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Julie Savard

Julie Savard

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Why Can't It Be Like This All The Time?

Friday, 23 December 2011 08:00
Ex Number Two had been causing me some definite grief. But like the sun rises in the east, he makes a sudden mental shift and it's all coming up roses again.I knew it would; he cycles through his pattern faster than my washing machine cycles through …

Pondering Leaving, Always Staying

Wednesday, 26 March 2008 19:00
I stop in often to read the comments and messages that readers leave on both my posts and other posts my companions at FWW make. It helps to know I have some support and some well-wishers out there.Sometimes, I have to give a bit of a sad smile at…

Living In the Moment

Thursday, 06 October 2011 11:23
My ex and I shared a bittersweet moment recently. He's coming around off his mini mid-life crisis, and we've talked about what our relationship is. A committed couple, yes, but with a strange sense of detachment just underneath the&

I'm Just Hanging On Here

Tuesday, 16 August 2011 08:43
I admit it. Some days, my life is a complete mess — and I mean literally.My house is littered with toys. My home-cooked meals are usually warmed-up leftovers. My laundry baskets overflow. The cats are shedding like mad, and the floors need…

Light At the End of the Tunnel

Tuesday, 04 October 2011 09:43
Lately, I'd lost my feeling of being settled and getting into the groove. I felt disjointed, tired, and fed up over my situation.My mortgage application is still pending approval, and I'm tired and stressed over it. So close, and so far... yet I…

You May Be Lonely, But You're Not Alone

Thursday, 03 April 2008 16:00
"Why don't you love me the way I love you? Why don't you feel things as deep as I do?" —Amanda MarshallI once went to an Amanda Marshall concert, my first concert in 10 years. My ex and I were on the rocks at the time, and we were trying to…

Nothing Damaging Here

Friday, 11 April 2008 18:00
My toddler and I met an acquaintance not long ago, and conversation included the separation from my ex. "Oh... That must be so hard for the kids," she shared quietly, looking sympathetic.I have to take issues with the preconceived notion that…
A friend and I once discussed how many women seem to slide on over to same-sex relationships after a divorce. I think it's true; a divorce can make you question a lot of things about yourself — why not your sexuality?I also know that women in…

The Divorcee Myth

Friday, 18 January 2013 08:43
One of the biggest myths of all is that divorcees and single mothers are seen as heroes. They've survived trials and tribulations, they took a stand, and they're making it on their own.Heroes? In my book, yes. In the public eye? Oh, no, not at all,…
This is the question I face. My second ex, the one I'm trying to continue to have a relationship with despite not living in the same household, announced bad news recently. His doctor told him that he's teetering on the brink of cirrhosis of the…

Playing Super (Single) Mom

Monday, 19 September 2011 09:56
Finally. After years of prevention and being careful, after all this time managing to squeak through unscathed, it's happened: lice.My toddler's daycare reported an outbreak and sure enough, the little buggers were taking up residence in my little…

The Two Sides To My Ex

Sunday, 27 April 2008 13:00
They say the mirror has two faces, and I think that's true. I don't think that one is simply a reflection of the other, though.My second ex always had two faces: one that he'd present to everyone else in the world and one that he'd show to me.&

The Law and Love Don't Mix

Thursday, 25 August 2011 09:10
I have trouble understanding how the law and relationships mix. In Quebec (my home province), couples form and dissolve, most often without a marriage to seal the deal. Common-law relationships are the way to go in La Belle Province.I asked a friend …

One Relationship, Two Roofs

Saturday, 03 May 2008 11:00
"Rake over there!" My ex pointed to a patch about 100 feet from where I'd decided to amuse myself with old leaves. I bristled almost immediately."I'll rake where I please," I answered, lifting my chin a little.It's a&

Affairs: One Heated Topic

Wednesday, 30 March 2011 08:19
I don't think having an affair is a "right" thing to do. I think it is a surmountable obstacle and one that couples can overcome. I don't believe that an affair is a henchman's axe dropping down to sever relationships completely. An affair doesn't…
My ex and I went to see a show together recently. We do that. We date, we see each other, and then we each go to our respective homes. We had a great time, too.While we were at the show, we met a friend of ours — and he had a new girlfriend…

I Always Wanted A Ring

Friday, 01 April 2011 13:30
I always wanted a ring. It didn't have to be fancy. It didn't have to have diamonds or cost a fortune. I just wanted the symbolic gift of something I could hold in my hand.I did get a ring, once. My first ex proposed with a ring he'd bought on my…

Who Gets the House? The Kids

Monday, 26 May 2008 16:00
Living apart together... Living together apart.... There are all kinds of ways to make relationships work, whether they're relationships that involve love and affection or relationships built to sustain two people at lower costs than separate…

I Want a Fairytale

Friday, 30 May 2008 13:25
I love fairytales. I want a fairytale. I want Prince Charming to find me, romance me with all he's got and propose — and trust me, I won't refuse. (Especially if he looks like a younger Brad Pitt or a gorgeous George Clooney.)I believe that…
Your gut instinct is there for a reason. It's a hardwired sixth sense in your brain that tells you exactly when something isn't right. It's survival in its most primitive form.  And boy, have we ever evolved. We've learned to ignore that gut…
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