago. Ialso have a report for the 8 visits I had with my son. I want you to help me to get more visitations through unsupervised they can become expensive. And also I want to get 50/50 custody.

  • Comment Link jacky Friday, 20 March 2015 07:37 posted by jacky

    my son partner falsely accused him of rape and he has a 3month the old daughter and won't let him see her what can he do

  • Comment Link tammy Friday, 20 March 2015 04:25 posted by tammy

    My daughter is 11 and dont want to go to her dads cause her step mom calls her all kinds of names when her dad isnt around we talked to him about it he said it wont happen again but then as soon as he took her he droped her off at his house and left she called crying she wanted to come home cause her stomach hurt. I dont want to put her through that again. he was abusive with me and his 2 older daughters

  • Comment Link Jessica Thursday, 12 March 2015 06:52 posted by Jessica

    hello my name is Jessica, I have custody of my baby cousin I have had him 5 mounts as of now he was born addicted to drug's his mother has supervised visits she does not call to see how the baby is doing only when she comes to see the baby and the mother and her family.has made threats to me because of next Munth is the baby birthday I whont the baby to have his birthday at the park and the mother whonts to have one at her families house i told her i don't no if I could make it because my husband works and i can't drive then the mother And her family started the threats what can I do

  • Comment Link Nick Tuesday, 10 March 2015 21:05 posted by Nick

    Hello my name is Nick.I have a 3 month old baby girl. My girlfriend and I have been fighting lately she stays in my apartment. She throws tantrums and speaks ill of me and when I won't take it she always says. "If I go I'll just all your money". What should I Do?

  • Comment Link chelsey Sunday, 08 March 2015 17:46 posted by chelsey

    Hi my name is chelsey and I'm 15 and I was wondering if your mother boyfriend is allowed to speak in a court hearing/ any court and in front of a judge

  • Comment Link Tatum Sunday, 08 March 2015 10:21 posted by Tatum

    Hi, I have 7 children and my youngest who is 8 to another man.. He has kept my little girl for 3 years hadn't allowed any contact what so ever.. I send 2 or 3 messages a day. He has moved house and won't give me the address . We have shared care and this is killing me . Can you please help me and my little girl . Tatum

  • Comment Link colin Sunday, 08 March 2015 08:28 posted by colin

    Can I get full custody of my 3 kids even if I adopted one thru marriage as my ex wife is quite a violent person? Sge was even sleeping about and got pregnant whilst wih me.

  • Comment Link Aj2510 Sunday, 08 March 2015 06:40 posted by Aj2510

    Does anyone get an actual reply off here? I'm in a situation where I need to know what options I have? But right now can't afford help? :(

  • Comment Link marc Friday, 06 March 2015 06:11 posted by marc

    Hi I have been contacted by a girl I slept and she has my child of 4 years. I've asked to see the child but she says I must wait untill he is older. Do I have any rights or should leave the situation as it is.

  • Comment Link John Finler Thursday, 05 March 2015 04:31 posted by John Finler

    If you are trying to get custody of your child then you are definitely going to need a good lawyer. If you want to get the most experienced and one that has the best record for getting the job done, then you have to go to and contact them. Im sure that they will be able to help you in keeping your child.

  • Comment Link wes Tuesday, 24 February 2015 19:45 posted by wes

    I have three sons with my ex wife, how is it that she is allowed to refuse me visitation over and over again and have three child abuse investigations against her, one filed by my middle son's school, one by a ER physician and one filed by me, but nothing EVER happens! !!
    Is Texas law really that against dads!???

  • Comment Link Paige Sunday, 22 February 2015 21:45 posted by Paige

    Hi it on putting an exclamation mark after every single sentence.(!) We get it. The mother of the child sounds as if she is unfit to parent your daughter (and any of her other children).
    You have rights, regardless of your ability to be able to afford an attorney. Get in touch with your county's Department of Human Resources and explain your situation and they will help you make an appointment with the appropriate person that may be able to help you with this. I give this advice because I was once in your situation (reversed...I am the mother), and DHR helped me GREATLY with my situation.
    Also, many attorneys will take a lower retainer fee than some (one attorney I had only asked for a $500 ret. fee which is MUCH lower than the norm). Also your city or county may have a Legal Help Organization that helps those that cannot afford an attorney at the present time. You can try searching for this on where one may be listed. Some attorneys will even take several pro bono cases (free) each year, so I cannot hurt to ask!
    I wish you all the best!

  • Comment Link steven Thursday, 19 February 2015 21:44 posted by steven

    I have been served mediation appointment court ordered. I have Physical custody of my 3 kids and the mom is very unstable and in and out of jail and drugs. I fear for the kids and want supervised visits and drug tests at my descression before she take the kids. I pay for 100% of finances and reopened the child support case..she now wants joint custody with 20% of the kids time and 80% me. Do I need to bring my own paper work ( decleration, facts, request for order, child custody visitation.. ect) please help

  • Comment Link Trav Wednesday, 18 February 2015 03:56 posted by Trav

    I had a child with a girl I thought I knew! Our daughter is now 13 months old! She has moved out taking our daughter, the mother refuses to let myself or her 2 brothers 9&12 see her! She states you need to take me to court and get it in writing! Recently I noticed she was taking a lot of Xanax along with topamax and maxwell and lorazepam. I have anxiety now and then and have recently been diagnosed bipolar! ( now that the mother is gone I feel like the old me and feel alive again) her attitude was out of control! She would burn a bottle of those pills up in 2 weeks! I month supplies. She often text me at work can you leave early the baby is awake I need some rest she is screaming! The mother was a stay at home mom!
    Heard from her 1 ex''a yesterday they told me a lot of things I wish I knew before! She had a pill problem! Been in a mental hospital two times! Left her child from one of the 2 other fathers with a stranger to go party for a week, and admired it! The guy ended up being able to finally track the father down. She has the other son she has no contact with physically, if and when she can she don't and it has to be supervised! But they told me of past mental issues and pill addictions along with not showing up to get the kids on her time even! There is so so much more! I miss my girl, I miss her meeting me at the door, I always knock a certain way and I can hear her scream then pitter patter to the door- da da da da arms wide open and I sweep he up! It's a lovely feeling... I miss the noise the daddy I'm tired lets cuddle and those tiny little arms and hands giving me a I love u daddy hug! Then I say kisses!! Mouth wide open and a pause for me to meet her half way! I can't afford an attorney but I need to get this issue handled soon I have a court date mar 13 I set up. Also she is living with a former meth addict her brother married! She claimed tho she was living with her mom! And her mom is living with for 15 yes a convicted felon for the distribution of marijuana and a large sum of cash! Oh help me lord!

  • Comment Link sharon barnes  james mcdonald 0478209079 Tuesday, 17 February 2015 07:15 posted by sharon barnes james mcdonald 0478209079

    Hello our names are Sharon and James and 3months ago docs took our children shilo 7 & river 5 as they believe they weren't safe at home.Now they are seeking a 2 year order to have them placed in foster care ? We love our kids and we as well as the kids want to be home together ?we are a loving couple and have no domestic violence issues ever they have love ,they love school etc but because of two incidents of drug usage outside the home and away from kids we are somehow now the worst parents in the world it is unbelievable they are suffering including physical abuse by one of the 3 foster homes they have been placed in by the department we are helpless and don know where to turn to this unfair and unjust could you help ?

  • Comment Link tony paolella Tuesday, 17 February 2015 00:14 posted by tony paolella

    I have sole custody of my.child for years daughter wanted to lice with her mom a couple yrs and now she wants to come back her mom will not let her.what do i need to go get my child??

  • Comment Link Joseph monroe Monday, 16 February 2015 22:21 posted by Joseph monroe

    My sons mom is constantly being hit and pushed around by her boy friend and he just put her in the hospital and keeps letting him back around my son and her other kids they are afraid to be around this guy but she won't listen when they tell her they don't want him there is there anything I can do as the father of one of her kids

  • Comment Link Jaems Renninger Friday, 13 February 2015 01:19 posted by Jaems Renninger

    My niece does not really know who the father of her baby is. She is getting a divorce from her husband. Her boyfried (ex) gets out of jail in June. She wants to know how she can keep the boyfriend from taking her child if he decided he wanted to. She lives in NC but baby was born in VA. I suggested she go to social services to arrange an court appointed attornery. Her sister just lost custody of her child to the ex-boyfriend who I am sure was even the father.

  • Comment Link Carmen tinoco Thursday, 12 February 2015 21:39 posted by Carmen tinoco

    i went through domestic violence with the father of my only child. Now I am living back with him and my social worker called me that he had to talk to me and informed me that his county supervisor had called him to tell him that he has put in the order to court to take my son away! Can he just take him away without any notice? I think he is just trying to scare me because he said that the order was in already in court n he just told me he hade the paper wprk but never showed it to me. But what I don't understand that if he had the court order already why didnt he take my son? and why haven't I recievd any type of paper saying that they will remove my child?

  • Comment Link Christine Trenter Tuesday, 10 February 2015 16:29 posted by Christine Trenter

    my daughter is going through court at the moment to fight for custody of her daughter who was taken into care 18 month ago. The main factor of this case was that my daughter was accused of giving her daughter medication prescribed by the hospital under false pretences.However although the hospital confirmed in writing to the court that nobody confirmed seeing her daughter in an epilepsy fit,my daughter has 3 official letters signed by the hospital confirming that they confirmed seeing her daughter in a seizure, and started her on the medication.
    What I need to know is my daughter has been offered support housing with a support worker present if help required, would this jeopardise her chance of getting her daughter back if she accepted this property

  • Comment Link Ella Tuesday, 10 February 2015 13:56 posted by Ella

    My nephews aged 2 and 6 weeks have been taken into temp careuntil iI get an assessment done to see if I can have them. I already have my 5 year old daughter. Me and my partner don't live together but I've told the ss we do so it highers the chances of getting the boys out of care. My partner works nights. My sister is going to work with the workers yo get them back but she's wanting joint custody with me. Will it go against me for lying about partner living with me when he doesnt ???

  • Comment Link Steven Monday, 09 February 2015 13:35 posted by Steven

    My son. Has been living with me for almost 9 months. He gets good grads in school is extremely happy living with me. His mother has custody of his she has.moved 3 times in the past year woth 3 different men. This whole time he has lived with me she has blackmailed me to keep paying her child support. She barely sees him anymore and tells me if i bringthe ccourt in this she will move my son back with her in a town that is mote than an hour away and her will have to change schools for the third time in teo years

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  • Comment Link Nelson Monday, 09 February 2015 08:03 posted by Nelson

    I am a dad and I got the custody of my son in December (few months ago) because my ex decided to moved out of state so I had notery done and she agreed and sign and judges signs too. But now she's moving back this summer, which would be after 6 months and she wants to get him back. My wife and I have 2 boys together 3 total with my son from ex wife. We lived in my hometown all my life and lived in same house over 3 years and my ex wife is always moving houses to house schools to schools and it hurts my sons behaviors. I was wondering what would be my chances to get to keep my son or would I lose him back to his mother? He is 6 years old boy.

  • Comment Link Jacki Sunday, 08 February 2015 04:47 posted by Jacki

    I am 22 years old, i own my own home, i work, my daughter is 6 this year and she goes to school, and gets wonderful grades. Her real father just got out of jail, hes threatened me, used to beat me, and put our daughter in danger that's on record, and did armed robbery, he lives with his dad with other people and he is on a tether, hes trying to take me to court for custody of our daughter. Hes seen her maybe 4 times her whole life, and doesn't know him. Whats going to happen?

  • Comment Link doug Sunday, 08 February 2015 03:05 posted by doug

    If I did not know I had a child for 10 years am I responsible for back child support

  • Comment Link jay Thursday, 05 February 2015 15:15 posted by jay

    ive been set up by my ex girlfriend of 8 years my son was just a baby when i got us a house to start a family a fresh start my son got hurt on his arm we went to court where i got my son i got told to move witch i did got my self and my son a place to live nothing was done or found out about his arm things where great for a wile then a house became free but it was in the same street as my ex we spoke about this befor i made the move so to make sure she was ok with it so i moved it ment she could see more of her son witch sometimes was all i could do to get her to have him at times after moveing about 6 months into living there my son got hurt again and the social took my son now in court it looks like there going to take him away from me ? my ex is 25 never worked a day has another child who is 8 and who sees me as dad she has said so many bad thing about me and plays the victim all the time . i had a chat to my exs mum and asked what more dose ur daughter want from me the mum said all she want is the hoouse this was the first time my son got hurt i think she done this as a plan to get me out and keep my son 1 bit worked as i had to leave the house but the courts gave me my son . so now again in court again i fear i will get the blame for hurting my son and lose him for good its so wrong and looks like she will get away with it , what if anything can i do as i know for sure if she gets my son he will in time get hurt again and i fear it may be to late or worse but ive been made out to be the monster ..

  • Comment Link jay Thursday, 05 February 2015 11:23 posted by jay

    ive been set up by my ex girlfriend of 8 years my son was just a baby when i got us a house to start a family a fresh start my son got hurt on his arm we went to court where i got my son i got told to move witch i did got my self and my son a place to live nothing was done or found out about his arm things where great for a wile then a house became free but it was in the same street as my ex we spoke about this befor i made the move so to make sure she was ok with it so i moved it ment she could see more of her son witch sometimes was all i could do to get her to have him at times after moveing about 6 months into living there my son got hurt again and the social took my son now in court it looks like there going to take him away from me ? my ex is 25 never worked a day has another child who is 8 and who sees me as dad she has said so many bad thing about me and plays the victim all the time . i had a chat to my exs mum and asked what more dose ur daughter want from me the mum said all she want is the hoouse this was the first time my son got hurt i think she done this as a plan to get me out and keep my son 1 bit worked as i had to leave the house but the courts gave me my son . so now again in court again i fear i will get the blame for hurting my son and lose him for good its so wrong and looks like she will get away with it , what if anything can i do as i know for sure if she gets my son he will in time get hurt again and i fear it may be to late or worse but ive been made out to be the monster ..

  • Comment Link Julia Mabe Tuesday, 03 February 2015 21:17 posted by Julia Mabe

    Just have a question for my friend who is pregnant not married what rights does she have as far as custody, putting his name on the birth certificate and having him in the delivery room. He is verbally abusing her and messing with her head

  • Comment Link Ash Sunday, 01 February 2015 22:12 posted by Ash

    I am 15, I live with my mom, I want to move provinces to live with my sister, can I do this?

  • Comment Link nicola Saturday, 31 January 2015 07:46 posted by nicola

    Hi I'm living with my boyfriend, but I think he's only here coz of our 4yr old son. He keeps saying he is leaving and taking our son.that he says he's not staying with me.he keeps saying I'm unfit mother as when he was younger our son pulled a cup of tea over him,by accident. But he was ok. Then last summer he said our son nearly went under the water in the pool. My boyfriend doesn't work. He said his mum said they can stay there. But her boyfriend smokes weed. They say it's for medical reasons but I don't think boyfriend has got anger issues where he does punch doors and everything else when he gets into the mood. I no he would never hurt his son. I just want to know what my rights are or what i can do pls.. He doesn't even take his son out. Nor never taken him to school nor picked him up. He never even taken him out when he was a baby. I did everything. He is on the birth certificate but never been married

  • Comment Link Michael Friday, 30 January 2015 16:44 posted by Michael

    I currently have physical custody of my son who is 15 yrs old. He has been under my roof since he was 10 yrs old.Our home has excellent struture and his grades are As accross the board. He is currently in wrestling and does very well in all school activities. We are considering a move out of state from Mi to Fl. My son is adamant about going with us. His mother is against it. She currently does not pay child support and sees him only on her weekend. What influence does the childs wants affect the judges decision for relacation?

  • Comment Link Chasity Wednesday, 28 January 2015 20:24 posted by Chasity

    When i got pregnant with my son the father who was living with me said it wasn't his. Now 13yrs later he is trying to take full custody of my son, my husbands name is on the birth certificate. I got in some trouble a year ago and my mom has custody of my kids right now. We are in the process of getting them they live with me and everything. Can he take custody of my son? He says he just found out about him and thats a lie. Please help me with an answer.

  • Comment Link Mathew Jones Wednesday, 28 January 2015 14:44 posted by Mathew Jones

    My wife took my son and went to her brothers they wouldn't let me talk to her or see my son they said she is getting a divorce but they wouldn't let me talk to her to see what's going on or see my child. They took her phone away do I couldn't contact her she was crying and because they threatened that if she let me see him or talked to me that she couldn't stay their and they wouldn't have anything to do with her my sister and brothers went to try and talk to her to see why I couldn't see my son talk to my wife and was witnessed my wife being pushed away from the door and wouldn't let her see them no legal process has been taken or no court order stating I can't see my child what can I DO

  • Comment Link cory singleton Sunday, 25 January 2015 12:11 posted by cory singleton

    My baby's my have 7 cases with Cps and she had the 8 child with me because we are fighting if I give up would she ever have a chance to get cusdy and she also missed all court dates already can someone tell me what will happen with that child if I give up and step down out of the child's life not trying to go to jail fight with her.....

  • Comment Link Maranda Wednesday, 21 January 2015 15:43 posted by Maranda

    Hi my name maranda in I have a pantner I was wondering how can she get rights the father was somebody I had sex with when I was on vacation I was drunk in don't have a idea who he is but I want to give her half rights to. My four month old son

  • Comment Link Darcy Monday, 19 January 2015 02:28 posted by Darcy

    I want to go for custody of my child,because my ex wife and her new boyfriend are mentally abusing her .Do I grounds to do this.I also had her at my principal residence for four years,and she is enrolled in a morning and after school program.

  • Comment Link chrissie locke Thursday, 15 January 2015 02:47 posted by chrissie locke

    My Daughter ex has now after 4 years wants to go for full custody of his son .they both do not have custody and he has been with her all his life and the father is in navy, and can afford a lawyer were she is a single mum .Where do we start ,he is emotionally and mentally abusing her .She has never stopped him from seeing him whenever. But now said he hates her and wants to get her back .

  • Comment Link brooke Monday, 12 January 2015 20:41 posted by brooke

    im going to criminal court for traffiking and im turning my life around my babies r my world its first and last offence and i dont have much support i have 3 boys 1 bby girl and the court is telling me they want to put them into care i dont want my babies in the system ive learnt my lesson they r my world i will do stupid stuff if i loose them what should i do?

  • Comment Link joe Saturday, 10 January 2015 14:19 posted by joe

    Me an my girlfriend broke up we have a 1 year old together i signed the birth certificate but we have not went to court for joint custody anyway i live in michigan she is trying to move to florida she was told even if i get my joint custody she can still leave without permission is this true an what can i do to keep my son in my life

  • Comment Link ganer Saturday, 10 January 2015 02:53 posted by ganer

    My girlfriend and I broke up few weeks ago. she started acting strange, she was ignoring all of my calls and won’t speak to me at all, i wanted us to be back together forever and work through things as a lovely couples. I just could not picture my life without her. i felt so rejected when i discovered that she was cheating on me. it made me go crazy because i took her as the only love of my life, my best friend, my soul mate, after making some research i found ONIHA on the net that he can restore broken relationship and i gave it a try, after using his love spell, my girlfriend came back to me asking for forgiveness and since then I definitely believe is real, I must admit, the result was perfect, wonderful, this caster ONIHA is real and trust worthy.

  • Comment Link Ryan Domke Friday, 09 January 2015 18:40 posted by Ryan Domke

    my brothers kids were taken from them in court i have til tomorrow to get them from going in to the system what do i do

  • Comment Link Pete Wednesday, 07 January 2015 23:22 posted by Pete

    I'm going through court at the moment and it's got to the stage I'm just about to give up I've been to court 4 times and nothings changing it's her way or not at all, first of all I was getting to see my son everyday untill I told my ex our relationship was over and we had to establish a relationship as friends for the sake of our son, I havent saw him since, her reasons at court were first hearing, violence and she got cought out lying, then my criminal record got dragged up, she convicted the court it wasn't all my record, so behold next time at court SAME criminal record ( driving offences & cannabis ) once the judge got 3x copies of the same record she's now moved onto I'm a drug user, I'm breaking my hart I've not seen my wee guy for a year now........ What am I to do. Ps I'm in scotland

  • Comment Link Ethan mathhew bennett Tuesday, 06 January 2015 05:04 posted by Ethan mathhew bennett

    Im 16 years old and i love my mom but i want to go live with my dad to see how life can be living with him.

  • Comment Link Jeff DIenst Saturday, 03 January 2015 22:45 posted by Jeff DIenst

    So I have had custody of my son since me and my spouse got divorced when my son was 2 years old. He is now 14 years old and in September my ex went to his school and picked him up and won't bring him back. He decided that he doesn't want to be disciplined for things he does wrong. She didn't have custody of her 21 year old and 18 year old until the 18 year old was 15 and didn't want to be disciplined by his father either and now he fathers an almost 3 year old and the 21 year old wasn't even fathered by the father that took care of her until she was legal. She went back to live with her Mom and hooked on heroin. This mother is only around when its convienient for her. She has many police reports for harassment and has a mental illness that is not under control. She now wants to take me to court to take over custody of him and wants child support. I didn't start getting child support on my son until he was 10 or 11. I didn't get child support from her for 8 to 9 years can I now go after her for that support she didn't pay in the past? How is it right she takes my kid and all she wants is support

  • Comment Link leroy parnell Saturday, 03 January 2015 21:43 posted by leroy parnell

    My cousin and her husband lost 2 kids to the state of GA 2 yrs ago. One yr ago she has the third baby that the state took straight from the hospital. They have a real bad drug problem. They have o.d mutiple times and was rushed to the e.r. Also both have been arrested numerous times. Dfcs stepped in and set certain criteria they had to meet. They did the exact opposite and failed drug tests. So it went in front of a judge, apparently that didnt sway them to stop the drugs because her husband passed out in front of the judge. Then they were allowed supervised visitation BUT STILL NO CHANGE. They would show up very messed and also passed out at visitation. So can someone please tell me how she was able to bring the 4th baby home from the hospital today. They are also feeding oxys to my 80 yr old grandma. Oh yea they just burned there house down 1 week agothat a aunt left to them in a will. Neither work or have any way to support there selfs. PLEASE CAN SOMEONE HELP EXPLAIN AND WHAT CAN I DO

  • Comment Link Thomas Wednesday, 31 December 2014 22:50 posted by Thomas

    Me and my girlfriend had to break up because of her ex husband, we went on a trip, he had a private investigator follow us and said we were drinking when we weren't, the only bad thing that was shown on the tape was me keeping her from getting inside our room, and her kids were percent. We are trying to find a loop whole or any way possible to get around what he is doing.

  • Comment Link David Reece Tuesday, 30 December 2014 06:13 posted by David Reece

    I am friends with my x we get on well she got pregnant young and the father of child no where to be seen I've been helping her bring the baby up I have him 2 or 3 nights I've had him since he was two mths old and hes 7 mths now and has bonded to me she wants me to adopt him so he will be under my name and will have a dad so to speak what are the pros and cons can this be done?

  • Comment Link jennyfer Tuesday, 30 December 2014 03:21 posted by jennyfer

    Brief history:
    My ex and I have joint legal custody of our daughter (8, soon to be 9). He has a history of several cos calls made against him and his girlfriend has lost custody of her oldest child for unknown reasons. I have been remarried for 4 years now. My husband has had one issue with threats made to me and we separated. My husband voluntarily joined counseling and we have been back together over a year.
    Now, here is my dilemma.....
    My ex has been refusing me visitation and even has our daughter telling me she doesn't want to come visit (I hear him in the background telling her what to say).
    He refuses to put me down on her medical and school records even though there is a court order.
    He allows his girlfriend to physically discipline our daughter even though there is a no corporeal punishment order.
    My biggest issues.....
    He is being evicted for the 3rd time in 5 years and wants to move our daughter in with a convicted drug felon who I am pretty sure is still using. He refuses to let our daughter come live with me until he is stable.
    Tonight I called our daughter and she informs me that she and my ex were involved in a car accident and she sustained head, back, and neck injuries. HE never called me to inform me of this, she just happened to tell me. Now here is the biggest issue....he was driving the car with 1. A cast on his driving foot and 2. Under the influence of prescription pain medicine. Do you feel I have grounds for getting her under the circumstances of child endangerment and instability? Or am I going to have a difficult time because of my previous problems with my current husband? Thank you in advance

  • Comment Link wandy Sunday, 28 December 2014 10:48 posted by wandy

    I m relationship with the father of twins, and lately mother of twins contact the father to take them so he look after them. He told me all the situation of the boys . He go and fetch boys. When thy arrive on house we under weight nd sores on head and was no clothes for them . Nd later stage take them to hospital nd find out since thy hv 11 weeks no vacination. Nd I m worried maybe one day will take them to me.

  • Comment Link Charlie Saturday, 27 December 2014 16:56 posted by Charlie

    The father of my unborn child stopped seeing me before I found out I was pregnant coz he said he wanted to move country. When he found out I was pregnant he was not happy and still wanted to move country.

    He is now saying that if I stop him from seeing his child he will take me to court.

    I have had thoughts about moving to the uk where my other child's dad lives as he cannot move here because he also has a son over there. All his side of the family also live over there.

    What would be the chances I would win in court to move the the uk with my kids?

  • Comment Link Shawn Saturday, 27 December 2014 00:34 posted by Shawn

    Im a single father and child welfare took my children from thier mother and gave them to me,they are also fully supporting me for full custody,will i get it?

  • Comment Link Elizabeth Friday, 19 December 2014 01:17 posted by Elizabeth

    And that I stop them seen her. I have picked her up from school a couple off time early because I am scared they take her and want give her back as they so evil and like playin head games. It was a bad relaship were violent was involed but I never reported it to the police but keep some photo off my back after. All I want to now we're do I stand as I am living with my mam as wait on a counical house and he's share a house with this man .

  • Comment Link cinthia Thursday, 04 December 2014 03:34 posted by cinthia

    my husband has mental problems, he has been depressed for a long time, last may he serve me the divorce with out notice, when i was getting ready my stuff for response his petition he came back home because he said that he love me and my daugter. after that we take terapy togheter, after 2 sesion he said that he coudn't do it so he left and he was getting ready to leave the house but he didn't. his depression doesn't let him see anything he is irritated all the time and he sais that he wants to go and find his happiness, anyway like 3 weeks ago I notice his depresion was getting bad again and last week i went to the store with my daughter and when I came back he was gone he let a house and said that he wanted to find happiness togheter, since then any time that we talk he wants to do wherever he wants witout asking me he tells me when he is comming to visit our daughter and he wants to file for joint custody, i said that i feel is better for our 3 year old to stay with me and he can come and visit her any day. i have been mentlly abuse but I undersatd is for his depression, but i want that my baby can be safe and also i really want her to see her daddy. what possibility is that he can get the joint custody? i also have a journal with his ups and downs and 3 therapist have said that he needs to take madication but he doesn't want he always said that he is fine.

  • Comment Link April Crane Monday, 01 December 2014 10:08 posted by April Crane

    I have a 17 year old son and he has decided that he wants to live with me and go to school where I live. The only thing is he is afraid of the grandparents that he is living with now. And they are threatening me that if I don't send him back to the school where the parental grandmother was a teacher and has a lot of pull up there I could go to jail. I have tried to be nice about everything and just keep the peace but now that he's 17 and wants to be able to live with me in the state of Mississippi instead of Alabama what can I do. I can't afford to pay a lawyer and I have already been in jail for about 6 days for not paying for a car and filing bankruptcy for. Please help me find out what I can do legally not only for me and him but for my 16 year old daughter and 15 year old son as well if they want to leave to.

  • Comment Link kevin Tuesday, 25 November 2014 21:57 posted by kevin

    Wife left daughter..few months child didnt want to.go..wife.told.her i.would kill her if.she didnt leave with her she goes.weeks not calling nothing..wife was child by family.member she never told.anyone until we met.i.made her tell her mom..basically her mom said.dont tell anyone yourself my daugher is.around.the.person who did thiss my wife an the person who did nothing about it ..if it happend no one said.nothing what makes me.think wouldnt happend again.or hasnt..i fear daughters saftey..can i file for.immediate custody

  • Comment Link Cristina Monday, 24 November 2014 00:26 posted by Cristina

    My ex husbands new girlfriend has lpst 2 kids to DOCS and i dont trust her around my kids can i take him to court

  • Comment Link kristi Saturday, 22 November 2014 02:32 posted by kristi

    My ex and I have had joint custody primary residence with me mother for 7 years now ..I recently filed for sole custody ..his response to my papers where degrading me with lies about me not being a good mother ..shouldI worrie about these awful accusations

  • Comment Link ernest ochoa Friday, 21 November 2014 17:34 posted by ernest ochoa

    my girlfriend has had her child taken away by the courts in the past and has had child social service investigate her twice in the past year. once because of her 16 yr old selling pot out of the house which he was busted for. another time was when my son was born 5 months ago she had weed in her and his system. her son smokes pot feet away from him all the time and wont stop or find a job. we bothhave had a past drug problem she has been threatening me about taking him away. i believe that her past stuff will hurt her but i too have a past with drugs 5 years ago. will the courts see how terrible she can be?

  • Comment Link Aida Gonzalez Friday, 21 November 2014 02:06 posted by Aida Gonzalez

    I have joint custody with my kids father but with primary recidence with me mother does that give him the right to take my kids when ever he feels like it

  • Comment Link Aida Gonzalez Friday, 21 November 2014 02:04 posted by Aida Gonzalez

    I have joint custody with my kids father but with primary recidence with me mother does that give him the right to take my kids when ever he feels like it

  • Comment Link Robert Green Jr. Thursday, 20 November 2014 19:52 posted by Robert Green Jr.

    I've divorced my wife in 2002. Our son was 6 months old.She got primary custody. I got weekends with him... I payed her child support till i lost my job and it got behind. She took me to court.. So ive been paying regular support plus back support. Seven yrs. ago my x wife had a horrible accident and became disabled...She now receives disability food stamps, medicare, for herself. She also gets clothes voulture once a year for our son . She buys alot of jewelry and she and her boyfriend goes on at least 5 trips a year without our son.. She brings him to me...And when hes out of school during the summer for 8 years now i have him...I know i have to pay child support. and back pay..but shouldn't the regular payment go down since all these changes has occurred?

  • Comment Link DARREN ULLGER Friday, 14 November 2014 15:51 posted by DARREN ULLGER


  • Comment Link Jameson carter Wednesday, 12 November 2014 23:22 posted by Jameson carter

    My parents split up, doses the mother keep custody of me if I stayed with her. Right now I with my dad and my mom is in Missouri with my grandma or her mom getting money to support me when she comes back. But my dad has a plan to go to Maryland. But I want to stay with my mother.

  • Comment Link cally Wednesday, 12 November 2014 14:42 posted by cally

    Need advice. Me and partner are seperating however i wish to give him sole custody of our daughter. As i have recently started work and my other two children are and will be in nursery. He has nowhere to stay so he would have to sort out an accomadation. What advice would u give and how would i go about this

  • Comment Link Christina aguilar Monday, 10 November 2014 03:46 posted by Christina aguilar

    My ex hus band says he Can have ny daughter bh he has his own house and a job.ive been their for almost 5 years.He took 2 years .now he wanting ripper her away

  • Comment Link Lori Archuleta Thursday, 06 November 2014 11:59 posted by Lori Archuleta

    My ex filed for full custody and was denied its been a year now how do I get her back

  • Comment Link JOE Wednesday, 05 November 2014 15:20 posted by JOE

    My husband and I have been separated now for 6 months. We came to an agreement that we would share responsibility for the children and our current arrangement is that we each have them 50% of the time (i.e. they live in each of our houses on a equal number of nights during each week). This was agreed on the basis that we felt that it was important that they spent equal time with their parents, afterall it was not their fault that we split up. Recently though, my ex husband has decided that he wants to go for full custody of the children and has been sending threatening messages regarding evidence he has to say I am an unfit mother. Both of us work full-time and we have amde adequate provisions for childcare. We both earn reasonable salaries and each live in nice homes. I previously worked part-time and was the primary carer for the children, but have had to increase my hours to full time in order to afford living expenses etc. We split everything 50/50 financially and have managed so far to split the costs of the children without having to agree on any maintenance payments. Clearly it would not be in the best interests of the children if they were taken away from me when everything is running perfectly smoothly as it is where the children are spending equal time with us. There is no history of any domestic abuse, alcoholism or drug abuse on either side. We both enjoy a drink from time to time and this is what my ex husband plans to use against me (i.e. I had a few drunken nights when we were married and have been out enjoying myself too much on the nights that he has had the children). Surely this is not enough grounds for me being deemed as a bad mother and the kids taken away from me?

  • Comment Link CorieAnna Tuesday, 04 November 2014 16:46 posted by CorieAnna

    My little brother and sister live with my aunt and uncle and they will not allow me to.see them .what can I do? Do I have any rights to them?

  • Comment Link wade Thursday, 30 October 2014 12:20 posted by wade

    My x (female), left after 10 years, with mo reason, and cut all contact since.she very quickly found someone else, for no more than a fling.ever since, she had this hate for me, and had used our kid's? Lies in court,and had tried putting 4 intervention orders against me.theres a temp custody order in place, tgat she has breached already, ans now her mum is helping her.our kids want to live with me,because there angry at there mother, for wha she continues to do to me.she has written 3 time now, that she wants nothing from me or yge house, and now I sold it, she wants half.i had every intention, dispite that she said she didn't want anything, to give her $10,000 and I yold her mum I would do this too.eveything she has done, shows me that she wasn't shore of what she was doing,and had health has suffered,and my children are clearly affected by her actions.if I were guilty of any wrong doing, I would walk away, but im not, nore are the kid's.its costs me $10,000 so far, and I would spend every last cent, to have any lawyer and jugde maje her realize what she's done, is wrong!.just like when a man leaves his family,why cant women be seen as being in the wrong; under the same sercomstances?.a land of opportunity, were both women and man gave equal rites!, proudto be Australian!, it's sad that I would say, far from it!.

  • Comment Link sue jiminez Monday, 27 October 2014 19:15 posted by sue jiminez

    hello my 16 year daughter has a 3 month old son and this last friday her sons father was abusive with her. how do i go about filing for custody for my daughter and to get a restraining order on him? can you please direct me in the right area please?

  • Comment Link steve Monday, 20 October 2014 17:26 posted by steve

    l have residence of my son all legal my exwife did'nt want him full time just see him every other weekend yea agree to that he loves he mum.But see contacting school behind my back is she aloud to do this.....?

  • Comment Link mcr Saturday, 18 October 2014 03:22 posted by mcr

    My ex filed with a court a doctors letter staying our 9yo daughter only weighed 52lbs and was malnourished when he got her for summer vacation, there is no date of exam. 6 days before she left I took her to the ER because she wasn't feeling well and she was weighed acc measured. Her weight was 64.5lbs only 6 days before. His mother in law works at this clinic so don't believe it's a real letter. What can I do?

  • Comment Link Missy Friday, 17 October 2014 00:38 posted by Missy

    I live in Az, and was wondering if i am appointed sole custody due to domestic violence, and he has been charged with it..and lied to the judge when asked about it.

  • Comment Link sitara Tuesday, 14 October 2014 20:57 posted by sitara

    plsss help husband divorced me on june 2011...i didnt met my kids since last 3 husb n parents doesnt allow me to meet my kids or talk to them..i m going to be hopeless day by day...plssss help me through n ngo or by any other name is sitara ch

  • Comment Link theresa quintero Monday, 13 October 2014 01:35 posted by theresa quintero

    my girlfriend has primary custody of our children, i have had them for six months and they are registered in school. she wants to come and take them out of school because she doesnt want to loose her child supporl. i dont care about the money but i am concered about relocating them in the middle of the year. they are doing very well and im afraid that moving them might affect them

  • Comment Link lakshmi Friday, 10 October 2014 19:41 posted by lakshmi


    My husband out of home from 3 months now he threatening me that he wants a divorce in mutual consent.
    i have an onsite opportunity and i need a no objection letter from him for taking my child.
    he is not ready to give that. and he is saying neither he will stay with us nor he will allow us to go abroad. if i give child he will take care

    what can i do in this situation

  • Comment Link Jose Thursday, 09 October 2014 19:35 posted by Jose

    I've been to prison for assault twice. I Have one child with the woman that I for into these legal problems with. I'm moving in from my past left the area, friends and her. She has not. She is drinking and driving just not caught yet. She allows the kids to ride in the car without seat belts, allows my 5 year old to ride in the front seat of the car she has told himhow to hide if she says the police officer Is coming. What can I do to get my son or of this situation?

  • Comment Link Celesté Thursday, 09 October 2014 12:00 posted by Celesté

    Good day, what can I do if I think that it is not in my 8 year old daughter's best interest to visit her father alone as he is not capable of looking after her as he is a drunk? He also doesn't stay in the same province as us.
    He is now suing for set visitation.

  • Comment Link savannah Wednesday, 08 October 2014 05:22 posted by savannah

    Pls I need help asap I have court n the am my x husband and I got a divorce n the divorce he gave up his rights later we found out he is the father but my middle child's dad has been the one providing for her since birth and is on her birth certificate but the court wants to give him his rights back how is that if he knows nun about her or seen her n 8 years pls help me he's also been with my mom and sister I don't want this man around my child she's also a disabled child

  • Comment Link kirsty Friday, 03 October 2014 11:05 posted by kirsty

    hi, social worker has advised that they think joint custody is appropriate for me and childs father, i want to be the main carer as he works full time and id rather and think it makes more sence that the kids are looked after by me rather then a childminder. he insisting he wants them to live with me but he really hasnt time for them, he leaves for work before 7am and dosent return for kids untill about 5.30pm. i dont work and have another baby due in 8 weeks as well, i have lots of support off new partner and i live within 5 mins walking distance from childrens school nursary. what are chances of him managing to keep kids living with him
    thank you

  • Comment Link Chris Beman Saturday, 27 September 2014 18:59 posted by Chris Beman

    I never made a police ,report about my husbands bad verbal abuse toward me because I was scared and the guardian ad litem didn't put in her report anything about the verbal abuse that I told her . Can I still use the fact that my husband verbally abused me when I go to court for a custody battle

  • Comment Link brittany Friday, 19 September 2014 21:48 posted by brittany

    My daughter grandma has offered to help take care ofy while I moved back to my home town for a job now her grandmother is trying to keep her...they don't answer mycalls on top that her dad has moved back their now he has no job or house. Iv tryd for the past 2years to get her..BT I can't keep losing jobs over this. Their trying to keep her.I'm a good mom i m not drugs I work at a collection frim. Her Father also was very abusive I have a police and retraing order.what should I do???

  • Comment Link brittany Friday, 19 September 2014 21:46 posted by brittany

    My daughter grandma has offered to help take care ofy while I moved back to my home town for a job now her grandmother is trying to keep her...they don't answer mycalls on top that her dad has moved back their now he has no job or house. Iv tryd for the past 2years to get her..BT I can't keep losing jobs over this. Their trying to keep her.I'm a good mom i m not drugs I work at a collection frim. Her Father also was very abusive I have a police and retraing order.what should I do???

  • Comment Link brittany Friday, 19 September 2014 21:45 posted by brittany

    My daughter grandma has offered to help take care ofy while I moved back to my home town for a job now her grandmother is trying to keep her...they don't answer mycalls on top that her dad has moved back their now he has no job or house. Iv tryd for the past 2years to get her..BT I can't keep losing jobs over this. Their trying to keep her.I'm a good mom i m not drugs I work at a collection frim. Her Father also was very abusive I have a police and retraing order.what should I do???

  • Comment Link Adena Ellen Thursday, 18 September 2014 16:03 posted by Adena Ellen

    As a physically and emotionally abused wife and mother of 13 years 10 years of the relationship I held a store manager position carried insurance for myself my husband and 2 children. Was head of the household as husband couldn't hold a job due to habitual marajuaina user. I want to add that I have nothing against the use of this plant by others I myself do not use it but my husband did daily which meant getting a job wasnt easy for him.... But smoking would make his physical and verbal abuse almost nonexistent... Husband is a good dad with 10 or more times of verbally and physically abusing our son from 2-8 and daughter 2-5 that I witnessed. The last 2 years of the marriage he offered to get a job and allow me to experience being a staying home mom.. When I worked the 2 children were 5 days a week 8 plus hours a day at a daycare that readied them for school and allowed interaction as well as independence withot out mommy or daddy I paid cash 800 monthly even when I couldn't afford to so I knew the kids were safe and so husband could have his "alone" time he had been literally punishing me for not giving him... Daycare rent utilities clothing food vehicle maintence ect. All covered by me... Anyways I was thrilled and terrified all together with this new change but trusted my husband to do the right things and not let us be without home food or needs... I actually used my degree in early childhood education and had a full lesson planned 5 days a week preschool to help my son be ready for school. ;-) still all the while enduring abuse and accepting blame as not filling my role as a wife should when he 13 times commites adultry.. Upon my finding out and trying to rationally approach the situation would be put through any where from 1 hour to weeks on end of verbally emotionally broken and very mythotical physical abuse. He would punch my knees hands feet as they don't bruise he would pull hair pour hot and cold water on me as I lay on the floor he would step on my face smashing it into the floor kick me down as I attempted to get up and tell me how he hated me and I was retarded stupid or stupid fucking bitch so much in fact our 3 year old at the time son not knowing the hurt or bad words being wrong asked me while I did dishes while off work more muggie (milk) stupid fucking bitch" :-O I was stunned as he had learnt that as my name due to being called this so many times :-( I was unemployed for 2 years living in a trailer tht husbands parents had purchased for us to live in and pay monthly till paid in full to have deed in our name still being abused and getting worse on me and the children I had gotten addicted to opiets and successfully gotten myself sober (still maintaining soberity 6 years now) he still using weed and for the 13th time was unfaithful... And again inflicted pain out as much as inner and for some reason I had enough and 24 days after his 13th woman outside our marriage and 3 other times of abuse I packed a bag and put my 2 children to bed kissing them crying so bad it hurts now even because I knew my unemployment and no home or family help that Leaving them with their dad was the best decision knowing without me the children would be 97% in the inlaws care who are devine with my kids and my not having income or home would only cause my children suffering and more confusion than they already would I want the best for them I knew the talk and rumors that would and did unfold but I think that my self image or public opinion would be horrible and say hurtful things but didn't care because I knew it was right to not make Ethan and Elaine suffer MORE from my and my husbands failed marriage... Now that being said I maintained seeing the kids during divorce and asked husband to not fight over them that I would never keep them from him and to please not from me. But he has since I left done all he could and then more by allowing his parents to add even more to what he was doing and keep my children away. Hours I would wait for him to come home when he knew I was waiting not allowing me to speak to them telling them I was a whore nd on drugs that I didn't love them and hated them... Lying to the school saying I was ordered to no contact with them both when court hadn't even happened and even continued into after court ordered visitation orders were in place... I have a job a home and insurance for me and my children! I am perfectly ok with taking them to their current school and do NOT wish to take custody away from their dad not even after what he has done to me. I want their dad in their life and his family! When and where ever he wants! I just want to gain my custody back that I willingly for the childrens best interest with no other option given but tht..... I now know I shouldnt of been scared of court alone and or his lawyer and himself but I also know it was right to not pull them through suffering as I rebooted and started over... Now 2 years passing I want to know if I have a chance at getting my custody back and will 2 years of him disobeying the visitation order and inventing his own rules to make seeing my kids allowed for example I was to have sex with him and then could have the scheduled weekend I was already suppose to have.... And myself scared of him yes but also he has family police that wouldn't enforce court order sayin exhusband was allowed to make his own rules and make me leave :-( with proof of all and this being whats happened will it help?

  • Comment Link richard Friday, 12 September 2014 03:03 posted by richard

    I wanna leave my wife she is bipolar only reaspn im putting up with her is because of my cjildren she complains to much about taking the children to school and cleaning she has had one children services case and i fear the worst can happen if i leave my children in her full time what can i do as a father to get them to my full custody

  • Comment Link David Wednesday, 10 September 2014 06:54 posted by David

    I am a loving father of a 2 month old girl and there is nothing I wouldn't do for my daughter but sadly my relationship with the mother is falling apart mainly because she will not agree to a routine for my daughter and the way we should bring her up the mother believes that that what she is doing is the right thing for our daughter but I have spent time reading and resurching methords and routines for my daughter and even showed her that they work but she still refuses to work as a family I am worried that she may take my daughter from me I have tried and tried to work things out so we can be a family I love them both to bits but my partner has threatend me that she will take my daughter from me and some times threatened to take her out of the country back to my partners birth home I am really worried about this and I don't know what rights I have to have custody of my daughter I am in full time work and I have a healthy family network in the country my partner doesn't have any family with in the uk can you please give me some advice

  • Comment Link Melanie De Sunday, 07 September 2014 15:31 posted by Melanie De

    My boyfriend and I have only been together for a few short weeks, our break ups with our husband and wife were very close to our get together. My boyfriends ex is telling everyone that we had an affair, which is very untrue, we were both separated before we started. We would like to move in together but his ex won't let the kids have anything to do with me, and now decides when and where he sees the kids. Can she do this? Together can we have the kids at our new home? What legally can we do? What are his rights? Is there no strong feature in his and her lives.

  • Comment Link nikkos acosta Thursday, 28 August 2014 23:37 posted by nikkos acosta

    my ex took my son from me and i couldn't find her for 3 years and now she says i abanonded him. i tried to contact her brother and mother through Facebook but still the social worker says i abandoned him. it seems like she has a all these people on her side but no one is hearing me what do i do

  • Comment Link pryscilla ponce Wednesday, 20 August 2014 08:20 posted by pryscilla ponce

    My realtionship with my boyfriend is great but he has a son and he's mother came back in their life threatening to take his son away if he doesn't let her try to be a happy family but he doesn't want her taking him away so he has to do. What do I do he says she gave him the paper work but she was a former drug user and the only way now is because she's clean how do I keep this realtionship without her threating to take away his son how do I help even as a friend if she is threatening to take his boy away just because I'm I the picture she won't leave him alone or let him be happy so why is she allowed to do this to him when she said she never wanted the kid in the first place?? Please help asap

  • Comment Link pryscilla ponce Wednesday, 20 August 2014 08:18 posted by pryscilla ponce

    My realtionship with my boyfriend is great but he has a son and he's mother came back in their life threatening to take his son away if he doesn't let her try to be a happy family but he doesn't want her taking him away so he has to do. What do I do he says she gave him the paper work but she was a former drug user and the only way now is because she's clean how do I keep this realtionship without her threating to take away his son

  • Comment Link Darnice Grady Tuesday, 19 August 2014 23:00 posted by Darnice Grady sister is having a baby n is on drugs and I want to obtain custody however from past experiences with my grandchildren I was told by DHS because of my past,,and a prostitution charge ..I am not qualified...However my charge was in n2004-2006

  • Comment Link stewart Kenneth Tuesday, 19 August 2014 07:54 posted by stewart Kenneth

    My daughter has a job her x boy friend don't try to keep a job also my daughter lives with us can my daughter get full coustdy

  • Comment Link Chris Stewart Sunday, 17 August 2014 21:07 posted by Chris Stewart

    I'm considering filing a motion for custody change; however, I'm not sure if what is happening justifies it. Hopefully someone can enlighten me. My ex and I have joint legal custody of our 9-year old boy--four years now. I provide most of the financial support and, more importantly, spend more time with him. His mother has pretty much been able to do what she pleases in terms of altering visitation schedules. I have been more than flexible in going with the flow, since it would mean more time with my son. As of late, the ex has a serious boyfriend; she stays over at his place--about 15-20 miles away from where my son goes to school--each and every night, taking my son with her when she has him. My son doesn't want to go there each night but is told he has no choice in the matter. On top of this, he revealed to me--I haven't asked him any guiding questions regarding this mind you--that he sometimes has to sleep on the couch and is often awakened in the middle of the night by his mom making moaning sounds from where she is sleeping with her boyfriend. He knocks on the door to see if she is all right, but is told to go back to bed. I have voiced my displeasure with her taking my son over there, but have been told it is none of my f*$%#ing business. Do I have any grounds to seek a change in the present custody situation? Thanks.

  • Comment Link sean Sunday, 10 August 2014 09:10 posted by sean

    The mother of my twin daughters suffers with depression and is on anti depressants would I be able to get sole custody easily with that factor?

  • Comment Link Nani Sunday, 10 August 2014 05:06 posted by Nani

    At the time my son was 16 yrs old and was going thru the lost of a relative that he was very close too. And during this time, my husband's best friend's wife (who's 13 yrs older) took advantage of my son by having sexual intercourse with him. When I found this out, this lady was pregnant and so I called our police department to report this, but instead the lead detective made me feel helpless, since she stated "I don't think the police can do anything since this is a sticky situation and that my 16 yr old son may feel their relationship was consensual, and that she and I would be going to court knowing it could be thrown out if my son denies my report". Anyways, my son is now 19 yrs old and finally realized that she was just using him for sexual favors just so he could see his child. This beautiful innocent baby girl is now unable to see her father sine last month due to my son letting her husband know what was going on?Although her husband is in great denial, and is siding with her? They have 3 kids prior to having the baby who turned one. My son now wants to legally get custody of this child, but 1) his name isn't on the birth certificate; and 2) although my son gave her money for the baby and tried watching the baby on a set schedule she always made it to where she had the upper hand and control in the situation by manipulating him? We're now looking into getting a lawyer to help pursue paternity and custody. What other advise can you give us while we're going thru this?

  • Comment Link connie Thursday, 07 August 2014 15:21 posted by connie

    my son was out with a friend son at his fathers work and a mother of a different friend picked my son and drove them to a spot that i did not ok what can i do about this

  • Comment Link Michelle Monday, 04 August 2014 14:46 posted by Michelle

    My fiancee is fighting for custody of his son and if he gets it we were told I would no longer be able to spend the night with his anymore until we're married! Is that true?

  • Comment Link david Tuesday, 29 July 2014 16:50 posted by david

    I live in Tennessee my ex has recently lied an took off to Michigan with my son an want come back my rights to my son is every other week I get him Wednesday through Sunday an I have not seen him in a month can she do that

  • Comment Link ashley Monday, 28 July 2014 18:48 posted by ashley

    I have a question, We are in a situation where my boyfriend has two other children. At this time one lives with us and the other lives with her. The one that lives with us would like to go live with his mother. My boyfriend is a stay at home dad to our two children and works about an hour or so each night making around $6 hour. How does the child support work since he is really not making much and he is a stay at home father.

  • Comment Link Charles Friday, 25 July 2014 21:14 posted by Charles

    Hi, my girlfriend live with me, and we have 2 kids together. After argue 2 days ago because she accused me for cheating on her and left the house with the kids. She turned off her cell phone so I can't talk to my kids. A week later I received a letter from sheriff department that she accuse me for family violence and said that I hit her 7 months ago or it's a lie. what should I do?

  • Comment Link Dan Seekins Wednesday, 23 July 2014 19:38 posted by Dan Seekins

    Hi, my name is Dan. Up until Friday I have been having contact with my daughter Every Tuesday and every other weekend for about 6 months, before this it was 1 night a weekend one week and then a full weekend the week after, never through the week. The reason this changed is because we went to mediation.

    Now, the mother of my daughter has decided that she wants to have joint custody and is dropping my daughter at my house Sunday evening to stay with me until Tuesday evening, then later in the week Friday PM through til Tuesday PM (but going back to hers on the Sunday night).

    She is also off work at the minute as she works at schools so is on holiday. She knows I work full time so she is asking me to send our daughter to a child minder/nursery to try and get to me financially.

    Where do I stand with this situation, do I just have to do as she says. I can do the dates she has decided but I need to arrange a child minder/nursery.

    My preference would be to have full custody. If she 'abandons' my daughter at my house on Sunday without my agreement what can I do??

  • Comment Link alicia escobar Wednesday, 23 July 2014 12:36 posted by alicia escobar

    Can my ex husband and his common or wife take away a 27 year old daughter

  • Comment Link Tony grande Tuesday, 15 July 2014 02:15 posted by Tony grande

    Hi names tony I'm going through a divorce and I actually have court on 8/25/2014 regarding visitations with my daughter she only a month old she was born on 6/8/14 .. My ex wife lives with her parents in a two bedroom apartment with seven people she does not have her own room or a crib for my daughter .. And on the otherside u live on my own I'm a two bedroom apartment I have made my second room into a nursing room and I'm taking parenting classes .. But my question is will my ex wife have problems for her living situation

  • Comment Link Lauren Murray Sunday, 13 July 2014 15:10 posted by Lauren Murray

    My ex husband and I are going down the court route as he won't stick to visitation we've been separated for a year next month, he has now started a new relationship with someone 10yrs his junior she has had a child removed from her by social services and naturally I'm worried as I have two children under the age of 5. I've told my ex husband that if I can't find out why she had her child removed I'm uncomfortable with her having anything to do with my children my kids safety is my number 1 priority and but my ex husband seems happy enough to put them at risk by involving her behind my back. His visitation has never has never been regular due to him not showing up to see the kids.
    Where would he stand in court with his irregular visitation and the fact that he is potentially putting our children at risk as he doesn't know either why his new partner has had a child removed?

  • Comment Link Dorbria Saturday, 12 July 2014 16:15 posted by Dorbria

    My childs father has taking my child because i ended it with him he has taken my child to his aunt house he isnt there can i go over with law enforcement and get my child.

  • Comment Link  Rohail Mughal Wednesday, 09 July 2014 09:59 posted by Rohail Mughal

    I need help
    I came to uk on spouse visa .my wife is British we were living before in Pakistan after 1years my wife brought me here I left my career everything back for my wife .when I moved here me and my wife live 1month together .and in this one month I face to many problems from her or with her family I decided to find a job finally I got the job in london but my wife was not happy to moved with me as she wanted to live with her parents we had argue with each other from that day we r seperated I moved to london ANC she lives in helifex .after few month I come to know from my relatives that she is pregnent I tried yo contact her but can't I phoned to her parents her sibling but no one is telling me that where she is .i been trying to find my wife and my baby since 2 years but can't my question is how do I found them .i m very worried if any one can help me .plz wait to hear your reasponce

  • Comment Link roman Wednesday, 09 July 2014 05:27 posted by roman

    I have a 3 yr old & a 16 mnth old baby their mother doesn't have any thing goin for her self not even a license to operate a vehicle.I payed for her way to come bak from nw mex and she let me and my 2 boys down she is an unstable mother w a violent past could I get full custody of my boys?

  • Comment Link firefly1 Saturday, 05 July 2014 07:04 posted by firefly1

    Ok, so she is supposed to do all of the doctors visits, cleaning, cooking, working, holidays and everything else. They have joint custody, so if he "barely gets to see her" because you guys live in separate states, why should he not be responsible in some way, for a life he helped create. This is a load of crap! His job is hectic...poor guy...not the child, nor the mothers fault! Maybe you should butt out and try to put yourself in this single moms shoes!! I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot...this would be an entirely different post! She gets the better end of the deal having to raise this child alone, with a father who can only take the time twice a year. And a new wife who is outraged he has to pay support. Yahoo sounds like she has the better bargain...grow up! Do not be the supporter of a dead beat dad...what if this was your child?

  • Comment Link Kylee Roberts Friday, 04 July 2014 07:13 posted by Kylee Roberts

    Hi my husband and his ex went to court about a year ago and got awarded joint legal custody she wants to take him to court and get his rights removed because he doesn't call her every day (he calls her at the least once a week, since his work hours are very hectic) they live in different states us virginia her in Maine so visiting is about twice a year one because of his work and two because money husband love his daughter and since he can't call everyday is a means to being a bad parent to his child. Also his daughter is three and cannot focus on phone calls like older children yet. What she wants is to get his parental rights removed but him to still have to pay child support which for the time being he has full financial support I guess that's what the judge said because she hasn't work to support her daughter more then a month her daughters whole life. Say by some miracle the judge agrees with her which I believe won't happen because from what I read he has not abandoned her. Could he still have to pay support and if he does can he make it lower since he really won't have any rights to her? And if she doesn't I to court to try and do this how long can he still be full financial before she has to put her share of it in? It should be 50/50 right? Expesically since she gets the better end of the deal she gets the child all the time and he barely gets to see her?

  • Comment Link Amanda Tuesday, 01 July 2014 15:22 posted by Amanda

    If a father has been gone for 3 years (child was 7 mths old) and then decides to show up and want something to do with child, how do I get visitation rights taken away

  • Comment Link  shimaa Friday, 27 June 2014 20:13 posted by shimaa

    One day I was visiting my sick mom alone and I came back to my house to find out that he left the country with our son without letting me know and without my permission bascily he kidnapped our son. Please help me to see my son again I really miss him

  • Comment Link shimaa Friday, 27 June 2014 19:59 posted by shimaa

    My husband he take our son without letting me know and without my permission he kidnapped him one day when I was visiting my sick mom alone. I come back to my house to find out that he left the country with our son.he went to usa. Please help me to see my son again i miss him so much please help

  • Comment Link jodie Friday, 27 June 2014 14:30 posted by jodie

    I was married 11 years ago to a man who beat me on a daily basis and beat my kids almost killed our son 2 times when he found out I was moving he tried to kill my son saying u won't see a penny from me in support if he's I fled but b4 so he tried staggling my son with blanket and beat me and my 2 younger kids to a pulp .cops had to chase him down and was n jail 4 years for it..well I need to file for support what's ecery one thoughts on if he will get any rights to my child...

  • Comment Link Abigail Wednesday, 25 June 2014 14:17 posted by Abigail

    Alexis Tinker, if you aren't married depending on state, you already have custody. He has the right to fight for paternal rights but may have none to your child currently. I was in a similar but also abusive situation. I finally left with my 5 and 2 yr old. They have his last name and I have sole custody. He still gets to see them and we haven't needed mediation or visitation being that I am so cooperative and supportive of open contact. It all depends on the safety and well being of the child. Good luck!

  • Comment Link john finler Tuesday, 24 June 2014 19:48 posted by john finler

    Child custody is not a case that can be won easily. With the help of lawyers, luck, and evidence, there is still a chance that you might loose the case. You need the best lawyers that can prove the best case in court in order for you to stand a chance. The lawyers at are a great group of proffesionals that will give you the best chance of winning a case. If you are a dad these lawyers are the best choice for you. Since you are the dad, then you are at a disatvantage already, but these guys will ensure a win for you if you hire them.

  • Comment Link Robert Sunday, 15 June 2014 03:44 posted by Robert

    My ex girlfriend pushed me down to the floor, I got up and went into bathroom where I locked the door. She kicked in the door causing it to strike me in the face. I worry that she might take her anger out on our five month old baby. She has a history of stalking me, harassing me via text and phone calls. I never reported these acts of domestic violence in fear that she would with hold my daughter from me. Should I file for a emergency restraining order and try to get custody of daughter. This happened in October of 2013. I'm concerned of daughters well being. What if I can't get custody, I know she'll do every thing possible to keep her from me.

  • Comment Link Kenneth Perdue Monday, 02 June 2014 13:44 posted by Kenneth Perdue

    Id really appreciate any advice, this is my story. .
    Me and my 3yr old son's mother have lived together for almost 5yrs,,about 2 1/2 months ago she took a temporary job in Tennessee and we live in Georgia. .I have taken care of our son from day one since she went back to work when he was just 6 weeks old. .anyway she came home from Tennessee and told me she took a permanent position and that she had been spending all of her time with a man she worked with and that she was moving there and in with him with our son. ..She has joint custody of two other children with her ex-husband. .But by moving to Tennessee she gave up her 50% custody of her 2 she's refusing to let me see our son or even let me know he's ok..keep in mind I have raised our son up until this point. .his whole world as in everything he knows. .his whole family. .including his brother and sister and even her family reside here in Forsyth Georgia.'s morally wrong what she done not putting her kids and the rest of the family have the time..home..and the love to raise him in a good environment and she doesn't. .she put him in a daycare in a big city for up to 10hrs a day so she doesn't have the time to spend with him and raise or son...that isn't fair to him at all...why should she have custody of him considering all the above when she gave up her previous children? Please help me get my son back wherehe bbelongs. .thanks for your time.

  • Comment Link Carolina Thursday, 29 May 2014 23:08 posted by Carolina

    I live in Virginia and currently I am working on my child's custody schedule. My daughter is 2 years old. I am thinking to be very flexible with my husband but he insists in 50/50 schedule.
    The difference with my proposal is that my child will spend 2 more nights with me than with him. But he does not want to accept it. Could you help me about it! Do you have any response!

    I will really appreciate!!

  • Comment Link Alexis Tinker Sunday, 25 May 2014 04:33 posted by Alexis Tinker

    My son is 2 and a half months old born 9 weeks premature. Because of the prematurity there are many Doctor appointments weekly to track growth and development. the father and i are not married but my child has his last name and he is on the birth certificare. He works and i do not, he wanted me to be a stay at home mom since day one since i got into a car accident during pregancy. (awaiting a settlment to buy my baby a forever home!) I understand that working is very important to support our little bundle, but sometimes, i need the support going threw all my baby's appointments.! He never takes the time to ask how is appointment went nor makes the time to try to be present. He goes out on weekends to drink, spends needed money on time with work friends and un-needed things. He has changed his diaper a handful of times, doesnt know how to make a bottle and is a all over slob! I have told him sometimes i think id be better doing it all on my own so he threatens to run off with him or fallow me were ever i go. he loves his child, but not man enough for responsibilty just yet!
    Sorry for rambling, my main concern, how do i go about getting full custody? will i have a chance of not getting it where i cant work because of injury? i love my little Donte more than anything. i just want him to have a stress free life and having to take care of his father like im his mother is not stress free! PLEASE HELP!!!!

  • Comment Link angel Saturday, 17 May 2014 09:41 posted by angel

    im have a 11 month old daughter and unmarried.also because he going to bring hes gf and son her in ready to move out and he told me if um going to file childsupport he will get the custody of my unemployed right now and I dont any relatives here.any suggestion or advice pls.verval abuse and theres a times he puts hand on me.

  • Comment Link lATASHA Thursday, 15 May 2014 15:58 posted by lATASHA


  • Comment Link clifford ridgway Sunday, 11 May 2014 05:02 posted by clifford ridgway

    I have a 3 year old son. his mother just now filed for dna. i havent been in his life because she didnt want me to be. is there any way i could get joint custody? I have a wife and 3 other kids.

  • Comment Link Susan reyes Thursday, 01 May 2014 19:53 posted by Susan reyes

    I'm a grandmother of the child and had her for five yrs and because I didn't have coustdy of her they gave her back to the mother and now mother has had her taken out of her care again by dhr and I'M. trying to get her back

  • Comment Link Melissa Gilmore Monday, 28 April 2014 12:01 posted by Melissa Gilmore

    I lost my license for drink driving, my ex took the children aged 5 and 3 . Took me to court, he got sole custody on the interim. I was ordered to do 3 month rehab, now I see the children 2 days with random urinal screens. The next 8 weeks I will have over night stay, until next hearing. I had been the primary carer, he was a gambler, family violence as well. As I have adhered to all orders, will the courts grant shared custody, with me( the mother) as primary residence.

  • Comment Link Jacqueline Monday, 28 April 2014 03:27 posted by Jacqueline

    Is there a way I can keep my daughters father from having a girlfriend spend the night on the weekends he has her? I do not care if they hang out with the girlfriend I just don't want my child subjected to a girlfriend spending the night on "her" time. He has every other weekend to do his own thing with whomever he wants. My daughter said he hardly talked to her this weekend. If it was me who had a boyfriend sleep over I would be the worst mother ever. We were never married and do not have a custody agreement, we've always worked it out very good on our own as it's not her fault we aren't together. Thank you

  • Comment Link tiffaney Friday, 25 April 2014 11:10 posted by tiffaney

    I left my ex in 2005 when my son was 2 almost 3. My ex and his mother has caused me such emotional drain that still today 2014 it haunts me. They still take me to court, threats, I have never ever lost any of the 12 court dates we had and that's why they are so angry. They promised me after they were done with me that I wouldn't have a pot to piss in. I'd never admit it, but wow, all that Money could have went straight to my sons college education. I've been made by him to see therapists, take mental testing $800, private investigator followed me for 9 mos, it's so bad that the gma thinks she is the mom of my child. She has brainwashed him ever since, enrolled him in preschool 45 mins away from me, followed him on my hometown for grade school because they lost for him to go to their town, The judge has said this is his longest case and their is no help for it. I have bent over backwards for them, because they make me feel I owe them for leaving, I buy them I dent a kid cards every year and give whatever they want. My son will be 12 and he dislikes his father because now he sees what he does to me. Small example of how it is, I had reconstructive knee ACL surgery on a Friday and he said if I didn't bring Braydon to a scout meeting 30 mins away, that on his weekend next weekend I can forget about our son playing his basketball championship game. I told him for 1 time he could come get and bring him back that o couldnt drive, and he text NO way! That my husband can bring him, even though I needed him for bathroom duties.. He will do anything to hurt me or our son to gain ahead.. I save all texts, but what's sad is my son recorded his own grandmother this week, which is mind blowing and awful, but when I heard it, I was upset how she bad mouthed me and filled his head with I feel so sorry for you. My son and I hold the biggest bond ever.I lLOVE him so much and same a him .. mommas boy, but I asked him why he recorded her and he said well dad always does you and on sick of them being mean about you.. He wants to know when he can live w me. I have joint custody, I'm primary, but they have put me through so much hell that after 10 years I cry more cause they won't stop! Help me and my son

  • Comment Link Dylan Dabbs Thursday, 24 April 2014 17:04 posted by Dylan Dabbs

    I left my finance and 3 year old daughter 6 Years ago then came bk the next day said I was sorry she took me bk then she left me and moved off somewhere I tried to find them couldnt afford lawer finnaly found out Thay moved to Tenn. Found her phone number called lots of times jst wanting to see my daughter she said don't ever call here again!! So I didn't except on her birthdays no answer!! Finnaly on her 9th birthday she answers and said yes u can see her we are moving bk down there to Al. So I seen her my daughter she came and spent the night w me and my wife and 3 year old son (her little step brother) she's been down here for a couple of weeks and stayed w us a few times now she wants to move in w me her mom said no because her mom dosnt like my wife! she kept her from me for so long!! What should I do?

  • Comment Link Elizabeth Wednesday, 23 April 2014 17:46 posted by Elizabeth

    If a parent has text stating he is never going to see a child again do I still need to wait on the day of the visits? It's a hit and miss with the visits..sometimes a no show or late with no call or at least text. In the text he says he is serious this time. He did not come this past Saturday.

  • Comment Link shiloh Wednesday, 16 April 2014 17:45 posted by shiloh

    I have a 3yr old son his father lost custody of him to social services in ca. While i was out at sea for us navy. Im out now Im about to go back in i have a stable job and my parents have agreed to keep him while i am out at sea. His father through the military has been charged with downloading of child pornography,the case is closed now and nothing happened. He still has all his rights and son and i are in Maryland and since he stopped speaking to his father he stopped having night terrors. What do you think the chances of him getting joint custody with me being primary care giver are?i am seeking able custody and for his rights as a father to be revoked.

  • Comment Link Priscilla Monday, 14 April 2014 16:01 posted by Priscilla

    I have a 3 month old baby , Im seperated from the father , fathers past 15 yrs in prison he is still associating him self with people from prison. What are my chances of me getting full custody of the baby?

  • Comment Link Juliet Saturday, 12 April 2014 16:25 posted by Juliet

    My soon to be mother in law feels that it's better for my fiancé of two yrs to move out of our home rent a room so he can get custody of his son. I was told by several attorneys that this actually could hurt the case because it show instability. I have five girls that live with us full time. Two I have 100% custody and three of them I have 93% custody. On top of ot the Juvenal courts just granted me gaurdinship of a 16 yr old. We have been in our home for 8 months and are capable of accommodating my fiancé son. Through the last court proceedings with his son social services, and the propane investigater found nothing wrong with me. I wasn't really brought up in the court hearings. So what do you honestly think is better. For my fiancé to move into a room and abandon this family or show the courts that he is capable of taking care of a family, being in a two year relationship and somewhat financially stable?

  • Comment Link Jacob johnstone Thursday, 10 April 2014 15:27 posted by Jacob johnstone

    I just moved in to my girlfriends house. I have two kids and she as two kids. We only have one room for them to stay in right now. Her little girl stays in her grandmas room but her boy stays in the same room as my boy and my girl. Is that okay to do. Her boy is 6 and my son is 3 and my daughter is 9. They don't share the same bed.

  • Comment Link John Robertson Monday, 07 April 2014 07:18 posted by John Robertson

    My one and only child has died in Oakland California and leaves behind a child who have legal right to custody the sister or grand father

  • Comment Link gabrielle Thursday, 27 March 2014 13:39 posted by gabrielle

    I have two kids...
    I caught my husband smoking Meth in the bathroom with our kids and my self in the house...
    I through him out!
    I worried that I would have to share custody with him....
    Is there anyway I can get full custody?

  • Comment Link cassandra Monday, 24 March 2014 02:19 posted by cassandra

    Hi , I have won sole custody twice and with one of my children we share joint and he has physical what can I do for my new hearing I am a single mother and can not afford a lawyer or get a court appointed one. Please help me ..... I trail of paper work , but he's got a good paid lawyer...

  • Comment Link MALVAREZ722 Friday, 21 March 2014 16:58 posted by MALVAREZ722

    I have sole custody of my daughter and she gets to see her dad every other weekend due to a restraining order thats been now almost 3 years for domestic abuse. Her spring break is coming up and his parents asked if they could take her for a week and a half cause she has 2 weeks off. Can I get in trouble for letting her go or is it ok?

  • Comment Link Anonymous Tuesday, 18 March 2014 04:18 posted by Anonymous

    What if one parent is drinking all the time to get drunk and smokes marijuana around the child and fights/argues with other custodial parent all the time.

  • Comment Link demetrius Wednesday, 05 March 2014 05:54 posted by demetrius

    My girlfriend and I live together she don't work parents put her and her 3yrs old son out. Every time she gets upset she put me out and one time with the baby. We live in a two bedroom apartment and she moved her brother, his girlfriend and their two kids in alone with another couple . I'm the only one who working .I'm thinking about leaving and want custody of my daughter. I don't make that much money but my parents is willing to help by allowing her and me if needed to move in. They willing to help with daycare and support while I'm able to save. I love my girlfriend but she don't uh understand that we need help. Do I have a chance for custody??

  • Comment Link Rahul Thursday, 27 February 2014 09:20 posted by Rahul

    my wife is suffering from paranoid schizophrenia(mentally unfit) 3rd stage. As the child is 5month old and the habbit of mother can be transfer to child at primary age my milk & other.

    Can i get sole custody as she cannot work?

  • Comment Link Lm Wednesday, 26 February 2014 20:57 posted by Lm

    I have been in an abuses verbally, and physically. Relationships have two children with my husband, who was till just recent in the army,I been at home with the kids.last month started working so I van move out, I got help from the government, but since he is working they denied childcare,and I can't paid for daycare, it's pretty much my whole paycheck. I lost my job,looking for another one.i no blogger. Sant yo be with this Men, he doesnt care who's around he start fight with me, or his family.I don't want my son to think that's correct his father's behavior, he's consistently asking what's wrong with Dad,why is he always so mean.right now am staying with his mother in her apt,but she is always arguing with her husband.I don't have family in ni.I want to move Florida with my mother, brothers, n cousins. I found an online job.I don't want to to court .I can't deal with all the arguing and fighting,my son is stressed out that it shows in school,everything me argue or his father acts up.even Dyfes was involved, he took anger management classes but clearly didn't do anything,I was faired to say anything because they might take my kids away.what can I do?I am buying a ticket to Fl, and am leaving, but will this effect me in the lingering and how? Help!

  • Comment Link betty Wednesday, 26 February 2014 17:59 posted by betty

    If the child has informed his half siblings nursery that he wants to live with the father and the nursery write a letter will this help the final decision

  • Comment Link jon Thursday, 02 January 2014 10:10 posted by jon

    My fiance has anger issues there is no sexual side in our relationship she to look after her kids when her ex needs a day and she is working it has gotten so bad she has started threatening me I am on a parental leave to look after my son she didn't have enough hours in for maternity our son was a micro preemie and needs constant care which she does t have the patience to give him she is constantly trying to pawn off her children on me and others says it is my responsibility I looked after her for the last three years roles are turned she is talking of cutting me off I want out with my son this is toxic and unstable how do i do it oh and btw she has a history of running away she has go e bankrupt twice and stole from a previous employer she constantly lies to her folks and friends about this

  • Comment Link marilyn rogers Wednesday, 01 January 2014 02:44 posted by marilyn rogers

    What can I do. I am a single mother of a 6 year old boy. He has been telling me that his grandpa has been abusive towards my boy. when i brought this up to the father he is in complete denial. i realize how bad it was when my son confess that they even starve my son. His underweight and he keeps having nightmare. My ex husband thinks its all in my mind. My son was interviewed by the Social service and the investigators are even saying his fine. I do not see this. I only see my kid on the weekends and now its becoming a battle. the father wants to take him completely away from me. I am scared and the social services are completely siding with him away from me. I believe its the environment his condition to set himself in.
    what actions can i take; he has been examine and also has been talking to his doctor. it was the doctor whom has called for investigation. can I get a lawyer without having to pay for this?

  • Comment Link jane Sunday, 15 December 2013 10:32 posted by jane

    I am married for 9yrs now. My husband abandoned my daughter & I since Jan this yr. Though in d same house but no emotional,physical or financial commitment. I want to quit the marriage with my daughter of 8yrs. Please what is the possibility

  • Comment Link melissa Friday, 01 November 2013 15:02 posted by melissa

    I was wondering I know someone who has custody of a little boy and she decided she did not want him anymore so she just gave him back to his mom. sad I know for no reason other than he got on her nerves well dhr is involved and I was wondering if I report them what will happen to the child and the person who had not followed through with legally getting it taken care of.

  • Comment Link Want my Daughter back Monday, 21 October 2013 17:02 posted by Want my Daughter back

    i am a mother of 3 children and my daughter who is 2 is in the ole custody of her fathers mother .... And i get 72 hours a week with her ...... I want to regain custody of her do to te fac that the babys father lives there and is on drugs and the fact that i dont believe she is safe .... And i was involved with children and youth do to the fact that when i lived with my parents the house was to small .. But other than that i have my own place and more then enough room and can provide the best for her... Andi believe the child deserves to be with me not to say i got her back but because i love her and want to take her to the doctors and kiss her goodnight every night and to watch her grow it hurts me to take her back there and here her scream when i leave any advice would help

  • Comment Link Joba Friday, 11 October 2013 21:29 posted by Joba

    i have a 3 year old daughter me and her father broke up a 1 yr ago. One day he took my daughter and didnt come back until the next day did not ans my calls and i did not know where he lived with his new girlfriend, i called the cops and they said that because i didnt have court order there was nothing that can be done. So ofcourse the next time he wanted to take my baby i said No unless is supervised and ofcours he did not agree after 3 months he took me to court and me being the adult one i agreed on everything he wanted but what i asked of him i never got. Come to find out that he lives with his girl n her 2 kids which 1 is a 12 yr girl and the other 5 yr old boy in a 1 room apartment. So every other weekend that he gets my daughter and his son from a previous relationship equals a total of 4 kids in 1 bedroom apartment. I am concern what can i do since my daughter with me has her own room. Is there anything i can do legaly? Is he permitted to do that. Please help me

  • Comment Link rebecca carter Monday, 07 October 2013 05:24 posted by rebecca carter

    i am wondering if my bofriend has custody of my child and after obtaining cusody of the child i move back into the home and am taking full care of her what happens to the custody and can i take my child without getting into trouble and how do i go about leaving him without leaving my child

  • Comment Link  Wesley D. Thursday, 03 October 2013 06:36 posted by Wesley D.

    My ex and I were never married but we have a 23 month old daughter who she has right now. she lives with her grandma and 9 other people in a 2 bedroom trailer. one of these people is her new boyfriend who is her 3rd cousin. Nobody in the house has a job and they live off of her grandma's social security check as well as food stamps abs money that me and her other baby's daddy send for child support. Is this reason to prove her unfit or the living situation non- acceptable? I don't want my daughter around people who believe in incest!! plz help me

  • Comment Link Amanda C. Tuesday, 24 September 2013 22:20 posted by Amanda C.

    I am a 22 year old female married my husband is 27. My sister in law recently got into trouble with children services and we are taking care of my niece. The circumstances that got ocy involved in the first place was a very unclean house (you could smell it outside a few feet away in your car) multiple pets including 3 dogs and 14 cats and various small pets in a single wide trailer. My niece always smelled bad and was dirty when she came over usually taking 2 baths to smell or look clean.This is also the second time they have been involved in a year. My niece recently started staying with us about 4 days ago. She is adjusting well. Ocy told my sister in law she was able to see my niece during the day and was able to stay with her at night at our house. However we had not received any phone calls from her or visits nor could we reach her consistently,until yesterday I was concernd my niece had a uti and she refused to give me her medical card or take her to the doctor. After many phone calls and threats to call her caseworker she finally agreed to make an appointment. My husband and I are very concerned about my nieces well being and have tried to get her to give us voluntary custody but she refuses. Upon arriving to our house this is the first bedroom she has ever had (she's 2) and was terrified of simple things like a bath or getting her hair brushed. My husband works full time and is facing a potential raise and promotion,I work part time as an LPN while going to school online for my RN license. We rent our home and although our credit is not great all of our bills are up to date. My sister in law was just busted for retail theft has a bench warrant for unpaid tickets no apartment and no job and has not held a full time job longer than a month. Although she did apply to be a stripper.... My husband and I want what is best for our niece but we are not sure if we will win custody in court. Is there anything we could do to make this more in our favor?

  • Comment Link Sally Tuesday, 24 September 2013 19:45 posted by Sally

    I have a question and would appreciate anyone's advice or input. I have a beautiful 3 year old son that is my whole world. When he was 3 weeks old, my husband informed me he wanted a divorce. Come to find out there had been a rather lengthy affair taking place. He then married the gal he'd had the affair with and they now have a daughter. I sought counseling to work through it all and am so thankful I have an awesome son. Even though I was completely blind sided and was going through such a horrible event - I had a healthy, gorgeous boy to focus on. He carried me through more than anything he'll ever know.

    I am 32 years old. After my divorce, I dated a guy for about 6 months, he was in my son's life but my son was not constant - just a night on the weekend or holidays or events. He was not a motivated individual - couldn't hold a job, would sleep until 1 in the afternoon, etc. I then dated a guy for just under a year. He held a great job, was wonderful to my son and came from an excellent family but was extremely immature - his mom would do his laundry, he would spend way more than he had and started about quitting his job so he could figure out what he wanted to be which was scary to me. We eventually broke up. Finally I met what I thought was a great guy. He was previously married and had been through a situation similar to mine. He had 2 children from that marriage. We got engaged and bought a house together. I had sold the house I purchased after going through my divorce. Fast forward to now, almost 2 years into our relationship, I have learned he has been lying a lot, has zero communication skills and has a lot of issues remaining from his previous marriage. I feel like our relationship is dwindling away. I never wanted this for my son or myself, I feel like a failure for selling my house and moving my son and then learning all of this. It's truly a mess. We are currently still trying to work through things but I feel like we are coming to the end.

    My reason for this whole explanation, is now my fear that my ex husband will try to get custody of my son if yet another relationship ends. I am done with men and trying. My son does not deserve to be drug through any of this and I am well aware of my faults in putting him in this situation. While we do live with my fiancé, he and my son do not have a close relationship. My son is the light of my life and I don't want to hurt him nor do I want to lose him. Is there any way my ex husband could get custody of my son based on me and my fiancé breaking up and having to move my son? We would be living in the same tons we always have and surrounded by the same family and friends. My son would be in the same preschool. It would only be the fact that I was moving him back to just my son and I and changing homes. Any help or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. I will add, that my son and I attbd church regularly, I don't drink or do drugs and have never put my son in a dangerous situation / just wanted to clarify that since you don't really know the types of people you are talking to.

  • Comment Link Lucy Monday, 12 August 2013 21:31 posted by Lucy

    Okay my hsuabnd has 2 daughters and they have lived with us for 6 yrs straight not the mother wants them back we have no papers anywhere saying we have custody of them but I am wanting to know how easy would this be for her to get them

  • Comment Link Concern Dad. Sunday, 11 August 2013 18:09 posted by Concern Dad.

    Im 44 and I just got a temporary restraining order against my wife. One week ago today she came home from work and was upset and stressed out. Our two year old got her upset and she got him by the arm and dragged him into the bedroom and shut the door. I heard my son yell and scream as he was throwing a tantrum and then it was quiet. About a few seconds later I herd him start to cry and my wife yelling at him. I herd the bedroom door open and then I herd a loud slap and then my son screamed like I never herd before and was crying in a way that he was out of breath. I ran to the bedroom as I was in the kitchen washing dishes and putting food away from making dinner. As I went to the bed room, I asked my wife where did you hit him at in a loud tone as our son was screaming and crying. She continue to walk out saying im tired of him fighting or biting me. I could not understand because our son was so loud. I asked again where did you hit him and she just left to the living room and ignored me. I picked my son up from the bedroom floor and tried to comfort him. He was pointing at his back crying ouch. I lifted up his shirt and saw a full left hand print on my son upper back towards the right side. I was pissed!!
    I got my cell and immediately took pictures of his back. I carried my son to the living room as mom was laying on the love seat using her iphone.
    I turned on the table lamp and said look what you done to him!! She said it was his fault as she tried to spank him on the butt and he would not keep still. His butt is not near his upper back!!.
    She did not want to look at his back and ignored my request to look at him. He was still yelling and crying. So I got him and took him the the sheriff station and the gave me the number to child protective service. I called and made a complaint and filed a report.
    Our marriage was already on the rocks but this was the straw that broke the camels back. She has verbally abused him many time and now it has escalated to to this. I filed for divorced, I filed for custody and support and I filed for the temporary restraining order and a move out order of our apartment. I also included copy of the color pictures of my son back with my request. I have also have voice recorded my wife abusive yelling at my son in prior incidents in our home which I can legal do. I did record this incident as well and you can hear it clearly and her her yelling and hear the slap and him letting out his painful yell which I told the court I have for the record. The restraining order was granted and so was the move out order. She has to stay 100 yards from my son until the court date in three weeks. I have been on disability since Jan 2013 do to my neck which does not prevent me for caring for our son. I cook for our son, I buy the groceries, I clean the house, I bath him daily, I do the washing of clothes. He is with me 24/7 and im also potty training him as we speak. I do get funds from my disability which just covers the rent and food. My wife works full time and make about 2800.00 a month. She moved back to her moms which I know she will pay her 500.00 a month towards rent as she had before. I'm going to file an ex parte of custody this Monday for my son.
    I also requested to the court that my wife take anger management classes and show completion to the court before she is able to have visitations with our son. Which I wont know till our court date in three weeks. This has been a very stressful situation for me as well as my son. I had to do all the paper work myself and had some help from the court family help center.
    does anyone know if I can qualify for other benefits for my son and I. No child support order had been approved until court date.Until I get a release from my doctor I cannot work. So right now I have to depend on my only source of income which is disability which is not much. Any help or advise will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
    Pss.. Child protective services said the case is inconclusive because this was her first offense and I should let the family court deal with this which they are as by the restraining and move out order.
    My son is only 2 yrs old and does not deserve to be treated in such a manner.
    Thank you.
    A concern Dad from
    From Los Angeles California.

  • Comment Link exhaustedbycourt Saturday, 10 August 2013 04:52 posted by exhaustedbycourt

    The fact that you don't have a job is not the issue in my understanding. The bigger issue is that he should be paying you support

  • Comment Link Valerie Wednesday, 07 August 2013 20:57 posted by Valerie

    I'm going thru a custody case now . My sons father has repeatly broken court order . He has taking out of state without me knowing , taking him to another family doctor without telling me , wont let me talk to my son when in his custody . School events keeps them from me . Won't let him have a relationship with his brother and sister . Like bdays , activities won't let him attend . He has to be in control bout everything . Custody case is coming up soon , do I have anything to worry bout ???

  • Comment Link skeeto1015 Sunday, 21 July 2013 06:55 posted by skeeto1015

    i have my son who just turned a year a couple days ago! father isn't around but just called saying he wants to see him or else he'll take me to court! he hasn't seen him since he was 2 months old and has NEVER gave anything to support him! first time I heard from him was a couple months ago when he was asking to see him. I told him he can come over whenever but he hates my parents (yes im living with my parents but they have helped me and my son so much.. I owe them everything)! all the father is a liar and steals! when I lived with him before my son was born, we fought constantly, he never had a job and he emotionally abused me! we moved in with my parents and they spent over thousands of dollars on him to get a trucking job to help support us, but like everything else he didn't want to do it! now, hes living in his own trailor and has his other son from a previous marriage every other weekend! and a couple months ago, he wanted to sign off all his rights of my son, but when I talked to two of my lawyers, they said that there is no legal way to do that unless someone else adopts him. I want full custody and don't want this loser to be in his life at all! I don't know what to do! I need advice and help please! :(

  • Comment Link Anna Saturday, 13 July 2013 11:41 posted by Anna

    I have a 5 month old. And I want to split up with the father. But I'm worried he wil get custody of her. He use to hit me and everything. Only thing I can think is he is the only one with a job right now. Someone help!!!!

  • Comment Link Anne Saturday, 13 July 2013 11:35 posted by Anne

    I'm a grandmother and my son is a 25 year addict. His wife enables him. The children are traumatized by serious fighting and are screamed at or smacked both parents neglect.

    Wife won't move out...
    Any grounds for grand parent custody of children

  • Comment Link Caitlin D. Wednesday, 15 May 2013 17:59 posted by Caitlin D.

    I'm a mother of a five year old son. I unfortunately obtained a opiate addiction from pain medication for my back. I had gone very far quickly in my addiction and upgraded to taking heroin. I've given custody to the paternal grandmother and just as I was getting custody back I relapsed. Now I supervised visitation with my son and have gone back to rehab. I have been clean for some time now and the father is going for full custody. I love my child and addiction is a cunning enemy, I need to know what I have to do in court to have the supervised visitation removed and be given joint custody. I call my DYFS worker but he never answers me. What do I do/

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 02 April 2013 15:54 posted by Guest

    My son and his girlfriend have a 16 month old son, they lived in Virginia until He was a year old, when the girlfriend said she had found a management job in AR, so they were going to go there for 6 months so she could get experience with this company and then transfer back to VA. During this time my son was suppose to keep his job here in VA (he works in the prison system) so they would have that to fall back on when they move back here occurred. The agreement was that he would come there to stay with them on his days off (he works 5 on and 5 off). Within 3 months of her moving there with the baby she had been evicted from the house they rented, my son found out that she had lied about the job it was not a full time management job, it was a part time job making no more than she had made here in VA. When confronted with all this it came to light that her father had moved out there with her, and she told my son not to come back there that she didn't want him there. She and her father have since moved into an 1 bedroom apartment in the end of a barn with concrete floors and no place for the baby to play. She isn't working and neither is her father, they are trying to start a business from the barn. (Her father has had 2 prior business that ended in him defrauding people and having to close due to the fraud, she assisted him in these businesses as well). My son filed for custody of his son 3 months and 28 days after they moved out to AR. She has refused service of court papers by not picking them up, and running from the process server. Our Attorney states that under the UCCJEA Federal Law that the state of Virginia has Jurisdiction in the case and the Juvenile Judge here said that he is not going to give up Jurisdiction. We have had to hire an Attorney in AR to defend us in the case that she filed the month after we filed here. We now have another court date here on April 16, 2013 which before just prior to her having been there a full 6 months. My question is who will have jurisdiction in this case and the 6 months come to a halt when the first case was filed on January 28, 2013, or can his residency be changed prior to the ending of the court proceedings. Please help!!!! Thanks.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 02 April 2013 06:56 posted by Guest

    I live in KS and Im worried my parental rights might be terminated. I have four kids ages 6,4,3 and 1 they came into custody for my hair follical being positive for illegal substances hard core drugs in june 2012 then I found out I was expecting so I planned for adoption in consideration to time spending and nurturing for the 4 I already have we me and the biological dad of all children have successfully adopted the 5th child on feb 16 and during this time I have had many difficult confrences with the social worker who falsely stated she asked for 2 ua's and we failed to get them taking she contempted only me to court while I was pregnant not the dad and I was put in jail to submit a hair folical and pass to get out I stayed in jail for 6 weeks she refused to let me see my kids during this time it was hard but I get out and she is asking for the kids to be adopted out DEC 2012 was the pretrial hearing and original termination date was suppose to be on JAN 18 2013 but the judge moved it to April 8 2013 so I had time to complete court orders of parenting classes clinicals ongoing therepy sessions maintain housing pay off my fines for my DL insurance on vehical and employment after baby was born but because of being in jail and complications with pregnancy my attendance was bad and I was unsecessfully discharged so I attend aa meetings for my sobriety my concern is I have a history of being in custody from 14 to 18 DV with family not charged only arrests and granted sole custody of oldest child since dad didn't complete court orders and after our 3rd child he has a aggervated assult charge against me and hes charged with theft and possession of marijuana and crimal trespassing I have an education I obtained in 2010 for Dental Assistant and have provided soley for all kids but he has a job now with me and were doing couples counseling he finished his court orders and we have maintained housing do you think they will terminate both our rights or do you have any advice for me as to what changes I should make in my life to help better my chances for reintergrating back with my kids before I attend this hearing please w/b

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 23 March 2013 14:08 posted by Guest

    i live in SC have shared custody of my four children for 4 years (3 1/2 days each week) now she wants full custody. she was abusive to me while married has told many people she didn't want the kids has had RSS called many times had to call poison control many times put me through, a lot this past year show up when she would want to to get kids tell them all kinds of stuff she was planning to do as far as seeing me has older kids (recently 9 & 11) take care of little ones cook for theirselves etc I don't want to loose my kids what can I do I don't make a lot have little saved need heelp

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 01 March 2013 17:45 posted by Guest

    My moms boyfriend started molesting me at 12 yrs.old then contentiously manipulating me into what he wanted and brainwashed me into moving and get married with him now I finally am a way from him but have 2 kids all I want is to stay away from him but he keeps threatening my kids are gonna be taken away from me I don't no what to do? always gets what he wants I can't afford a lawyer how can I get my kids away from him? Please help I don't no what to do I am really getting depressed over it but I am trying to stay strong for my kid but I don't no if I can live with this burden and pain he causes me everyday anymore I have no were to turn!

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 22 February 2013 14:25 posted by Guest

    Please help...father is sex addict : Can someone give me some insight...I have a 6 week old and I am not with the father. He wasn't a part of the pregnancy, not at delivery, and not on the birth certificate. He has seen her of a total of 2 and a half hours and now is asking to take her for the day. Here is the background of the father...he is from the Amish background, he hasn't had a stable living situation for the past six years, he works two jobs and lives an hour from us. The biggest problem of his is he is a sex addict, the reason for us splitting up was bc he was sleeping with three other girls, unprotected, putting me and my unborn child at risk. He is able to come see the baby every Saturday if he likes, at my house. Now he is wanting to take her for the day and won't allow it. I have a feeling he is going to go and fight me in court and I am so scared these matters won't matter and he'll be able to take her. She has breathing problems and feeding problems, which he doesn't know how to handle and I fear for my little girl. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 21 February 2013 07:38 posted by Guest

    Wife left without son: My wife of 13 years left 1/1/13 without our 11 year old son and is living with a guy she dated in High School. She wants a divorce but for cost reasons, we haven't filed yet. I have had a consultation with a lawyer. She sees our son on the weekend, when our son wants to go because he doesn't like the guy she lives with and is angry at Mom. Do I have any legal way of keeping her from just one day picking him up from school or the house while I am at work and taking him and switching the arrangements? There was no violence in the relationship as far as hitting, just pushing and shoving on both parts. No police involvement.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 19 February 2013 00:19 posted by Guest

    signing over custody.. or shackles and chains: I don't mean to be rude this question is kinda goofy in 4 months he can go anywhere he wants so you want to control him for the next 4 months to make him resent you? vindicating his mother who will eat this up the mother would use it against you and quite frankly children yearn for structure living with his mother he will realize why you had rules and the s tructure was an act of love to protect him. if you let him go to actually miss you believe it or not -you really need to let him go immediately or the anger and resentments could last for very long time. Now what can she get out of it if it's more than 6 months of the year to live with him she will get a tax write off for 1 dependent if she files for child support by the time it gets to the court child support will be over unless you think he will go to College if so then just pay the support it is a lot cheaper than what you're paying for him to live with you.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 15 February 2013 15:07 posted by Guest

    Custody Trial NJ: My husband and I are due to have a joint custody trial on March 26, 2013 to decide which parent our two daughters (age 3 & 4) will reside with. The court is ordering an investigation of DCPP records, medical and school records. I had my husband arrested in 2008 for physical abuse to me. He also has been physically abusive to my oldest daughter (not his) and this is on record with DCPP. I have been a homemaker for 5 years of the marriage because we could not afford to send both children to daycare. I still currently do not work but have begun volunteering at a local hospital in hopes the a job opportunity will arise from volunteering. I still am looking for employment however as well. He as labeled me as acting like a victim, being abusive to our children, and not wanting to work. I was granted child support in the amount of $145/week and denied spousal support yesterday. It has taken me a long time but I have finally found it within myself to leave and be completely done with the long time abuse. I am afraid however that I will lose my girls because of one incident where my brother called DCPP on me for my oldest daughter because I spanked her for being disobedient. DCPP closed out the case and I never heard from them again.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 15 February 2013 01:46 posted by Guest

    Reply to signing over custody.: Child support probably...

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 14 February 2013 14:23 posted by Guest

    Does my mom have a chance to get me back? PLEASE HELP!: I live with my grandma and I am 13 years old and my mom is getting married, Has a Job, Has a House, and has been clean from drugs for 3 years now and is trying to get me back. My dad is never around, My mother is currently taking 6 weeks of Parenting Classes, and taking a bunch of drug tests and called the courts today and has a lawyer and is planning on going to court to get me back. Do you think she has a chance to get me back? Ive always wanted to be back with her so she also had me write the judge a letter stating why I want to live with her(My mom) and I am going into court too to tell the courts who I want to live with so what do you think the courts might possibly say? I was taken away from my mother because she didnt have enough money to care for me and she was only 18 and hung around the wrong people and had a drug problem but now she doesnt even talk to those people anymore and she has a hourse, job, everything and is clean from drugs. Please help! Thank you.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 12 February 2013 10:14 posted by Guest

    4 month from now my son will be 18: I have a great question? 4 month from now my son will be 18. He wants to live at her house now because he doesn't like my rules in the house. The normal rules cant be out past 11....etc. I told him sure move to your mothers but she won't take him until I sign over custody to her. Is there a reason she wants that so bad?

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 12 February 2013 00:22 posted by Guest

    please help with my question: So my friend has kids nd him nd the mom are seperated, she has a new boyfriend of 3 years and he plays a bigger role in the kids life then the dad, the mom and new boyfriend are well off. She is getting the kids dad for support ..will it make a difference if she has help, and has money and the dad is barley making it and pays support for another little boy as well? I guess we are a little confused and not sure if the new boyfriend nd her having money will make a difference because they are able to support the kids she is just being hateful.?

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 12 February 2013 00:18 posted by Guest

    child support questionss: So my friend has kids nd him nd the mom are separated, she has a new boyfriend of 3 years and he plays a bigger role in the kids life then the dad, the mom and new boyfriend are well off. She is getting the kids dad for support ..will it make a difference if she has help, and has money and the dad is barley making it and pays support for another little boy as well? I guess we are a little confused and not sure if the new boyfriend nd her having money will make a difference because they are able to support the kids she is just being hateful.?

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 10 February 2013 22:32 posted by Guest

    any advice: my ex gf texted me 2 months ago that our son 11 wants to move in with me come get him and his stuff. this wknd he went to see her for the weekend and she texted they where not gona meet us to pick him up she is the custodial parent and its what he wants, she hasnt let me talk to him. she is the custodial parent but hes lived with me for 2 months. i dont think its what he wants but i cant reach him, can she do this? does the 2 months he lived with me help my case in trying to get him back?? im in Tn.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 07 February 2013 15:50 posted by Guest

    Things seem to be going: Things seem to be going downhill, not every day but every once in a while and I'm one of those that likes to plan ahead.
    If we were ever to get a divorce I would LOVE to know who the custody of our 1 yr old would go to.
    I am 22 my husband is 20
    we are living with my parents since we are saving up to soon get our own place....I hope
    He works I don't but only because I choose to stay with ur son rather than a stranger care for him in his most important years
    I could get a job if i put my head into it.
    I do have side jobs however selling plates of food twice a months and offering spa treatments and facials which make me more than enough to support me and my son.
    I care for my son 24/7
    i feed him, take him to doc. appointments, change his diapers (Thing my husband will do twice three times a day if im lucky, but he will NEVER change or clean poop thing he has said himself) i bathe him....anything he needs you name it im there.
    I never go ANYWHERE without him even if my husband has a day off...not like he offers to keep him anyhow...

    If we were ever to split i would get a night job since my son is still being nursed (one more reason why he needs me)
    and pay my mom for child care
    If we were to separate my husband is bound to move down the street with his parents ...i know go figure...his parents also house his brother his ex-wife o.O and their three kids
    His brother is violent and his ex whom lives with him is on probation
    they are unstable they split and get back together got married divorced and got back together but not married.
    My husband doesn't have a fixed schedule meaning most of the time he would be gone leaving our son to the care of his parents who are IN NO condition to be caring for him.
    I have been around when they care for my husbands brother's other kid and i just don't like what i see to the point my ex-ex-sister in law will no longer be allowing visitations.

    I am really concerned as to if a divorce were to occur, under the law would I have a higher chance of gaining full custody?

    PLEASE someone let me know.
    Also what kind of evidence can i gather up for an unfortunate future in order for the court to understand where i am coming from.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 07 February 2013 15:48 posted by Guest

    What if...: Things seem to be going downhill, not every day but every once in a while and I'm one of those that likes to plan ahead.
    If we were ever to get a divorce I would LOVE to know who the custody of our 1 yr old would go to.
    I am 22 my husband is 20
    we are living with my parents since we are saving up to soon get our own place....I hope
    He works I don't but only because I choose to stay with ur son rather than a stranger care for him in his most important years
    I could get a job if i put my head into it.
    I do have side jobs however selling plates of food twice a months and offering spa treatments and facials which make me more than enough to support me and my son.
    I care for my son 24/7
    i feed him, take him to doc. appointments, change his diapers (Thing my husband will do twice three times a day if im lucky, but he will NEVER change or clean poop thing he has said himself) i bathe him....anything he needs you name it im there.
    I never go ANYWHERE without him even if my husband has a day off...not like he offers to keep him anyhow...

    If we were ever to split i would get a night job since my son is still being nursed (one more reason why he needs me)
    and pay my mom for child care
    If we were to separate my husband is bound to move down the street with his parents ...i know go figure...his parents also house his brother his ex-wife o.O and their three kids
    His brother is violent and his ex whom lives with him is on probation
    they are unstable they split and get back together got married divorced and got back together but not married.
    My husband doesn't have a fixed schedule meaning most of the time he would be gone leaving our son to the care of his parents who are IN NO condition to be caring for him.
    I have been around when they care for my husbands brother's other kid and i just don't like what i see to the point my ex-ex-sister in law will no longer be allowing visitations.

    I am really concerned as to if a divorce were to occur, under the law would I have a higher chance of gaining full custody?

    PLEASE someone let me know.
    Also what kind of evidence can i gather up for an unfortunate future in order for the court to understand where i am coming from.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 05 February 2013 15:31 posted by Guest

    i need help: Hello. I am freaking out my ex still lives in same house as me but is moving an hour away and expects me to move or ill only see them on weekends. We have joint custody now because I'm not silly. I want my kids to stay in the same house as me and school and friends and all that. She is trying to move as far away as she can. Can she do that? Can she just take the kids and not go to court? I need help!!!

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 04 February 2013 21:29 posted by Guest

    a letter wont do much. its: a letter wont do much. its real simple. after the child is born go to your local county court house and file for child custody. youll sit down with a mediator and go over everything from who has custody visitation and child support. if you two dont agree youll be sent before a judge and the judge will make the final decision. if you agree to everything with the mediator the judge just signs off on it and its a legal court order. best of luck

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 04 February 2013 12:39 posted by Guest

    parents took my daughter: Hi my case is different then many of the ones I read. My grandparents raised me my entire life. I was an only child and my "mom" came and went as she pleased. The only time I lived with my "mom" was when she moved into her boyfriends who was emotionally and physically violent towards my "mother" and I. We lived there for about 1yr before it got to the point he broke my "moms" car window out. We moved back with my grandparents were always my true parents. After maybe a month of her boyfriend going to counseling, she moved back in and I stayed with my grandparents. My grandmother drove me back and forth to school everyday on top of working. I was in figure skating and my poor grandma would get up at 5am take me to the rink then i would get ready and she would drive me to school. I started working before I was 15 and at that time I ended up getting pregnant at 17 and had my daughter at 18. My mom at first actually acted like a mom when she found out. Obviously I cried and was scared because I didn't know what I was gonna do to raise this presious baby growing inside me. I ended up going to my "mom" and her bf house after she was born. I was a great mom at first untill my "mom" started losing her eyesight and was no longer able to drive. Once she was home all the time she would take over, I couldn't do anything right. I started working at a bar so I could support my child without anyone throwing up stuff an my face. I started working at the bar and then started staying out and partying to get away from my mother. she would encourage my reckless behavior, getting my daugter up in the morning, bringing me water from drinking so much. I ended up going to rehab on my own when I was 20 which my grandma found, took me, and made sure I had what I needed. My "parents" tried to get me to sign over my daughter for insurance reasons which I said no too. My "mom" came one time and brought my daughter to see me. I had 2 days before I completed in patient when my counselor came and told me to pack my stuff and go get my daughter because my "parents" were gonna take her to Arkansas. Thank God for my grandma calling because my daughter may not know me at all. I completed rehab, my "mom" and her bf went to my grandparents who lived in a single trailer with my aunt and her daughter and told her she could have us and all the shit that came with us. I started working at a pizza place down the st. and met my boyfriend who we ended up moving in with and are toghether still to this day. We have always lived in Michigan our entire lives. My "Parents' moved to Arkansas about 9yrs ago. Every since they moved they would come up for our 4th of July party and take her back with them. I would fly down and bring her back with me. We did this for yrs... Then my grandparents passed away withen less then 2yrs of each other. I started going down on spring break and would take my lil cousin as well as my daughter every yr, or one of her friends would go down with us. I started staying longer and longer over the summer break when I would go down after my daughter. I was trying to build somewhat of a realationship with my "mom" since we were both adults and they are getting older. The summer of 2011 I grabbed my 17yr old daughter outta some guys trailer and took her to Arkansas with me. We had so much fun and stayed over a month. My "mom" didn't want me to leave because I help her on the farm and her and my stepfather don't fight as much because I'm down there to help. He hates animals and all they do is fight to the point to where it can turn violent. The last week of April I had a seizure outta know where and my daughter seen it. She screamed and said please don't let my mom die, I can't live without my mom, if she dies I'll kill myself. I have never been sick, ever. Exactly 1 week later I was back at the hospital because I caught double pnuemonia and sepsis. they gave me a 50/50 chance. She flew up but missed her plane and was supposed to stay to help me until my 13yr old daughter got out of school. I seen her 3 times and she left. We were all in therepy and my stepdad came, visited with his side and I was wearry to let her go as I had multiple doc appointments to go to. We talked to her counselor about her going and she said that was fine they would pick up where they left off. I was hospitalized on the 29th for edema and my blood work came back high having to do with my heart. I did a stress test and was released the next day. On July 30th They went to an attorney who claimed my daughter was incapacitated and made accusations that I was unfit and filled an ex parte for temporary gaudianship. I could prove 90% were lies that I sent to the judge. I didn't have money for an attorney and Michigan court refused to take jurisdiction and dismissed my case on a clerical error. They never talked to my daughter as she wasn't even at the court house nor did I even have a chance to speak. 2 days after they were back in Arkansas my daughter got raped by a 21 yr old who not only stole her innocence but gave her an std. The cops were called and the guys neice punched my daughter in the face for him going to jail. It's a very small rural area with 1 elementry school and one highschool. She has been harrassed, and just last Friday got attacked again. She wants to come home but the judge rewarded gaurdianship to my parents because we were less then 2hrs late. I called the clerk at 8:15 am and let her know we ran into construction and an accident and please let the judge know. She said it should be know problem... When we got there Judge Weaver gave gaurdianship to my Mother only and my daughter never had an adl litem. She started cutting herself, threating sucide and is falling school. When we got to the court house the judge was still there and so were my "parents" attorney we sat and waited for the judge to finish his last case before lunch, he went into his chambers and snuck out a back door and went to lunch.We drove over her 800 miles for no reason. We've never had cps, ss, or truancy problems. I volunteered through out elementry and was still involved when she went to jr. high. The judge in Arkansas didn't follow Arkansas rules. I'm still seeing doctors and can't afford $5000. My":mother" knew she was in no harm but instead used her grandaughter at all cost to try an force me to move down there. If she was in so much harm why didn't they go through the proper channels in Oakland County Mi since they were here twice and file gaurdianship here. They should have never went ahead with this case since they did not have jurisdiction, They sent her biological fathers papers to my house which I couldn't sign for and neither could he because it was sent to my address. They knowingly lied and no matter what happends to my daughter my "mom" don't care because it was never about her, it was about me and her! I need help before it's too late... Please anyone that reads this point me in the right direction. She has caused emotional, physical harm to my daughter and me. I have never been away from my daughter for more than a couple weeks and it's killing both of us.

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 02 February 2013 18:14 posted by Guest

    Advice about Custody of my unborn Daughter.: Hi. Im 23 years old and my boyfriend 27 and myself have been together for a little over a year. I'm seven months pregnant if he writes a letter saying I have primary custody of our unborn daughter will it hold up in court? He's getting ready to move out because he hasn't had a job in over a year and I can't afford to support him as well as buy everything needed for our daughter. I plan on breaking up with him when he leaves as well. I have a reliable job taking care of my disabled father which I've been doing for over a year. I just need to know if a letter like that would hold up if he tried taking off with her after she's born. I just need to know if it'll holds up for police officers as well as court.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 31 January 2013 00:32 posted by Guest

    schools?: me and my ex cant agree on schools for our 4 year old and enrollment is soon. she wants to send him to a private school but all i keep seeing online are bad reviews of the school she wants. and she also wants me to give up some of my custody. there is a public school not but 4 miles from my house and it have all great reviews from different websites but she wont even consider it. oh and me and my current wife have a 2 almost 3 year old that is his brother. will the courts rule in her favor and split them up or give him to me? we live about 30 miles apart in different school dist. i provide all health care as well any thoughts? we currently have 50/50 legal and physical.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 29 January 2013 02:01 posted by Guest

    Help me: Hi everyone I need advice!!
    I have been with my bf for almost 6 years and we have a 8 mo together. We live together in mb Canada and things have gone south! He always threatense that if he leave he's taking her to! I tell him that if he wants her he would have to see me in court! I have been the primary care giver to both her and my other child who is 10. The house we rent is my moms and I'm on mat leave he works full time. How can I get him to leave without it turning dirty and without taking her too? He leaves for hours at a time and hasn't been there for us for months! HELP PLEASE

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 27 January 2013 10:18 posted by Guest

    child custody: me and my x part ways in aug 2010. i moved and had my daughter 1 week and one week with her mother but no court order. she also has another child not from me. in dec of 2010 her sister told me she was going to take her daughter because she is addicted to meth.(the mother) she suggested i take my daughter and i may of 2011 i had to move in with a friend and had no other place to take her so i gave her back to mother. in aug of 2011 i moved into my own place and i told her mother that you are on drugs and u sell drugs she is staying with me u dont like it take me to court, but she never took me to court. in septemer 2011 the mother went to jail for possion for sales of meth and served 16 months county prison. she was released in june 0f 2012 and begged me to come back to my house she wanted to start over. i thought about it and said ok we can work out our problems for the benefit of our daughter. her other daughter continues to live with her sister as that is where she wants to be and not with her mother. her sister lets her come over on the weekends to visit. in september of 2012 i suspected she was using meth again but did not say anything as not to alert her so she would be caught. i found a letter on the floor written by her to a friend stating she has been doing meth for 2 months and hes not suspecting anything. i confront her about the letter and she n ever admits its about meth and changing her story about the letter always changes. i kick her out instantly and she never calls daughter or when she visits its like shes just here to relax not to really see her. when she calls its to ask me for money or something else. daughter lives with me and told her she can come visit on weekends but never does. if she visits she just shows up so i cant say no or were busy today. she is not allowed to see other child because sister say so not cause of courts. i have kept a diary of all contact with mother. her last boyfriend was a 3 week relationship that ended after he was found guilty of possion for sales of heroin. she still denies any drug useage. what are my chances of getting full custody. she has no job no money no car and lives in a parked rv with no utilities.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 27 January 2013 06:59 posted by Guest

    You can call legal aid. Free: You can call legal aid. Free attorneys for low income.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 25 January 2013 14:55 posted by Guest

    i need help badly!: In 2006 My X husband and I split up due to a affair he was having he moved in with her. We was together 13 years and have 5 children well I made a horrible choice to use methinphedamines somebody turned me into cps and they took my 5 children to foster care. I woke up and realized I just lost my whole world "my ex " leaving wasn't nothing compared to losing my children. I did everything I could to get them back the strictest meetings passed daily drug screens etc well my x husband said if I give him custody then cps would be out of the picture and I could have them back I agreed to it of coarse and I signed full physical custody to him. I got the kids back 90% the time they was with me I started a job working from 1pm to 1 am 6 days a week so they stayed w there dad for about six months and I found a better 1st shift job so I could have the kids back my oldest son stayed w his dad as the other 4 stayed w me. Since 2008 I have had all my kiddos even my oldest because there dad went to prison for manufacturing meth burglary and escape he got out in 08/11 and marries my mother n law he would give me 75.00 a week sometimes but would go months without a dime and there's nothin I can do because I need a lawyer I can't afford a lawyer supporting 5 children alone exp. He is on his 3rd divorce currently strung out on meth and pain pills and I knw there has to be a way I can get court order support. I live n Indiana please someone help me. Is there anything I can do to get court offered support

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 23 January 2013 15:43 posted by Guest

    Similar Situation...: My fiance has similar the non custodial parent to his daughter and he gets her every other weekend and 1 time during the week. They filed their divorce papers on 1/24/12. She got primary custodian, He pays her $600 per month child support, as well as splitting the daycare which is $100.00 biweekly and she gets to claim her every year at tax time as a dependent. What this also means is, whatever he pays in for daycare he is not able to claim because you have to claim the child as a dependent before you can get any childcare credit back in a refund.

    Her mother is remarried and has been since June 2012. He has 3 children ages 15 (girl), 10 (girl), and 6 (boy). He has shared custody of his children and they are with him 7 full days a week and then they're with their mother 7 full days in rotation as so. In addition the the children they already have including my fiance's daughter, they have a new baby (boy) due May 9th. (I know...they didn't waste any time) The problem is, is they have a 1200 square foot house; 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom where the children ranging in different ages are sharing 2 bedrooms of the 3. They have my fiance's daughter sharing a room with the 6 yr old boy and the two older girls sharing a room. When he's addressed this issue she has stated that while his children are there for the week, his son sleeps in the room with the older daughter but that his bed and belongings are in the room with my fiance's daughter. Which we thought was kind of strange? That child would never be able to sleep in his own bed when he visits with his Daddy a week at a time? So...this has been an issue of concern. The fact that they do not have adequate housing for a family this size as well as adding a new baby. They don't even have the capacity to hold them all at one time to travel anywhere...they have to take 2 vehicles to go anywhere as a family. I know that things are expensive etc and some people just can't afford it, but he doesn't pay child support since he shares custody and she drives a 5 passenger lexus suv and they planned this baby so...they knew what they were doing...

    The other issues are not sending jackets for her to wear even when going to daycare and it's 30 degrees. The biggest of all is the fact that he was driving down a main road that leads to their road in his work truck and he happens to look down the road and see her on her bike in the middle of the road with what looked like no any concerned parent would do, he immediately turned his truck around to see if she was with her mother. As he approached the house, he sees his daughter and no one else but her 6 year old step-brother. He asked the little boy to please go in and get her mother. When she came out, she had an astonished look on her face. He asked her what she was doing playing outside by herself? She didn’t reply to his question so he proceeded to let her know that he found her in the road riding her bike and she turned and looked at their daughter and said, “what are you doing in that road, you know better than that?” He told her, that she was only 3 years old and needed adult supervision any time she is outside playing. She is not capable of comprehending the dangers of playing outside by herself, let alone in the road. A 6 year old does not have the responsibility or maturity level to watch her by himself either. He's also had people that live in her neighborhood tell him that they have seen her in the road riding her bike at different times.

    Then last but not least there have been times when his daughter has said things like, “I don’t ever get to see my Mama, or I haven’t seen my Mama in a long time.” When he asks her why, the responses were because she spent the night with her “Grandma” (her mother) or with her “Mimi” (her grandmother). Giving the age that she is this gives her more than the “normal” separation anxiety and is not in a routine where she should be with either her mother or with her daddy during the school/work week. This is a concern for us and appears that maybe her mother being the primary custodial parent is too much for her to handle. There have been times that she has told us that her step-father yells at her. This too bothers him and myself very much and he's also addressed this with her mother and told her yelling at her to get her to do something was inappropriate parenting and that he’d rather she and him stick to the discipline of their daughter.

    Needless to say the bike deal was the straw that broke the camel's back and he's meeting with his lawyer as we speak to amend the papers for shared custody, child support, daycare expenses and rotating the years to claim her as a dependent so that it's fair for both of them and then she's better off as well...we I guess we will see what happens...I know I didn't really answer your question but like myself it's good to see that others are going through the same issues and feel helpless. I hope you and I both find some answers soon and get some help with these delicate issues...good luck.

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 23 January 2013 02:13 posted by Guest

    you need to file before he does.: I'm n the same exact situation you have. I used to reside in California where my son was born but afyer his first year i left his abusive father and moved bavk to Florida (my home town). We had a verbal agreement that my son was able to ho see him every summer,so i never took him to court or did anything in writting,,the first year was find my son got picked up in FL NY his Dad and 2 months later i went and.picked him up in Ca. The following year we the same but this.time he wanted my son to stay longer,i agreed that was the worst.mistake of my life,he then went to CA family court asking for sole.custody without me knowing.whenui arrived to pick my son up i got served with court orders and i was unable to take my son out of the state until seen a judge in court. This was in march and court was svhedule for he didn't even let me see my son and i had to return .FL i hired from CA abd even tho my son had lived with me in FL and had gone to daycare in Fl,and i had a good job,my own house and no history of problems.the CA court gave primary custody to him. And visitation for me to see my son a week at a time whenever i was in CA also i had to notify his dad 2 weekd in advance if i was bringing my son to FL on vacation i was allowed just 1 week. And there inly reason was because the judge said that afyer 6 the state of.California they have the jurisdiction over the child and that because my child was 3 yrs old at.that time he was already adjusted to his dad and his grandmother and they couldn't take him out of that comfort zone that thay wouldn't be good for the child. in march is going to be a year since this night mare startwd for me,he doesn't even follow court orders and im going to take him to court soon for that and also for not letting me bring my son on vacation to Fl. So my best advice is to go the court wherw your son and his fatjer reside and acuse hin of kidnapping your son and you want sole custody,explain don't reside therw and he is not letting you see your son. don't long the.longer you wait the harder it qould get. Good luck. And never give up!

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 23 January 2013 00:52 posted by Guest

    So I have a baby he's 4: So I have a baby he's 4 months. My ex doesn't take care of him he doesn't give me any money for him. Thank god I have sum help from de government like stamps and wic. I don't work but I'm seeking for a job. The thing is a want to go to court and see if I can get the whole custody of my child but since I don't have a job I don't now what to do :(

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 21 January 2013 17:21 posted by Guest

    Joint Legal Custody Advice: My husband and I have 50/50 custody of his 6 year old daughter. Her mother lives 3 houses down from her parents (my step-daughter's grandparents) and we are finding out that she is spending most if not all of her time with them instead of mom. It is extremely frustrating knowing this and feeling like we can't do anything about it. Our view on the situation is if her mother doesn't want to spend that time with her, then she should be with us. I know my step-daughter is being taken care of physically and that is not a concern whatsoever, but there is no stability there. Not to mention the fact that there is no discipline either; we are very old school (manners, sir, ma'am, ect.) and it is complete opposite on the other side. Before pursuing anything with the courts, I wanted to see if anyone had any advice or had been in the same situation. Also a little more background, a new boyfriend has now moved into the mother's house; she met this man in November and he moved into her home in December. He has two children of his own (ages 6 and 3) that he sees every other weekend. From what we understand, his sons end up sleeping in the same room as my step-daughter being that the house only has two bedrooms. I think it's completely inappropriate for these two BOYS to be sleeping in her room with her regardless of their ages.

    Like I said, any advice would be so greatly appreciated! We know in our hearts that it is completely in the best interest of my step-daughter to be with us full time, but we just need to prove it and get some guidance as to how. Thanks so much in advance for responses!

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 20 January 2013 21:58 posted by Guest

    UCCJEA: Having gone down this road that you are on I want to tell you that if the child was born in Massachusetts and you have reamined in that state according to the UCCJEA ( Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act) Massachusetts is the home state and any modifications to child custody under this law are to be made in Massachesetts. Check out the UCCJEA and get an attorney.
    Hoping all goes well.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 20 January 2013 16:22 posted by Guest

    Yes, Same thing happened with: Yes, Same thing happened with my ex and I. When the court found out that our son was in fact staying the night with his parents, while he was at work(He too worked odd hours) on his time to have with him too. The court will always want the child to be with the other parent before grandparents, baby sitters etc especially over night.. Yes, he is most likely doing it for child support reasons considering they are based upon over nights. My ex did this too for that reason, and it dramatically effected child support. Go after him for custody, because you will win if it is for that reason.You are the childs Mother, and he should be with you before anyone else.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 20 January 2013 00:52 posted by Guest

    Using Grandma to avoid child support: My husband and I have just filed for a legal separation. He wants 50/50 custody but he works until 10 p.m at night so his mom ends up having our kids on 2 or more of his days (3-4 per wk). I feel there is no reason they need to stay at Grandma's for those nights when they can be with their mother. I think he is doing it so he can avoid child support. Does this give me a good case for primary custody?

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 19 January 2013 20:58 posted by Guest

    help: My son is 3 years old the father has full custody I allowed it because I was going to college and very busy I asked for joint but he said he needed full to get benifits so I agreed. Well he is from south Carolina we live in Massachusetts our son was born here and has been here his whole life. I have set visations every week. He plans on moving back to south Carolina with our son . Can he do that ??? I'll never see him again

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 18 January 2013 23:31 posted by Guest

    Can i get full custody of my daughter: My daughter's father and I were never married and are no longer together. My daughter is now a year old. Her father wanted so bad for me to get an abortion when I found out I was pregnant with her, he wasn't present for thebirth of her and didn't see her until over a week after she was born. Within this y ear he has missed her first birthday,thanksgiving,Halloween and only had her for 2hours on Christmas her very first Christmas he didn't see her at all. This year for Christmas all he got.her was a couple stuffed animals. He has 2 sons from a prior marriage and they are everything to him compared to my daughter. He chooses to only have her for a couple hours every Tuesday and Thursday as long as something else doesn't come up. He was supposed to take her for a few hour's tomorrow and just because I asked him to pick her up and drop her back off to me he won't take her and is now threatening us going to court to get 50/50 custody. I would pike myself to go for full custody because he isn't and hasn't made much effort to be a dad to her. What are the chances that I could get awarded full?

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 18 January 2013 18:11 posted by Guest

    worried sick: I left my abusive ex boyfriend over a year ago and now he wants joint custody of my 2 year old daughter. I was served papers at work (i'm currently due to have a baby in 2 days) about 2 months ago requesting a paternity test, me to pay his lawyer fees, give him the income tax money I should be awarded for the year I had her in my sole custody, and he is asking for joint custody. He strangled me and nearly killed me but I was never served and had no idea when the court date was. So I called the DA who would not reopen the case because I was a "waste of time and money". So his DV case has now been dismissed. I know for a fact that he is a drug addict and an unfit parent but I'm worried because his family has money and they have always been able to turn the court in their favor. I wish the system where I lived wasn't so biased. I'm tired of the justice system being a load of crap. To top it all off, I've been running around like crazy trying every means possible to prevent him from getting any custody of my child. I'm beginning to wonder if I should take my daughter and leave but I know this is a matter where I will just have to stand up for her and fight. I'm due to give birth to a second child in 2 days and have no idea how I'm going to be able to handle a toddler, a newborn, a job, and all of this stress.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 17 January 2013 13:44 posted by Guest

    My son's father lives in another state and I want to go to court: I let my son visit his father in another state which i live in a different state. My son has always lived with me but this time his father wont give me back my son. we have no custody agreement and dont have a court order how can i take my son's father to court its been 6 months and i cant see my 4 year old son because he wont let me.Can I take him to court even though we live in two different states?

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 16 January 2013 08:21 posted by Guest

    my ex turned into a woman after the divorce: I know i cannot say it's the gender change that is bad for our son but its the known drug addicts and transgender halfway houses "she" hangs out with while our son is in "her" care. The boyfriend and "her" were witnessed fighting last weekend over the live in boyfriend using bathsalts. This same boyfriend is also a newly recovering heroin addict but this witness said, asking me not to repeat it, said the track marks were fresh on the boyfriend's arms. My ex uses this man to watch our son to save money on childcare. My ex also said that the boyfriend is a panhandler but stated that our son does not go with the boyfriend when he begs for money. Freaked out here because i have had bipolar (SMI) since I was 17, i am 35 now, but i take my medication. My ex had been diagnosed bipolar before the gender change and now has a letter from the doc saying that "she" does not need meds and shows no signs of mental health symptoms, however "she" is still labeled SMI, seriously mentally ill, in the system. Not easy to get that removed. (I know the system and people usually can get docs to write notes to say what anything)
    Can I get my son full time? I am still willing to have my ex see our son on like every other weekend if they stay at home maybe. dont know what to do.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 13 January 2013 14:31 posted by Guest

    Child support: Hello, my husband has two kids from his previous marriage. His one son who is 16 called my husband asking if he could move in with us, he wants to wait till the end of the school year. My husband's ex wife said we still have to pay her for child support, but I was thinking since she has one kid and we have one we wouldnt. Im confused on how thos works, they got divorce in IL but we live in TN. Please help me, thanks!!

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 13 January 2013 00:00 posted by Guest

    Quick Question: I have a friend who is still legally married to this woman; has a child with her, who had an affair and had a child as a result of the affair. To this day they are still married and not even legally separated from this person. The father of the second child is now in jail for abusing his child. My friend is now going for custody of his child, the question is could my friend get custody of the other child from her other relationship, even though he is not the father?

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 10 January 2013 08:58 posted by Guest

    my ex has custody but my kids don't live with her: My ex wife has custody of our two girls but they don't live with her. She tries to take my time with my kids we have joint legal custody but she tells me nothing about my kids doctors school or anything we are suspose to talk about her family gets to see my kids more then I and my time is always cut short what can I do about it please don't know what to do

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 03 January 2013 14:26 posted by Guest

    worried: My daughter is almost 15 months. I was with her genetic contributor for a brife couple months and when i got pregers i tried to stick with him but he wouldnt stop the drugs, the lying, the drinking. I began to realize i didnt know who this man was or what he was capable of he had us living in a motel room. me without access to see a doc or anything when i tried to confront him or to get help he got erratic threatening to kill himself and it was my fault cause he was going to be a rockstar and i ruined it for him and just really dramatic and scary. i told him i was leaving at 4 months he said he didnt want her, he wanted to abort her or adopt her out cause he didnt want anyone else to rais his kid even if he didnt want to. At 6 months pregnt he finally got back ahold of me saying we did our duty to breed and we are eternally bonded and a bunch of other poor me physco babble. His mental stability is only on the surface. I have not heard from him since then. I am remarried now to my highschool sweetheart he has been there since the moment she was born the only father she knows. I heard froma mutual friend that hes trying to get custody i dont see how he can if hes never seen her touched her supported her he dont even know how to spell her name or her birthday. we live states away. Im concernd about his ability to manipulate ppl into feeling sorry for him and helping him its how he has made it through his whole life the man is 32 and has yet to hold a job down for longer than a couple months or stay sober. What can i do to stop him from draggin my family through this me and my husband are considering adoption any suggestions??

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 30 December 2012 11:45 posted by Guest

    child custody: my kids father has my three children 7,6 and 4 years old. we are going to court now. my children are telling the court that they seen me having sex with my ex boyfriend. i dont know what to do. am not a monster, i wouldnt do something that bad in front of my babies. my kids father also dont let me talk to them. i feel in my heart that he is trying to make the kids hate me. am so scared that i loose my babies to him. i had them all of their lifes. most of the time i was alone with them i mean he was always living us, he was coming and going for years. i try my best to give the the things they needed. when they got sick or hurt, am there. my legal aid lawyer is not doing his job. so my question is, who can help me fight this case, and what should i do? i not a bad mom, is nothing i wouldnt do for them, i will go to the end of the world for them. thank you.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 25 December 2012 00:20 posted by Guest

    nervous: my children are adopted, my former same sex spouse and I adopted them together in 2004 and 2005. Upon there arrival, I became a stay at home parent, and have been since then. Then in 2007 in the midst of our third adoption, he left us. He was arrested for domestic violence toward me, and spent a year in anger management. Now, in 2012, after 5 long years he has decided that he wants sole physical custody, wants me to pay him child support, while he claims both children on his taxes, leaving me with every other weekend and one evening per week for 4 hours!
    Our children have been in a 50/50 arrangement, and I asked them point blank, what would you like, how can I make life easier... They both say they like things the way they are. He is accusing me of being unfit, however right before this he took off to PR for 10 days. I believe that joint everything is best, and it serves what our children want to see happen. If there has never ever been any issue until now, and I am more than willing to work with him however I can.... Could he actually win? In our family, I play the maternal role, stay home, read, teach them about adoption etc... tuck them in. Now out of no where, im totally unfit and he should be in control. If this happends, he stands to gain a substantial increase in come, by not paying me the 1/4 of what the court ordered, id be paying it to him, he claims taxes and all exemptions, he runs the show basically. He filed bankruptsy and if he has more dependents, he has to repay less. The entire offer is ridiculous, and reads MONEY all over it. Also, I am about to adopt another baby, with my new partner. I am scared to breath, bc he threatens me, and esssentially wants control over my life. Please any suggestions/advice.... Would a court change an order that has worked well for everyone for five years just because he wants it changed? He does earn more money than I do, I stay home with them still. Will the court see his unreasonable nature of requests? I am afraid my attorney may not be acting fast enough..... Also, if anyone can recommend anything I can do to better my chances with the court, please advice. I have a small family, and we keep to ourselves. I never interfer with his time....

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 12 December 2012 13:20 posted by Guest

    family viollence: Hi, I just found out my ex husband has been charged twice with family violence while being in his next relationship. During our divorce I brought up his abuse and the judge said I had to have proof of it, and dismissed my claim. In the three years since our divorce he has called maybe four to five times to speak with the kids,all other times he call to speak to me about his current relationships and after the kids have gone to bed. I tell him it's not my place and that I feel uncomfortable with these phone calls and I hang up. His mother also barely ever calls to speak with the children, and wants me to give her his visitation rights. I have told her I'm uncomfortable as I don't know the laws regarding it. My issue is this, his act of violence was in front of his other children, he was required to go to jail, and do a years worth of anger management classes, none of which he has completed. I don't want my children around him, I worry for their safety. Though I don't mind his family. I have tried to work out an agreement with his mother, like a weekend get away or something where he won't be able to interfere. Can I be held in contempt for not letting him see the kids during Christmas. Also on another note he is in arrears with his child support.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 18 November 2012 01:27 posted by Guest

    My son is 6 years old and my: My son is 6 years old and my son has been with me since he was born premature his father has not once wanted anything to do with him until I started getting child support and now he wants to get custody

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 07 November 2012 05:21 posted by Guest

    Ex now wants joint custody of our children: My ex has decided that he wants joint custody of our two children. We have been separated nearly two years and during this period he has had them approximately 3 nights a week. I don't believe this is in the best interest of my children and wondering what the courts opinion would be. Any thoughts appreciated. Thanks

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 02 November 2012 19:34 posted by Guest

    It must be admissible to your: It must be admissible to your case as in it has to be something that affects your child like domestic violence towards you or child etc or anything that could harm the child.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 02 November 2012 19:22 posted by Guest

    NONE AT ALL!!!! I am going: NONE AT ALL!!!! I am going through the same thimg with my EX and when he finally saw he could not get me to get back to him he filed a legitimation case against me in oct and i am waiting to go to court. He is battling alcohol so i will nip it in his butt!

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 25 October 2012 18:29 posted by Guest

    Custody: My ex husband is mad because im dating somebody that our daughter is around. He is trying to sue for full custody and has tried to kill himself and been admitted into a mental hospital. He is trying to prove me unfit and has called social services on me before of course they quickly closed the case because all he has against me is the fact that im dating someone else. I dont know what to do and what his chances are of getting full custody of my daughter with his mental background and also his mother whom he lives with has also done the same thing. What are the chances of him getting joint or full custody of my daughter?

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 24 July 2012 19:29 posted by Guest

    should i file for sole custody : My daughter's dad is a dear "friend" but a horrible father to our daughter the only time he sees, talks to or has anything to do with her life is when his mother asks for her for one week during summer vacation . Recently I've come to realize if something happens to me I do not trust him to take care of her. I did mention to him that I was considering sole custody . He said not to do it for his sake . I do not work as of right now but he does. I dnt think as a father he is a good man but I do not want to put him or my daughter thru a custody battle but I do jot feel he should be able to make life altering decisions in her life if he doesn't even know her middle name . My family and friends say to file for sole custody should I do it if I'm jot comfortable or should I because its what's best for my daughter ?

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 11 August 2011 06:48 posted by Guest

    I'm in your shoes now. My: I'm in your shoes now. My STBX did that. He wanted me to also pay him the daycare $$ to him "so he could pay it for me". Wanted retroactive child support going back to point we were still living together, etc.

    These are not the old school me some of us were raised by. This is a new generation who is turning the tables on women for $$. Why? Well, IMHO

    a) ego. If you left him, anyway he can crush you publicly is ok
    b) ensuring you finance his lifestyle and not the other way around (e.g., gambling, women, etc)
    c) form of control...this is esp in cases where there was abuse and you are breaking free from it

    I got some sage advice from my brother in regards to men like this - publicity. Very few respect a man who is willing to use their children for $$. Make sure all know the deal whether he wins the case or not. Also note who is really watching the kids.

    I did that and in return, I found some interesting tidbits on how the potential $$ was going to be spent and just who is really watching the kids in my case. The court of public opinion is often not used enough.

  • Comment Link Sherry Monday, 08 August 2011 23:55 posted by Sherry

    Playing Games: My husband was initially willing to concede to joint legal custody and leaving me the residential parent. The kids have not spent one night with him since we separated. Now he wants joint physical custody where we split days and nights. He is in hopes that he will be awarded child support if he has the kids 50% of the time. Am I crazy or is he using the kids as a means to an end?

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 19 June 2011 00:14 posted by Guest

    Parenting a child after a: Parenting a child after a divorce is an unenvious situation. Sure, two parents who are dedicated to the task at hand can provide a loving environment that the child feels comfortable in despite the unideal circumstances. However, even if the child is ok, there could be things going on behind the scenes that are not agreeable for one or both of the parental parties. It is during these moments that one wonders how these two people ever had a">healthy relationship. Just because a marriage does not work out, does not mean that one or both parent should stop parenting, or create a hostile environment in which a child is caught amongst the quarreling. Ideally, both parents would remain present and positive influences in the lives of their child.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 24 September 2010 11:36 posted by Guest

    judge and support: My ex husband makes 6 figures, recently, he was informed about another child who is 20 in NY. He went to court in NJ and after we have a PSA the Judge ruled that our first legal child will in fact have her support decreased. I have spoken to numerous attorneys aho have all said that the first child cannot be affected by this new child. This Judge is horrible and unjust. I am so angry at this court system. Any advice.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 27 May 2010 14:37 posted by Guest

    custody: my sons father left me while i was pregnant, married someone else on my due date. he now pays child support. my son is 8mths old. he sees is father anytime he wants but he doesnt spend the night at his father's house. his father doesnt want me to meet his new wife, come to his house to see what type of environment he's living in and he told me i dont need to know where my son is at or who watches him, as long as he has him. my son father is now taking me to court for joint legal custody and visitation. what would be the outcome of all of this. he has a criminal record(which he spent 2yrs in jail for misdeameanor crimes) but its from 1989-2002 can i use this against him in court along with other evidence that i have