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Megan Thomas

The soundtrack of my life is, "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" by The Clash. I don't even like The Clash.

I've been married for a little under 10 years. My husband and I met when we were both serving in the military, and after a long friendship we became inseparable. Our real marriage troubles began a couple of years ago, and right now I'm in the miserable stage of "Contemplating Divorce."

My husband doesn't want to separate. I'm having issues with breaking up our family. Basically, I'm a mess. If it wasn't my mess, I'd think it was actually pretty funny.

I'm in my mid-thirties and I have two kids who I love more than I ever thought possible. My kids are pretty young: one still in diapers and the other on the verge of starting preschool. I stay home with them during the day and manage to get my writing done when I can, but I'm really happy that I'm able to be their primary caregiver. My kids rock.

I do find plenty of things to keep me occupied. I do plenty of volunteer work and I'm very active in my church. My kids — and the mass quantities of coffee I consume — are what keep me going throughout the day. I know that someday soon I'll be forced to finally take some definitive action because I certainly can't keep going on like this with my marriage in limbo. No amount of coffee can make me forget that things just aren't right, but it certainly helps to add a ton of mocha and whipped cream.

Megan Thomas

Most Recent Articles

At church on Sunday our pastor announced the newest members of the Board of Directors. This group of folks must be leaders in the church and also have high moral standards. They're nominated by the church and then decided upon by the current Board…

The Game That's Killing My Marriage

Saturday, 26 January 2008 10:00
Up until now I have been pretty vague in my writing about why my husband and I went through a nearly two-year period of him treating me badly. It's embarrassing to write about this, and I'm afraid that some of you won't understand where I'm coming…

Who Carries The Heavy Load?

Sunday, 13 January 2008 10:00
I have a bad back. It's just something that developed after I went through labor with my son, but I guess if that's the worst thing to come from delivering a 10-pound baby then I'm still pretty lucky. My back problems come and go, but for the most…

A Peek At What My Life Would Be

Monday, 14 January 2008 14:00
My brother recently admitted to his wife of 10 years that he was having affairs — several affairs, as a matter of fact. When she heard the news she promptly called every single person in the family and announced what he had been doing. My…

Staying Together For The Kids?

Tuesday, 15 January 2008 14:00
My husband and I don't fight in front of the kids very often at all, and it's not really because we make a conscious effort not to, but rather it's because we don't fight that much to begin with. Our fights usually follow the same pattern — I say…

Taking Baby Steps Toward Separation

Thursday, 24 January 2008 14:00
I'm taking baby steps towards a separation. I've done a few things in order to ready myself in case I actually make the final decision to leave, but every little step brings me closer to leaving. I feel empowered yet terrified at the same time. So…

He Quit, But Not For Me

Monday, 28 January 2008 11:00
So now I've admitted to you my husband's deep, dark secret: he spent about a year and a half completely addicted to a video game. It's really weird when something like this happens because it isn't an addiction that has a&

Looking For One Good Friend

Tuesday, 29 January 2008 14:00
I wish I had a friend who I could share everything with. We live in this town because of my husband's job, and since we move frequently, it's sometimes difficult to make close friends. Sure, I have plenty of people who I consider friends, but no one …

What Happened To Prince Charming?

Thursday, 31 January 2008 12:00
My parents have been married for about a billion years, or so it seems. They met when my mom was 17 and my dad was 18, they married a few months later, and have been inseparable ever since. They're really crazy about each other — nothing…

Super Husband Is Starting To Fade

Saturday, 02 February 2008 14:00
My husband changed a lot when I started bringing up separation. He acknowledged the problems he had caused (which I applaud heartily because that has never been easy for him), he apologized for everything (again, not easy for him), and he made a…

Does Passion Have To Fade?

Tuesday, 19 July 2011 08:48
I've heard that romantic love fades over the years and is replaced by more of a mutual companionship. Apparently it's somewhat normal to stop being passionate about your spouse, but it's OK as long as the two of you want to still hang out together…

Sexual Psych-Out

Sunday, 10 February 2008 10:00
I've already revealed that I don't have the strongest libido right now, and we've already ruled out any medical issues as the root cause. Since this is obviously a problem that is based in my head and my feelings, I once tried to just toss my…

Valentine's Day Pizza

Wednesday, 13 February 2008 14:00
The best Valentine's Day date I ever had wasn't with my husband. It was with a man I dated briefly before I met my husband. We were way too cool to be bothered with the whole Valentine's Day nonsense, so we purposely didn't plan to do anything…

Chatting With An Old Flame

Friday, 15 February 2008 17:00
I had the most unlikely confidante for a while. Frank was a man who I was once engaged to in my early 20s, but we had a huge falling-out and I hadn't spoken to him since the night we broke up many years ago. He found me online and we started having…

Readers: Use Me As Your Metaphorical Punching Bag

Wednesday, 20 February 2008 11:00
I love reading comments to my blog, but once in a while, they are so mean that I feel as though I have been slapped in the face. If you don't know what I'm talking about, check out where a reader said I was a great example to men all over the world…

Heavily Medicated Sex Isn't Hot

Friday, 22 February 2008 14:00
Once in a blue moon I take medication for spasms in my back. I don't like taking it — the pills make me sleepy and sluggish, but it certainly does get rid of the pain. I just become a zombie until it wears off.So when I decided to take a muscle …

Couples Therapy, Party of One

Tuesday, 26 February 2008 17:00
This was supposed to be the post where I reveal to everyone how my marital counseling appointment went. Those of you who have been reading my blog might remember that I've been in individual counseling with my therapist until Mr. Freud (not his real …

I Refuse To Blame the Kids

Friday, 29 February 2008 13:28
I had an interesting conversation with my therapist a while back. He said that the situation I'm in right now — unhappy in my marriage and thinking about leaving — is something that I need to try to sit on for a while because the other…

A Picture Says a Thousand Words

Tuesday, 04 March 2008 09:01
During the last holiday season my husband and I took our kids in for a photo session. We wanted to send out some cute pictures to the relatives we have scattered all over the place, so we dressed up the kids and off we went to the photographer.My…

Some Very Expensive "Silent Treatment"

Friday, 07 March 2008 10:00
I finally managed to get my husband into a marital therapy session. Some of you may remember that we had an appointment a little while ago but he flaked out on it by staying home with a cold.I sat him down soon after that and explained to him that I …
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