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Elaina Goodman

Elaina Goodman

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A dear friend who was feeling totally lost from herself right now emailed me. As I replied to her, it felt more like a letter to everyone who's ever lost themselves. Especially in a relationship.So for all of you, for all of us, here's what I…

The Time It Takes

Thursday, 12 May 2011 07:46
Here in contemplation-land we all have are own particular issues and situations. No two marriages, like no two lives, like no two fingerprints, are exactly the same.Yet, the universal truth here seems to be impatience with our own indecision.…

What Scares Me

Monday, 18 April 2011 08:18
The things that scare me right now:I'm afraid of moving on.I'm afraid of not moving on.I'm afraid of not seeing my kids every day.I'm afraid of seeing my kids every day.I&
The soundtrack of my childhood is straight from Broadway. When I was I kid there was always a musical coming out the speakers on long car trips and one of my favorites to this day is Fiddler on the Roof.Fiddler is the first Broadway production I…
Blue skies out there, and the birds and the neighbors across the street stacking stones into a garden wall along the yard. If I didn’t know my neighbors like I do, I'd mistake their chatter sounds outside for a happy family. They sure look…
It ain’t no secret when I left my marriage a few years back, it was all me going and all Sam not letting go. For weeks at the end of it he wrote me a haiku every morning and stuck it to the bathroom mirror on post-it notes. One by one they…
We were back in the therapist’s office the other night, Sam and I. Same seats on the couch, same therapist sitting across from us on the same floral rug. Same issues we’ve been scrutinizing for years holding the space between us.My…
When I can’t go any further, I go back. I go back to decades and centuries to the poets, Rilke and Rumi, and the ancient truths of being. I go back to the original self help gurus. In their poems, hearts broken open, I breathe deep and slow and …

Finding the Courage To Try Again

Friday, 13 March 2009 07:39
When I read these blog posts and when I listen to my friends and when I hear stories about, well, anyone, wrestling with the divorce question, 9 times out of 10 my answer is "end it." Mostly I keep that to myself.If I’m jaded, I’m jaded. I …

Single and Sick: Not a Great Combination

Friday, 06 March 2009 08:01
The only thing in my head this week is a thick lingering pain from the face-splitting headache I had four days into the flu. That was Tuesday. Now it’s just dull pressure behind my eyeballs when I move them too quickly in any direction.I was…
When I separated from my husband, Sam, a few years ago, we'd been in counseling for several months and were going nowhere. At the final session when I announced I was leaving – at least temporarily – our therapist threw this statistic: 80…
Have I mentioned how much I love hindsight? The way it always validates my mantra: Everything is exactly as it should be.The fall I quit my marriage and moved into a one bedroom apartment with two kids under five, my three tightest friendships came…
I received a comment last week from a reader who thinks I should talk about problems in my marriage with my husband, instead of blabbing them all over the blog right out here in the open for god and everyone to read. Also, s/he said if s/he was my…
The only stranger I've ever had sex with is my husband. One day after I met him. And sometimes, 16 years down the road he's still the stranger in my bed.If it was up to Sam we would make love – he'd say make love, I'd say fuck – every…
I finally got around to moving the last three boxes from my bedroom to the basement this week. Woohoo. Done unpacking in just 4.5 months. Could be my new record.They were all full of books from Sam's old living room, things he took for his apartment&

What Hope Feels Like

Friday, 23 January 2009 02:25
I realized it on Tuesday, the way I knew it in November on election day, the way I found it after leaving my marriage two and a half years ago. Hope.There's a way hope can feel so profound in the moment that everything shifts; it takes you by…

Why Your Family Is Destined To Fail

Monday, 26 January 2009 09:48
If you didn't read Wanda's post about truancy, (un)excused absences, and taking care of oneself, go back there right now read it. Then re-read it and then learn from her.And let me be the first to say Amen,&

Reoccurring Dreams Are Keeping Me Up

Sunday, 04 May 2008 13:00
 I've been tracking my bridge dreams. Anytime my life is in chaos my night world is filled with bridges.

The View From Here

Wednesday, 07 May 2008 13:04
 Where I live, out in Oregon, it's about an hour to the ocean and not much more to get 7,000 feet up Mt. Hood. It's one of the reasons I always say I'm here, but I don't go either of those places very often.&

Looking for Answers

Friday, 09 May 2008 16:00
 In the corner of my living room, two feet from where I sleep, is the closest thing I have to an alter. My sacred space.span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: Arial;&
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