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Megan Thomas

The soundtrack of my life is, "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" by The Clash. I don't even like The Clash.

I've been married for a little under 10 years. My husband and I met when we were both serving in the military, and after a long friendship we became inseparable. Our real marriage troubles began a couple of years ago, and right now I'm in the miserable stage of "Contemplating Divorce."

My husband doesn't want to separate. I'm having issues with breaking up our family. Basically, I'm a mess. If it wasn't my mess, I'd think it was actually pretty funny.

I'm in my mid-thirties and I have two kids who I love more than I ever thought possible. My kids are pretty young: one still in diapers and the other on the verge of starting preschool. I stay home with them during the day and manage to get my writing done when I can, but I'm really happy that I'm able to be their primary caregiver. My kids rock.

I do find plenty of things to keep me occupied. I do plenty of volunteer work and I'm very active in my church. My kids — and the mass quantities of coffee I consume — are what keep me going throughout the day. I know that someday soon I'll be forced to finally take some definitive action because I certainly can't keep going on like this with my marriage in limbo. No amount of coffee can make me forget that things just aren't right, but it certainly helps to add a ton of mocha and whipped cream.

Megan Thomas

Most Recent Articles

Divorce: The Beginning, or the End?

Monday, 18 August 2008 22:12
What would happen if I just made up my mind to leave? How would life change for me and for my family? Would I find the inner peace that I lack right now? Would everything magically get better?

Preparing to Finance the Divorce

Thursday, 21 August 2008 16:00
How much does a divorce cost? I don't mean the mental costs or even the cost of finding another place to live and all that jazz.What I'm talking about is the actual cost of going to a lawyer, retaining his or her services, and&
I'm walking through the store, barely noticing the music they're pumping into the sound system, when all of a sudden I realize that I'm singing along with the tune that's playing: "Going to the Chapel." I used to love that song. When I was about 10…
I took introduction to psychology in college so I have a general idea of what the term "passive aggressive" means. It wasn't until recently, however, that I really got to witness it in person.Apparently my husband has decided that this is his newest …

A Husband Returns from Iraq: Who Is This Man?

Monday, 01 September 2008 15:50
My husband served in Iraq for a few months back when our first child was a young baby. I was really proud of him for what he was doing even though I was scared out of my mind for the dangerous situation he was getting into and also because I was…

It's Hard to Find a Good...Therapist

Thursday, 04 September 2008 16:00
I haven't been to a therapist in a while. I stopped seeing the last guy I was going to because he got a little too fascinated with me and gave me the heebie-jeebies. So I rid myself of the one person in my life whom I freely chatted with on a…
There's something about contemplating divorce that a lot of folks don't realize.The fact is that — at least in my particular situation — my husband and I aren't at each other's throats and hurling insults at each other. One of us…
My husband and I try to trade off parenting duties on weekend mornings to sleep in, since neither one of us gets to sleep past 6:00 or so during the week.I'll take one day and he'll take the other, so one of us will&
There is a new trend arising in my house. Every few nights before falling asleep, my husband will roll over and sigh, and then look at me with the whole, "We gotta talk" facial expression.He'll then start telling me that&
If I could go back in time and tell myself to not get married in the first place, would I? Heck no. My kids are amazing and even if this marriage ends in a gigantic mess of hurt feelings and resentment at least I know that I'm halfway responsible…

Why Am I Perpetually on the Verge of Tears?

Thursday, 25 September 2008 13:00
I went to an art gallery last night with some friends and was having a nice time looking around at all the paintings and sculptures. All the art was by local artists so there was nothing there that I can reference that you might recognize, but…

Awkward Moments in a Sex-Starved Marriage

Monday, 29 September 2008 13:45
Want to hear the definition of uncomfortable? Try going to a movie with your husband that's chock full of sex even though you and your husband's level of intimacy is strained at best.True story.Last night my husband and I went to see Choke. If …

Reclaiming the Old Me: Is It Possible?

Thursday, 02 October 2008 16:00
I have one black hair that grows on my neck. Whenever I notice it coming in I pluck it using tweezers, but it always comes back. It annoys me to no end. I would go get electrolysis if it wasn't just one stinking hair.Sometimes I forget to check for…

Why Do We Pretend Everything Is Perfect?

Monday, 06 October 2008 16:04
I had a very eye-opening conversation with my neighbor. She and I like to take our kids for walks after dinner, and the other day we were walking along and I noticed something: she kept making little comments about her husband like I used to make…

I'm Ready to Try Couples Therapy Again. Is He?

Thursday, 09 October 2008 16:00
My husband and I are supposed to start marital counseling again this month. You may remember that the last time we went to counseling it didn't turn out so well...our pastor had to refer us to a professional because we were just too wacky, and then…
I'm a Democrat and my husband is a Republican. It's never been that big of a deal because we're both pretty moderate in our beliefs and we aren't really the kind of people to sit around debating for hours about the issues, so it was more of a cute…
My state has been making the news lately because of a&
I've changed a lot in the past few years. When my husband stopped paying attention to me I started writing professionally and the next thing I knew I was busy with a freelance writing career that became surprisingly profitable. At first I was making …
Do you ever find yourself staring at your wedding ring? I remember when my husband first proposed I worked in a store that had great lighting so I would sit and stare at my engagement ring whenever I had the chance. It was so beautiful and sparkly…
My husband walks across the kitchen floor. I hear a crunching noise and look down, and he has tracked in big clumps of dried dirt on the bottom of his shoes. I say, "Hey, hang on, you're dragging dirt in here." He looks down and says, "Oh, sorry…
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