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Although it may seem impossible right now, you are going to survive this, despite your best intentions right now not to. The best thing you can do right now is to sit in the pain of what his actions have done to YOU! Feel every emotion with no shame. YOU have nothing to apologize for and if YOU did, what would YOU be apologizing for; for LOVING HIM; for BELIEVING in HIM; for not seeing the SIGNS that he was DECEIVING YOU? There are some unscrupulous people in the world and they clothe themselves as sheep, when they are really wolves! I married one. And yes, he too, lied, cheated and LEFT. You know what, one-year post divorce (I divorced him, right away. Life is too short), I am so glad he's GONE! Still working on putting myself back together. It's hard not being coupled. Especially in the early phases of this process, everywhere you look, all you see is couples. But it is just the distorted lens through which you are seeing the world right now. Take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time. Make yourself do the little things we all have to do to take care of ourselves. I am new to this site, but your story tugged at my heart. Remain vigilant, pray for the courage to move past this pain you ... (continue reading)

I am so sorry that you are going through a very difficult time. Have you considered taking some medication for your anxiety and depression? It may help you to feel better about yourself and your life. Sometimes grief and loss can be paralyzing, but it doesn't need to be forever. This is a time for you to discover who you are and where you want to go from here. I would also encourage you to get connected with groups in your church, or pursue a new hobby something that helps you to heal and feel good about you … (continue reading)

You have to choose to become a successful person in your own right. Success is completely defined by you and your values. You need to think about how he is destroying you right now and do you want to let that happen? He won't care. He doesn't care. You cannot go back. You cannot be happy with a man that would treat you this way. No matter how difficult, your only option is to move forward. Figure out what is best for you and your children. I still cry most days but I tell myself it is progress. I used to cry all day, for days on end. I will not let to selfish people that didn't care who they trampled for their so-called "love" affair define my life. This has been a long and painful stretch of time in my life. I truly believe you must feel the pain, accept the pain as a companion for some time and then let it go. I understand the devastation you feel and I promise you, you can make it through this pain. Everyone says you will be stronger and I sincerely hope that is true. I don't feel strong; I don't feel confident; I feel fear. Scared to death but I am facing my fears. I put one foot in front of the other; do what needs ... (continue reading)

I'm so sorry you are so down. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I understand the depression. You say you miss your ex. I am sorry.  I also missed my ex for a long time after we split up. I was very depressed and could barely put one foot in front of the other some days. You will have to give into the pain  and then take baby steps forward when you feel strong. Perhaps try focusing on what disappointed you about your ex instead of what you miss. There are days you don't feel like getting dressed. Push yourself ahead on your strong days. Keep busy. Take up a hobby or read or something ... (continue reading)

I know it's hard to make the transition to being "on your own" again. Lately I have been so grateful to be able to choose when, where, how and with whom to spend my time and money, without HIM they’re to sabotage everything with his arguing, drinking and spending and DUI fiascos. Other people may have had a controlling bastard to deal with; I don't know what your situation is. When we've lost something, we tend to look back on it with "rose colored glasses." I started participating in blogs where people shared their Narc experiences just to jolt me back to reality. You are going to feel better, believe me, but it takes creating new experiences for YOURSELF, that don't involve him, or even your kids … (continue reading)