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Question: My husband and I contribute to household bills according to our income. In other words, since his income represents 75% of our total household income and mine represents 25%, he pays 75% of the bills and I pay 25%. Since we've never paid in 50-50 to our lifestyle, does that ruin my chances to get "traditional" alimony if we were to divorce? (We have no kids.)

Answer:

Alimony is determined by several legal statutes:

In determining whether alimony shall be awarded, and the duration and amount of the award, the court shall hear the witnesses, if any, of each party, and shall consider the following factors:

1. The length of the marriage,

2. The causes for the dissolution of the marriage,

3. The age, health, station, occupation, amount and sources of income, vocational skills, employability, estate and needs of each of the parties,

4. The property division which the court might make, and

5. In the case of a parent to whom the custody of minor children has been awarded, the desirability of such parent's securing employment.

There is no absolute right to alimony. The court isn't required to give equal weight to each of the specified items it considers in determining an award.

Slowly, the courts have begun to see they don't need to award alimony permanently, like it always was in the past. Today, alimony can still be awarded permanently, but it also serves to "get people back on their feet" after a divorce — not just women, but men as well. Although alimony is usually reserved for longer marriages (i.e. more than 10 years), and/or when one spouse earns substantially more than the other, this is not always the case. Alimony is basically dependent upon the paying spouse's ability to pay and the receiving spouse's need for support.

Most courts typically don't consider marital fault when awarding alimony, although each state is different. The court sometimes might list economic fault, like squandering marital assets on gambling or an affair, as a factor when determining alimony.

Ultimately, alimony is determined on a case-by-case basis. Check your state's laws (known in the legal world as statutes) to see what they have to say about it. If you are in disagreement with your spouse about whether or how much alimony will be paid, you should speak with a mediator and/or family law attorney to work those issues out. A mediator can use his or her training in conflict resolution to help you reach a settlement. An attorney can advise you how cases are typically decided in your area, and if you are likely to be awarded alimony.

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  • Comment Link Buttahflied Tuesday, 24 October 2017 01:53 posted by Buttahflied

    Can an ex spouse get out of paying support payments spousal support or Alimony by marrying the woman he cheated with his mistress girlfriend, is it acceptable that he marrys her to get the courts to reduce support payments from the original judgement because he now has a new obligation to his new family, grandchildren of hers and her grown kids vs first wife and their kids both of whom are disabled. Wife never able to work fulltime and still has kids under her roof both disabled dependant on the support money. He wants more breathing room so he and wife whom now is supposedly disabled and cancer and will have partial hospital bills, they have good insurance he works FT 23 hr or more plus retirement military, and now they want his ex wife toPERMANENTLY give up 200 more so they can buy a house because the new wife cant accept living in an apartment. He reduced the 500 to 300 because he thinks he needs a break, he was paying child support 2 disabled kids he owes 1247 in arrears and doesnt have to pay child support now, thus freeing up lump sum. He has all that, isnt paying her any of his military pension she was entitled to, he kept switching the source of income titles thus confusing her taxes she had to pay twice to be refiled because of his mean games egged on by his girlfriend now his wife. What are the chances the first wife whom never was able to hold down a job and cant work because of illness, what are her chances of keeping the 500 as a stay and getting the 200 he has been neglecting to pay her? Under these circumstances who will win? Married 23 yrs 16.5 yrs of his military career. Divorced 9 yrs. First Wife. His Second wife hes been married to for 4 yrs.

  • Comment Link Buttahflied Tuesday, 24 October 2017 01:49 posted by Buttahflied

    Can an ex spouse get out of paying support payments spousal support or Alimony by marrying the woman he cheated with his mistress girlfriend, is it acceptable that he marrys her to get the courts to reduce support payments from the original judgement because he now has a new obligation to his new family, grandchildren of hers and her grown kids vs first wife and their kids both of whom are disabled. Wife never able to work fulltime and still has kids under her roof both disabled dependant on the support money. He wants more breathing room so he and wife whom now is supposedly disabled and cancer and will have partial hospital bills, they have good insurance he works FT 23 hr or more plus retirement military, and now they want his ex wife toPERMANENTLY give up 200 more so they can buy a house because the new wife cant accept living in an apartment. He reduced the 500 to 300 because he thinks he needs a break, he was paying child support 2 disabled kids he owes 1247 in arrears and doesnt have to pay child support now, thus freeing up lump sum. He has all that, isnt paying her any of his military pension she was entitled to, he kept switching the source of income titles thus confusing her taxes she had to pay twice to be refiled because of his mean games egged on by his girlfriend now his wife. What are the chances the first wife whom never was able to hold down a job and cant work because of illness, what are her chances of keeping the 500 as a stay and getting the 200 he has been neglecting to pay her? Under these circumstances who will win?

  • Comment Link Sue Bullen Wednesday, 11 October 2017 21:27 posted by Sue Bullen

    I was married for 30 yrs, I was awarded half of his pension. I’m disabled divorced for 6yrs now, can I file for spousal support my only income is social security disability insurance.

  • Comment Link Robert duncan Wednesday, 28 June 2017 23:44 posted by Robert duncan

    I have been married for 21 years have been the bread winner for about 5 years if u half to pay how much an how long

  • Comment Link Margo Paton Tuesday, 09 May 2017 16:25 posted by Margo Paton

    Have been married for four years husband no longer wants to be married.I am not American the house is his not mine and I am totally dependent on him as I have used up all my savings what can I do ?

  • Comment Link  Holly Shackelford Sunday, 09 April 2017 13:23 posted by Holly Shackelford

    I've been married 11 years. When we first got married I was holding a long time job. He told me I could quit my job & get one closer. Ever since I left that job I cannot find another job that I liked. I have a history with severe depression. My husband told me to apply for disability. I didn't think I would get it in a million years. I just did it to appease him. I got my first disability check less than 4 months. I don't pay any bills & never have. My checks have always been for things I need. My prescriptions, doctor's appointments, clothes, anything I needed. If we get a divorce will I be entitled to anything, especially if we get one after he retires?

  • Comment Link Eileen Tuesday, 28 March 2017 04:22 posted by Eileen

    I've been divorced for way over 10years can I get alimony from him now

  • Comment Link Kathi Lewis Monday, 09 January 2017 22:43 posted by Kathi Lewis

    My Husbands X wife gets 65% of his SS, how can that be after he is 72?

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 16 November 2016 02:20 posted by Guest

    I'm sorry to disagree with so many and I'm speaking as a woman, but I can't understand why a spouse (male or female) should be automatically entitled to support post marriage. Alimony especially sounds like next to extortion in cases where there are no children or grown children. People are responsible to make sound financial decisions throughout their marriage.

    This is not to say that settlements should be unfair or that the lower or non-wage earner should receive nothing, but outside of child support or help to the spouse while the children are under 18 it makes no sense to me.

    My male friend, who was faithful to a fault, is getting divorced from a loveless wife who refused to work and used the (now grown) child as an excuse to stay home. Now that he's older and no longer earns much she wants out of the marriage and wants spousal support after he alone supported the family for years. He no longer makes much of a salary and can't afford it. What a slap in the face for years of work and good behavior. Shameful.

    These laws are based on out of date old-fashioned marriages and should be changed.

  • Comment Link Rick Monday, 07 November 2016 17:17 posted by Rick

    I have MS. My wife has hated me ever since the diagnosis . I am finally tired of the mental and verbal abuse I take for being disabled . There are other concerns but this is the big one . All I receive is my social security benefits, so yes life would be a struggle ,but at least a peaceful one . She is now telling me she can take half of my benefit. She is gainfully employed with full benefits . Is that possible?

  • Comment Link Judith Simpson Monday, 07 November 2016 15:46 posted by Judith Simpson

    I have been married for 24 years n filed over 4 years ago for divorce he physically through me out n he has put in the papers abandonment of which is not true I am a recovering drug addict but have been clean for 8 years now I've been told ha cannot use it against me he is also a drug addict of which believe he is still what r my rights am I entitled to alimony I am only working now that I'm alone I am also supporting 2 of my 3 children although over 18 still supporting them I need answers n financial help he makes 5 times more money than I do

  • Comment Link Bonita Y. Mathews Tuesday, 11 October 2016 19:23 posted by Bonita Y. Mathews

    I have been married for 21yrs divorcing due to adultery. I live in Ohio its a no fault state as of Now no alimony will be awarded because the spouse doesn't make enough money. I was also told the 401K is divided after retirement I an entitled to 50% of the 401K at time of the Decree and since he cannot afford alimony I can request for 10% ??? or whats the cap I can request for in addition to the 50% to COVER the ALIMONY. Also including Checking and Savings which is currently hidden, Iam down too the wire and I want to know what AM I entitled to receiving.

  • Comment Link Kathy Weathers Thursday, 21 July 2016 16:17 posted by Kathy Weathers

    Married 22 years how much money would I get for alimony he makes $21 dollars a hour

  • Comment Link Anthony M. Ramey Friday, 01 July 2016 04:49 posted by Anthony M. Ramey

    I live in tennessee, and my wife are in the process of getting a divorce and we have agreed upon joint custody. Today is a Thursday and I will be leaving on Monday to work out of town for 2 weeks and I want to keep my son this weekend as my weekend for joint custody. She is not agreeing for me to keep him and spend time with him this weekend, but she wants the divorce. Can you tell me what immediate action that take to have my weekend with my son before I start job out of town on monday?

  • Comment Link mbraughler Wednesday, 22 June 2016 17:55 posted by mbraughler

    i was married 20 yrs to ex abusive to me and 5 kids. we literally got the clothes on our backs and nothing else despite having an 18 month restraining order(we live in pa) anyone who says courts are always in favor of women has NO clue

  • Comment Link Val Monday, 13 June 2016 03:18 posted by Val

    Me and my husband have been divorced for over 10 years. The child support ended last month. Can I go after him for spousal support now? As a hardship. I never signed the papers that I was declining it. Only his signature is on it and mine is blank.

    We are in Sutter County California.

    Please help?

  • Comment Link Theresa Bongiovanni Wednesday, 11 May 2016 17:38 posted by Theresa Bongiovanni

    I was married 23 years to an abusive husband
    Even though all proof was given in court
    Judge awarded my home and no alumony to my ex husband
    I was given 90 days to vacate
    I put all my inheritance in this place and he borrowed 10,000$ the night my mother passed away
    How can I get my share
    He has a home me I get a one room place to live
    I suffer from me nf cannot work
    Thank u

  • Comment Link Regi Wednesday, 04 May 2016 09:19 posted by Regi

    I've been married for 25 years and just recently found out that my husband's been looking into how alimony work, now he is the money maker and I've been injured from work for the last 3 years. When I confronted him about looking it up he said he was just wondering about how it works. He said he's not interested in getting a divorce, but why look up alimony if he wasn't? He's been lying a lot like a little kid with his hand in the cookie jar saying that he never got the cookie jar, while holding it in his hand. He pays all the bills and we have separate checking accounts would I still be entitled to alimony even though for the last four years we've had separate accounts?

  • Comment Link Janice Saturday, 30 April 2016 04:21 posted by Janice

    I have been married for 39 years and my husband has earned 75% of the income for our last 30 years of marriage. I have had 25% of income to help with the bills. I have brought everything into the marriage emotionally and physically that I could possibly give. Together we have two grown daughters that I can say I have raised because he is emotionally withdrawn from me all the time. If I divorce him can I ask for alimony?

  • Comment Link Yul Stephens Friday, 29 April 2016 23:21 posted by Yul Stephens

    I'm retired my wife works two jobs kids are all grown up we just don't agree on things any more we have a home together if divorced do I have to pay any type of support even if we sell the house split it even

  • Comment Link Luisa Monday, 18 April 2016 23:02 posted by Luisa

    I was married for 25 years to my first husband. During that time there was a lot of domestic violence. He has been charged & went to jail for it. While being married to him I fell in a big depression. I was also under a lot of duress.I was diagnosed with depression anxiety PTSD bipolar ADHD My psychiatrist had me under 6 different medications which affected my ability to think. During that time I thought divorce would be your best thing for us. During that process He started telling me that if I didn't Signing everything over my house to him my kids would never talk to me. He Would tell me that everything house the ranch his kids because he was the one that worked throughout his life. That since I had never heard worked in my life I wouldn't have nothing to offer them. That even made things worse. After him telling me all these horrible things I started believing it. So I finally decided to sign over the house. We went through apparently when she took care of this. Now five months have gone by I caught myself thinking what was I thinking so I finally decided to take him to court For alimony And to reverse the custody because he also tricked me into signing custody of my daughter over to him so I wasn't able to read or think straight. I have court on May 17th Do you guys think I stand a chance to get anything Back back my custody for my daughter half of the home Half of the property half of the business. What do you guys think Can I get some Replace please I'm pretty nervous about this I'm hoping everything goes good.

  • Comment Link Gurpreet Thursday, 03 March 2016 04:45 posted by Gurpreet

    I am married for over 10 yrs hav 2kids 7 n 2. I hav been a victim of domestic violence because of which cops had to intervene twice. My husband then settles for sometime but then starts all over again. He knows I would no longer take physical abuse do lately he has started verbal a use method he even abuses kids. He earns handsome salary n wants me to be kind of slave n stay at home all the time. But I somehow managed part time job just 6 hours a week. Want to get out of this relationship badly but fear I won't b able to support little ones. Is there any chance of me getting alumni .

  • Comment Link Missy Sunday, 28 February 2016 19:27 posted by Missy

    I'm married with my husband for only 4 years. I came from different country not a u.s citizen yet. We don't have kid. He is 16 years older than me he made more money than I do. One day I found out he was cheating on me. Do u think I can get spoussal support from him after we get divorce? Pls. Help. Thanks!

  • Comment Link kevin Monday, 30 November 2015 02:02 posted by kevin

    my wife took me to court for alimony and told the judge she couldn't sit or stand for more than 30 min. at a time but she is able to sit in front of a computer for 3-4 hours at time,why do I have to give her alimony

  • Comment Link Joe Tuesday, 24 November 2015 15:56 posted by Joe

    I've been married 31 years an have two children that are that are over 18 an live on there own. I've recently found out my wife is talking to another man an wants a divorce. Do not think she's cheated on me yet. I have no money but alot of bils we've accumulated together. I work part time at Post office an make roughly $1400/ month. Will I have to pay alimony an all the debt?

  • Comment Link Nana Thursday, 15 October 2015 13:39 posted by Nana

    Ailmony is nothing more than legalized extortion. I am a divorced female who was married 35 years. I did not ask for alimony even though the judge offered it and reminded me I was entitled to it. I disagree---the man kept me for many years because I stayed home to raise kids. That was generous enough. Why should I continue to demand money from him. I was in my fifties and I figured it was my responsibility to take care of myself and not be a parasite. It was not easy but I coped.

  • Comment Link Leslie Wednesday, 10 June 2015 23:26 posted by Leslie

    I've been married 25 years, been faithful even tho my husband has had several flings, affairs, whatever they're called and I stayed home to raise our child for 20 years. Gave up my career, friends and my money. Now he wants me to work and pay all the bills. How can i do that after not working for 20 years, the internet wasn't even invented yet when I stopped working. I don't know the software out there to get a decent job. I took a part time job as a waitress but I can't pay our bills with that. He won't fix things around the house, I do it ALL! I don't know what to do. How do you start over at age 53.

  • Comment Link Eliza Saturday, 11 April 2015 21:16 posted by Eliza

    I have been married 25 years. My husband wants a divorce. Our 2 children are on grown and on their own. I've had a part time job looking for more work and finally got and full time job. I'm 51 years old. My husband pays all the bills and the rent. Now that I'm working I buy all the groceries and household stuff. He makes about 120,000 a year and me this last year about 8,000. Will I get alimony? I won't be able to get a place of my own with what I make. I'm in California.

  • Comment Link Beverly Sunday, 15 March 2015 21:12 posted by Beverly

    I am a 44 year old woman who has been married 20 years . We have two kids who are over 18 and I have not worked for 17 years . The house we live in is owned by his parents and the only assets are our vehicles his trucl his older honda and my VW bug . I have been told he doen't have to pay spousal support if we divorce . I just want to know the law side of ir

  • Comment Link Eduardo Wednesday, 15 October 2014 16:06 posted by Eduardo

    I separate from my wife and I moved out, she continue living in my house and I continue paying utilities and supporting her as usual, my house is fully paid, my wife has never used her money to contribute to anything, she keeps her money for herself.
    She file for divorce after been married for 18 years no minor children, and her lawyer wants me to pay spousal support with retroactive to the date the divorce paper was submitted, arguing she needs 2.6K a month to pay for everything that I am paying up to this day and which is a lot less than 2.6K.
    Why her lawyer wants me to pay pay for spousal support during the divorce?

  • Comment Link mike Thursday, 01 May 2014 10:26 posted by mike

    I have been marry for two years, my wife and I want a divorce do i need to pay spousal support and we rent, i left the apartment do still need to pay. live in NJ.

  • Comment Link MaryNell Tuesday, 29 April 2014 04:48 posted by MaryNell

    I am a 75 year old woman who has not worked in years. I am in reasonably good health but do have high blood pressure and have had bypass surgery. I filed for divorce because my 70 year old husband is having an affair with a 56 year old woman and was planning to leave me. I used a detective. He is saying we had agreed to an open marriage. I was told by the court not to erase anything on my computer but I did it anyway to make it run faster and now I am being censored and fined by the court for "perhaps" destroying my husband's case even though I filed first and had real evidence on him. What can I do now? My attorney is not very talented and his is.

  • Comment Link Hildegarde Thursday, 13 March 2014 14:37 posted by Hildegarde

    Weve been married over 10yrs and hes a very heavy drinker but works and is now becoming verbully abusive. I want a divorce and want to stay in the house with our 6yr old daughter but he says he wont leave. Can i get him to leave as i think it better for our daughter to maintain as much stability as possible and i dont want ant more disruption then possible and her school and friends live close by. Hes hardly ever in the house anyway as he goes to the gym or says hes staying later at work and at weekends he says hes going into work. Hes never there when i need help from him.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 04 June 2013 13:50 posted by Guest

    Sorry to be not sympathetic to the other commenters, but I live in a no fault divorce state too and I was stupid enough to marry an ATTORNEY who cheated on me after 20 years of marriage. He is stalling the divorce because he wants to pay no alimony and is b*tching in front of his own children that the child support is "too high." I was a stay at home mom for 12 years raising those kids, which means I gave up the chance for a career. Temporary alimony is fine for 30 year old women who have a shot at another career, but permanent alimony I believe is extremely fair for a 52-year old woman who has to start over. What are my chances for a good second career and second husband? I am tired of hearing male ranting about alimony, when men my age can easily marry women 20 years their junior and continue on in their successful careers.

  • Comment Link Lee Kallett Sunday, 02 June 2013 18:28 posted by Lee Kallett

    I urge everyone to support alimony reform of our state’s outdated, unjust, and ultimately unfair alimony laws. The vast majority of people in Florida support reform and the legislators listened to their constituents and the people to pass the bill through the House and Senate. They did not listen to the misinformation and propaganda spread by the Family Law Section or other special interest groups with vested interests in preserving the status quo. Unfortunately, the Governor still vetoed the bill under the cloak of darkness several hours before it would have transitioned into law.
    I am a St. Pete Beach, FL resident caught up in the injustice of the current alimony laws. I was betrayed by my wife after 20 years of marriage when she came out of the closet, declared herself a lesbian, acknowledged she’d always been one, was having an adulterous affair with her twenty year old cousin, and became active in the gay community. Divorce followed in Hillsborough County (Tampa) and the no-fault State of Florida sentenced me to a lifetime of alimony payments. There was no opportunity to present the reason for the divorce in court and the judge rewarded my ex-wife with permanent spousal support. She was in her 40s, a summa cum laude college graduate and quite capable of providing for herself had she the incentive to do so. Awarding her lifetime alimony removed any such incentive. Instead, she chose to abandon her career, opting to live off the $4,000 monthly alimony. I, conversely, must work to support the ex-spouse, leaving only minimal funds to pursue my own life and provide for my new wife and family and our widowed elderly mothers. I am by no means wealthy, have my own health issues, and find myself forced into a lifetime of indentured servitude. Interestingly enough, the ex uses a made up alias name for all her day to day life and freelance photojournalism assignments, as well as her LGBT community activities. The only time she uses her true legal maiden name is for legal matters and banking the alimony checks I write her. This is truly avaricious and hypocritical.
    The Family Law Section of the Florida Bar is opposed to alimony reform and continues to spread misinformation about both the now vetoed bill and the current divorce and alimony law in what can only be viewed as a selfish attempt to preserve their own litigation-derived income. There was no other reason to oppose the bill. They assert the bill would be devastating to families and this is absurd. The families in question were already devastated when the divorce occurred. It is the current laws that further devastate the parties afterwards by bleeding one while encouraging dependency in the other. The new bill did not in any way alter child support responsibilities so children’s welfare remains protected and provided for.
    The FLS claims the bill is anti-women and this is also completely untrue. Indeed, there are women paying lifetime alimony too, in some cases to men who abused them! Florida’s antiquated alimony laws date from an era when women were less educated and not expected to support themselves. Times have changed and single and divorced women are educated, trained, gainfully employed and financially independent.
    The FLS claims the existing law already provides for termination of alimony when the obligor reaches retirement age. Like their other allegations, this is patently false and obviously self-serving. While the current law may provide the right to hire a lawyer (likely a member of the FLS!) and seek modification of alimony at retirement age, it does not end alimony payments nor does it assure a reduction in the amount being paid. Many alimony payers cannot afford or even think of retiring and will have to work until the day they die!
    While the bill provided for retroactively reviewing and re-hearing previous divorce settlements and possibly ending or modifying alimony, it does not call for the immediate termination of all previous alimony awards. If an alimony recipient can prove a clear need for alimony, the payments would continue. The bill did, however, call for abolition of permanent alimony and the establishment of specific guidelines on how long alimony should be paid.
    Divorce shouldn’t carry a lifetime penalty to one party for the benefit of the other. When a couple divorces, separation of lives should follow. The State of Florida is in effect penalizing me for a failed marriage caused by the deception and sexual identity issues of my former spouse. I am tethered for life to my gay ex-wife. Alimony Reform is needed to remedy this situation.
    - Alimony should provide for a transition to a new life and not permanently fund that new life
    - Alimony should be awarded based on need with established guidelines
    - Alimony and its length should be determined via a formula and not the whim of a judge
    Alimony reform is fair. It’s what the people want and it’s the right thing for the State of Florida and its families.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 06 May 2012 10:40 posted by Guest

    similar situation .....: My pending situation is not unlike yours. My parents have also contributed significant amounts to our homes, which we have rolled over into our current home. I'm wondering if you can share any words of wisdom with me ? I believe I am facing an inevitable separation soon. Any thoughts are appreciated.

    Thanks.

  • Comment Link CourageK Tuesday, 28 February 2012 22:02 posted by CourageK

    rights to a swiss account?: What rights do I have to an account in Switzerland?

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 17 July 2010 17:06 posted by Guest

    Financial Situation: I've been married nearly ten years. We have two children. I am considering divorce, but am worried because my earning potential right now is low. Also, our financial situation may be unique...My parents helped us with our first home--I contributed about 300k (cash! yes cash!) to our first home, my husband about 100k. We had a small mortgage. Subsequently, upon moving to new homes, have reinvested that money so that I've contributed a total of about 800k to our current home--we no longer have a mortgage. My husband has paid the taxes on our current house for about three years. My husband makes about 150k; I inherited money, so I have a personal net worth (not including our house) of about 1.1 million dollars, invested in my own brokerage account. I have not worked in ten years, staying home with both children, taking freelance and part-time teaching jobs for which I have earned very little. That notwithstanding, I have income as a shareholder in a small family corporation, and have earned about 50k/year for the past ten years. As such, I have historically paid for 1) most or all groceries/food 2) all entertainment, school-related/educational expenses for kids 3) most clothing and incidentals (eg toys and books, except on Christmas and birthdays, where my husband has paid about 40 per cent of these costs.) 4) I have paid for at least half of all vacations. I have no debt; neither does my husband. I am nearing 50 years of age, have a masters degree, but, like I said, have not worked really in 10 years, and don't consider myself highly employable right now. My husband has an MBA and has worked for about 25 years for the same company. He has about 500k in a 401k, and a pension. My kids and I are on his insurance plan. I was wondering if someone on this site could tell me what the financial outcome would be if we divorced. Would I get alimony? For how long? How about child support? Thanks.