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The less you engage, no matter HOW RIGHT YOU ARE (and on this site, we all know you are right), the quicker it goes and you can get on with your healing.  The hardest part is accepting you never knew this person!  It came as a real shock to me anyway when my whole world blew up.  I got really lucky with my lawyer but it was so embarrassing how many lies and crazy accusations.  My lawyer had seen it all before so he was on to him from the start.  I was the slow poke.  You will be fine.  It DOES take time, but you will get there.  BREATHE and love your kids and yourself.  This too shall pass  (read more)

I'm just remembering to look forward in life, and to never look back.  If you get a "good memory" of your marriage, wipe it out of your mind because it was just a brief moment in time, an illusion, if you will.  Take your moments to fully cry or be sad and then move on.  Life is too short to feel sorry for ourselves, and think, "Woe is me, I don't have this, I don't have that" blah, blah, blah.  We need to just get over it, because it's a closed chapter in your book of life. Now, you're starting a new one, a beautiful, exciting, new one.  Enjoy it.  Embrace it.  Love yourself  (read more)

It isn't fair.  Life isn't fair.  There are no answers for what they do and the bit about your son I hope you tell him.  Don't know how old your husband is but all I can say is I can relate to everything you have said except the why of it all.  They make choices, they want their youth and their freedom, and they want to do things on their terms.  Mine said he wanted something new and different so off he has gone.  My life is not over neither is yours just different and we will comply.  I wasted two years mourning don't do that if you can, easier said then done, but you will be all right, you really will.  Believe in yourself and have the faith that God will be watching and though a tad slow at times he comes through  (read more)

I want you to truly know that I understand the hurt that you feel.  I do want you to really listen to the vital support the women on this have given you.  You my dear are not a VICTIM.  You are a strong WARRIOR whose work accomplishments are a testimony to your success.  I too went through a period of mindset that projected me as a victim.  My strong support system (therapist, doctor and close-knit circle of friends) would not allow me to stay in this funk long.  I am glad that I receive the kick in the pants to get ANGRY.  The anger fueled me to get past my victimization phase.  I learned that he got off on me feeling defeated and it is another method of control.  I have read your prior posts and know that you my dear are a take charge Woman!  You were never defeated  (read more)

It's never going to be easy when there is another woman involved.  There are so many emotions and feelings to begin with, so you are dealing with a lot!  It sounds to me like he's intentionally trying to be hurtful to you.  He wants you to feel bad and hurt.  I know it's so hard to push those feelings away, but when you let him/them get to you, you are letting them win.  I too struggle with everything that has happened in the last year.  I can go weeks feeling great and thinking I can do this, to just losing control the next day.  It's important to have a good support system.  If you don't have friends or family, then come here.  You need someone to be there to "talk you off the ledge" from time to time.  If you need someone to just vent to, I’ll give you my email address and you can vent to me anytime you need to or if you just need some support or encouragement.  Without it, the battle is just too hard.  Keep your chin up and know that it will get better  (read more)