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Megan Thomas

The soundtrack of my life is, "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" by The Clash. I don't even like The Clash.

I've been married for a little under 10 years. My husband and I met when we were both serving in the military, and after a long friendship we became inseparable. Our real marriage troubles began a couple of years ago, and right now I'm in the miserable stage of "Contemplating Divorce."

My husband doesn't want to separate. I'm having issues with breaking up our family. Basically, I'm a mess. If it wasn't my mess, I'd think it was actually pretty funny.

I'm in my mid-thirties and I have two kids who I love more than I ever thought possible. My kids are pretty young: one still in diapers and the other on the verge of starting preschool. I stay home with them during the day and manage to get my writing done when I can, but I'm really happy that I'm able to be their primary caregiver. My kids rock.

I do find plenty of things to keep me occupied. I do plenty of volunteer work and I'm very active in my church. My kids — and the mass quantities of coffee I consume — are what keep me going throughout the day. I know that someday soon I'll be forced to finally take some definitive action because I certainly can't keep going on like this with my marriage in limbo. No amount of coffee can make me forget that things just aren't right, but it certainly helps to add a ton of mocha and whipped cream.

Megan Thomas

Most Recent Articles

Dreading The Romantic Weekend

Sunday, 27 April 2008 11:00
My husband wants to go to a marriage retreat. It's for a full weekend, so we would have to leave the kids with someone else and then make the drive five hours to the retreat location. I don't like the idea of leaving my kids with someone else — …

He's Different, But I Feel the Same

Tuesday, 29 April 2008 15:55
If you would have taken a glimpse into my relationship with my husband a year ago and then had a look at it recently, you would probably notice something right away. A year ago my husband was a different guy. He didn't seem to care less if I was…

Tired of Looking for Affirmation

Wednesday, 30 April 2008 19:00
There are a lot of men in my life who are telling me what to do.I didn't realize it until recently. I was driving home from a session with my therapist and I started to wonder why I sought his approval so much. I mean, it's great that he's there for …

Evening Dread

Saturday, 03 May 2008 13:00
Let me tell you what it's like to lay down for bed every night next to a man who you aren't sure you're supposed to still be with, although I'm sure there are plenty of you who already know what this experience is like.I usually go to bed an hour or …

I Am Not Without Blame

Tuesday, 06 May 2008 13:17
A comment from previous post got me thinking about something that I need to clarify: If I ever gave the impression that I am without blame in the problems within my marriage, it was not intentional. If&

The Moment I Knew It Was Over

Sunday, 11 May 2008 13:00
I remember the exact moment I realized that things might not work out with my husband.We had been married a couple of years. His job had moved us away from our family and friends, but we were back in town for his friend's wedding. The trip…

Too Busy to Think About Our Issues

Monday, 12 May 2008 08:00
I'm scaling way back on my obligations right now.I think I loaded up my schedule with so many different things in an attempt to avoid facing the problems in my marriage head-on.I'm not only working a lot, but I'm volunteering a bunch even beyond…

Then It Hit Me: I Need Out

Wednesday, 14 May 2008 09:21
I'm beginning to realize that this state of limbo just isn't going to work.A while back I decided to just disregard the feelings I had about leaving, and to push it all aside and just go on like everything is fine. You know what? Everything isn't…

Not Enough of Me To Go Around

Friday, 16 May 2008 16:00
The other day was a doozy. The kids were both stir-crazy because of the rain, and when they get stir-crazy they get awfully clingy and needy. I had three deadlines looming and I had to go to a meeting. The house was a mess and I couldn't figure out…

The Awkward "Stepdad" Conversation

Sunday, 18 May 2008 15:00
The other day my 4-year-old daughter asked my husband and me, "What's a stepdad?" My guess is that she heard the phrase at preschool or at the kids club at the gym, and it must have been a curious term because it was one that she had never heard…
Apparently I attract a lot of men.I don't mean in everyday life, although I might make the claim that I clean up pretty nicely for the most part. What I mean is that I've noticed that men seem to like to read my blog and then freak out about the…

Coming Clean with My Friends

Friday, 23 May 2008 16:00
I did something last night that I never thought I would do: I "came out" to my friends about the problems my husband and I have been dealing with.I was out to dinner with four other ladies and the subject of my husband's potential business trip came …

Fate Might Separate Us

Wednesday, 28 May 2008 16:00
My husband is thinking about taking a job overseas for a year. His boss wants to send him to a place that would not be feasible for the family to follow and besides that, anyone who has been paying attention to the news lately knows that it's really …

I Need Therapy To Get Through Therapy

Friday, 30 May 2008 15:56
I owe some of you a big thank you. Sometimes when I post things here I do it because I'm not quite sure what to make of a situation, but sometimes I post things just because I think the situation is interesting.Once in a while there is a comment or…

Teaching The Kids How Not To Act

Saturday, 31 May 2008 11:00
I'm afraid I'm teaching my kids some bad things. I'm afraid if my husband and I stay together and keep living the way we're living they will think it's OK to be in a lukewarm relationship. I'm afraid my daughter is going to think&

The Good Husband Myth, Shattered

Monday, 02 June 2008 15:43
A few months before I got married, my brother came to visit. We thought it would be fun to have a night out on the town.Sidenote: My brother is two years older than me and we have always been close...he's my hero, and I always thought of him as an…
A few months before I got married, my brother came to visit. We thought it would be fun to have a night out on the town.Sidenote: My brother is two years older than me and we have always been close...he's my hero, and I always thought of him as an…

Why Therapy Won't "Fix" Me (or Our Marriage)

Thursday, 07 August 2008 16:00
My husband and I haven't been to marriage counseling for quite some time. I think it has been around six or eight months.It's not from lack of trying on my part, but my husband's work schedule changed at the same time as our therapist's office hours …
Let me tell you about how we got our cat. She's a really pretty long haired cat that we obtained from the local animal shelter a few months ago after relentless requests from our older daughter for a family pet.With everything so up in the air…
The other day I was having a conversation with a friend of mine from church. She asked me how my husband and I had met and I laughed while I told her the usual thing I tell people: "We met in the dormitory and he couldn't stand me."Everyone gets a…
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