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Julie Savard

Julie Savard

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No Sex Please... We're Separated

Friday, 08 February 2008 09:00
When you have kids, your ex will be in your life forever. Because you have kids, it's your responsibility to have a good relationship, but good relationships can have their drawbacks.My first ex made a reappearance in my life — and his…

"Divorce" When You Weren't Even Married

Tuesday, 26 July 2011 07:58
Where I live, "divorce" is high. My daughter knows one friend in her whole grade level of about 450 students whose parents aren't separated. I'm from Quebec, a predominantly French province located in Canada, where common-law partnerships are the…
Have you ever felt caught in whirlwind with no anchor in sight?That's how I felt when I left my first partner. We had a child, a beautiful three-year-old girl full of charm and spirit. When the family separated, we fought long and hard over where…

Learning To Listen To Myself

Thursday, 17 March 2011 09:54
If you tell someone something long enough, they start to believe it.I've read that often in psychology textbooks, and I've found it to be very true. We live each day with the messages that were driven home over years by family, friends, and people…

Making It Easier For The Kids

Friday, 21 October 2011 09:27
Living through a separation isn't just difficult on adults, it's real tough on kids, too — especially during holiday seasons and special occasions. Putting the needs and feelings of your children first — way before your own — is…

It's Hard To Walk Away From Emotional Abuse

Wednesday, 02 March 2011 07:22
My partner was a very volatile man — in Quebec, we call that passion — who loved his beer a little too much, liked to control everything, was stubborn as hell and also had a raging streak of jealousy. For 10 years, he wore me down with
If your relationship is bad, and you feel it deep inside you, and you're sad about what could've been, and what isn't, and your partner probably knows the couple is on the rocks, too. What do you do? It's at this troubled time that you&

How To Break The Divorce News To Your Kids

Wednesday, 25 January 2012 08:06
I've been reading the articles lately that say the beginning of the year is the most common time to file for divorce. That means that more than a few couples are sitting their kids down right about now, telling them&

It Takes Two To Tango

Friday, 29 July 2011 08:33
Divorce is often a bitter, resentment-filled state of affairs. The ending of any relationship is, whether it be a friendship, a working relationship or a falling out between family members. But it doesn't have to be that way.It takes two to tango,…

The Mature Move-Out

Wednesday, 06 July 2011 10:05
You've decided to end an unhappy relationship. Good for you! That's a great first step towards a more healthy life.Now what?Many women who decide to leave their husbands or partners bite off more than they can chew. They put their foot&

Does Breaking Vows Mean Breaking Promises?

Friday, 14 October 2011 10:02
Marriage is a promise and a commitment you make to each other. When a marriage doesn't work out, though — I refuse to say "when a marriage fails" — what then? Have you broken a promise? Have you not upheld your end of the bargain? Is your…

In The Kitchen With My Two Exes

Wednesday, 09 January 2008 16:00
When you're in the same room with both your exes and they're happily chatting together over coffee, it's a surreal situation. I guess my life is like that. Crazy, unpredictable, a little off the beaten path, but it's all good — even though…
There are a lot of people in therapy out there. Many couples in trouble turn to psychologist, therapists, marriage counselors and social workers to give them a&

The Upside Of Starting Over

Wednesday, 13 July 2011 09:05
After I moved out of a very abusive relationship, I realized I didn't know who I was. I stood in a shitbox apartment with thin walls and small rooms, and I thought of everything I used to be and what I was now.I was nothing. I was hollow. I was worn&

Happiness Does Not Equal Handsome

Wednesday, 03 August 2011 08:48
I don't want to date.Don't get me wrong — if Brad Pitt knocked on my door with an invitation to a restaurant, I sure wouldn't say no. I wouldn't say no to that handsome young blond that I've crossed paths with in town a few times, either. But…

Words Are Worse Than Fists

Wednesday, 23 March 2011 08:46
Words hurt worse than bruises, I think. You can bang your shin against a table, and it hurts for a minute, but the pain is sharp and short-lived, and the bruise fades quickly.
Since when does loving someone mean living together with him 24/7? Since when do deep feelings and emotions between two people mean that you're built to cohabitate and function well under the same roof?Since never, if you ask me.There's a &

Staying Because Of The Kids? Really?

Thursday, 29 September 2011 09:50
"I'm staying because of the kids."I overheard a conversation today where a woman handed that excuse to her friend. The rest of the conversation involved a lot of murmurs, &

Getting Shut Out After Divorce Hurts

Saturday, 12 March 2011 08:11
It was enough that my last relationship had me shut out so tight from my partner's world that it felt like steel walls were between us. When I left, I breathed a sigh of relief: I had open spaces again, not limiting walls.I knew people would pick…

We’re Both Missing Him

Saturday, 26 March 2011 09:35
I had a terrible relationship with my ex. It was an abusive and emotional roller coaster ride that had me on medication more often than it didn't. I cried a river over 10 years and lost my will to live.Driving home the other day, my toddler sighed…
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