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Dear Pam,I got divorced eight years ago. I’m 42 and I had my two kids early, so they are already grown and out of the house. In fact, I just became a grandmother. My ex and I were high school sweethearts. I got pregnant at 18 and we got married, even though we probably knew it was a mistake. We just grew apart really, and we have civil relationship, although I wouldn’t call us best friends. Since that time, I’ve been concentrating on my career, which I put on hold while I was raising my kids. 
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Friday, 16 August 2013 21:24
Dear Pam,Help!  My ex is marrying my sister. I know! They both told me that they weren’t involved while we were together, but I don’t believe them. I was never that close to Lisa, but she did stay at our house once for a month when her place was being renovated.  Now, I wonder. Even if they didn’t do anything during that time, they must have been thinking about it. They want my blessing. Who the hell knows why? Lisa says that since I am seeing someone (I am, I have started dating a wonderful man, and I’m not introducing him to my sister.) I shouldn’t care who Tom sees. I know it’s technically not incest, but it just feels wrong. Family functions are going to be horror shows for me. I really don’t want to have anything to do with my ex and we have no kids tying us together, I just married him for all the wrong reasons. Actually, he is probably a better match for my sister. They are both very anal and conservative and I am much more liberal. Both are in finance and I am a jeweler. Tom actually had the nerve to ask if I would give him a discount on an engagement ring for my sister, that’s the kind of craziness I have to put up with. They have invited me to the wedding. I don’t have any strong feelings for Tom one way or the other, so it isn’t like I will be emotionally devastated, it’s just kind of embarrassing. Should I swallow my pride and go to the wedding to keep the peace, or should I pretend that these two don’t exist?Keeping it all in the family
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Friday, 09 August 2013 15:32