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You are wonderful and I think the world of you and your writings and your friendship. You are going to come through this stronger than ever. I am so sorry you are going through all of this at once right now. Somehow that is how it always seems to happen. It truly feels so overwhelming but hang in there; it is going to get better. You do have many blessings to be grateful for and counted. You have a partner, family, and friends who all adore you. It is truly okay to have a meltdown every once in a while. I think everyone of us if we are honest has them and that is truly okay. It might even be healthy for us in the long run. I know I had one last week. I promise you though it is going to get better. You are beautiful, intelligent and caring. You are a light to others and us. God has a plan for you. You may not know or understand it now but one day you will, without a doubt. Your dreams are going to come true. You have everything it takes right there inside of you and in your heart ... (read more)

I am working through it and feel like even though it's been such a slow process I am making progress. I think it is a very traumatic experience and for some of us it's more traumatic than to others because of our personalities. An older lady that went through it many years ago told me this is “like being stabbed in the heart with a knife that was never removed." At first it felt like the knife was being twisted and ripping your heart to pieces but as time went on the twisting stopped the knife never was removed but the pain subsides. I can attest to that. I would encourage you to find someone that has been through this to pour your heart out to that you can visit with on a regular basis. Allow yourself to grieve but keep in the back of your mind you will not allow yourself to stay in this state of mind. Sometimes a memory comes to my mind and I feel tears well up and emotions flood over me. I try to get home and cry or scream or whatever I'm feeling. But I only allow myself to do this for a period of time like 30 minutes, and then I make myself turn it off and move on. These things have helped me and I hope will help you. Please know you’re not alone and I'm praying for you ... (read more)

I have found that I have to love myself; I have to accept myself and disregard the people that like to criticize. I have had to learn to be alone at times and accept that I will be alone. I am learning how to bring people into my life and this helps me to manage the loneliness. I have no desire for a relationship with a man. I want to learn to be me, to be with my kids, and figure out our path. Friendships and women to laugh with have been amazing and give you so much hope. It changed everything. It is so hard but you have to make changes, and take control of where you are going. If it takes anti-depressants to stop crying, then start with a mild one just to get you through for a while. Do whatever it takes and never let another human being take away your future. It is so hard, crazy hard but we all have found the strength and you can too. Take care and don't give up hope ... (continue reading)

You have been abused. You are not a fool. He hid himself from you. Nice one day, very subtly manipulating the next. You are trying to make sense of something you would never do and can't understand, which is PERFECTLY NORMAL. That's why you are ruminating. I strongly, strongly suggest reading the book Runaway Husbands. You will think these women were flies on your wall. It's common for them to up and leave right after events like moving, nice vacations, while you are ill. She addresses EXACTLY what you are going through. And lastly, I will tell you what another woman told me, "You WILL survive this, I promise." Seek support from the people who know and love you best. Seek support from a therapist. Tell your MD what happened, let her see your reaction. Let her help you. Do not be afraid to be depressed to be treated for it. I have been astounded by the kindness of other women. You are NORMAL, and your thoughts are ... (continue reading)

Your pain flies off the page, and I am very sorry that you are going through this, that indeed any of us have had to go through this, when this is not what we wanted or signed up for. Unfortunately that is divorce that is why you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy. It is hard, it is scary, but you will get through it. One second, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. You matter to many people, I am sure you are the world to your children. When you get back on your feet, you can remember this low time and use your life to help support other women who are hurting. Make something good come out of the pain. Maybe that will be part of your learning and journey. Most of us were fooled; hurt, betrayed and we just keep on keeping on. I want to come out stronger, wiser and with more grace then I ever had before. You can do it; you matter, are good to yourself, be kind to yourself and learn to love yourself. You will get to a point that you can be thankful that you are not with him anymore, and you can use this time to reinvent your life … (continue reading)