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Domestic abuse does not have to be physical to be experienced as abuse. Abuse can include belittling a woman, keeping her on a very tight leash financially, limiting her movements outside of the house, filling the house with fear. A Canadian study found that 79 percent of marriages with serious abuse end in divorce.

The first step in dealing with abuse is recognizing it. But action must be taken. Here are some sources of information:

National Domestic Abuse Hotline

Domestic Abuse Awareness Handbook

Domestic Abuse Shelters

Domestic Abuse Victims Rights


Escaping Domestic Abuse:

If you or someone you know are living in an abusive relationship, and there is a chance of danger, the important thing is being ready and able to leave. Leaving isn’t an easy decision to make, I understand that. If you are decide to stay in a relationship, but think you might have to flee some day for safety’s sake, keep a survival kit ready.

Look up the addresses of the nearest women’s shelters or motels, so you know you will have a place to go. And make sure you have the following items with you:

• Money for cab fare

• A change of clothes

• Extra house and car keys

• Birth certificates

• Driver’s license or passport

• Medications and copies of prescriptions

• Insurance information

• Checkbook

• Credit cards

• Legal documents, including, if you have them, separation agreements and protection orders

• Address books

• Papers that show jointly owned assets

• And more money, in case the credit cards are canceled

Conceal your survival kit in your home or leave it with a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Your safety and happiness should be foremost. AP released figures last month showing that 44 percent of women murdered in New York from 2002 to 2005 were killed by their partners, and that 4,000 women were admitted to the emergency room in 2005 alone because of attacks by their husbands or boyfriends.


Related Content:

The Truth Behind Domestic Violence — a video interview with Bea Hanson, Chief Program Officer for Safe Horizon.

How to Identify a Victim of Domestic Abuse

Domestic Abuse: What You Need To Know

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  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 21 January 2013 23:01 posted by Guest

    You must press charges to get: You must press charges to get him to stop. It wil get worse, as he already has shown how little he respects who you are as a human. You are worth something, you are a special and wonderful person, for the sake of you and, importantly, your kids- it is time to draw a line now. Press charges to document this abuse, go to the doctor and have photos taken, do not live in the fear. I know how scary it is, I know how unreal and shell shocked you feel. But you can do this. SURVIVE.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 18 May 2012 10:22 posted by Guest

    I am a victim of domestic abuse: I'm in a very abusive ralationship with a man, he does anything he wants and I can't have a say in anything. Whenever I show my displeasure, I'm sure of getting a good hiding from him, he yells at me, telle me I'm nothing, hits me and even strangle me. I reported him a several times to the police but I end up withdrawing cases coz if I don't he promises to kill me, my children and himself. I have a daughter with him and I feel trapped in here. I'm staying with him coz I fear for my life and he knows I don't love him but he doesn't care. i'm a police officer and I sometimes feel ashamed to report. I don't have biological parents and I don't have anyone caring enough in my family to talk to and he knows that. Our last encounter is when he throttled me and then he left without saying where he was going to and I'm living in fear coz I don't know when he is going to strike again and what he will do. I really need help but don't know how to get it.