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You may think the comforting words aren't enough but keep reading; it is amazing to me the similarities of our struggles and how someone's sharing is just the tiny bit of encouragement that helps for the moment. I so understand the worn down feeling. This divorce never ends and every time I think it is finished my ex's lawyer comes up with some new torture for me. Try to get as much help as you can with financial assistance - perhaps a public defender. The lawyers are not as helpful as you think they are going to be. Beware - divorce cases are when they reap the most cash and that is their goal not representing your interests. They can also back out of your case at any moment so you have to be aware of feeding their egos so they will, at least, stay working with you. You have to care because no one else will and this is going to be the fight of your life. Lick your wounds when you have to but then get ready to come back swinging. I never thought I had the strength to get through this and, many days, I still am full of despair but I have managed to keep going. This is not the future I wanted for myself but it seems to be one I will learn to live well with ... (continue reading)
Good friends are hard to come by. Set some ground rules in the beginning financial and other and explain this will be different for all of us so if at anytime things go awry let us talk as I am here for you and yours. Sometimes things said upfront open the door to distinguish potential difficult moments. Listen, you just went through hell yourself this will be a breeze because you know your going to feel good in the end and maybe things do happen for a reason and you will need her as much as she needs you. God bless you and remember the saying "God sit on my shoulders and keep you hands over my mouth when needed". This will be your go to place to vent when needed. Don't put the cart before the horse yet all may run immensely smooth. Bless you, bless you, you are true woman of character, strength and love. Good things will come your way besides the good feeling you will have inside for doing this ... (continue reading)
NO you are not alone. It is difficult, but let yourself have those down days and cry those tears. You used to be independent, but that was a long time ago. I understand the need to have someone hold you and assure you that it will all be okay. Your inner strength will return, but it will take time. The hardest part for me still is the questioning of myself. How on earth did I come to be this woman? There’s been a lot of sadness and anger and asking why. Maybe every now and then, try not thinking back on it all. Push that stuff behind you, and take it one day at a time. Think forward, hour-by-hour. I learned that from the ladies here. It still helps me ... (continue reading)
I just wanted to take a moment to thank each and every one of you here for your endless patience, compassion and support. Since this terrible saga began for me, I've received so much fantastic advice from courageous, intelligent and kind women here. This place is a shining example of how it should be done; women helping each other, not judging, just listening and lifting each other up. Dang, I'm so proud of all of us.
Breathe. Breathe. He is on a rant because he knows he's on a trip to no place good. He can't take responsibility for that, so he's blaming you. Do not engage!! Busy yourself with something you enjoy today. Again I say, DO NOT ENGAGE! Answering him today will only feed the angst you are feeling. Vent here or write your thoughts out on paper, breathe deeply as you go, and then move on. This too shall pass. Your subconscious mind will find relief from your feelings being expressed through writing. Another way to vent in a healthy way without engaging him is to picture him sitting there in front of you. Say to the invisible him exactly what you are thinking. Once done, remove the invisible him from your home. Breathe. Do this as often as needed. Your strength will come by not engaging him in his rants. All he will hear is his own silly words reverberating ... (continue reading)