Shortly after my divorce I had to take care of something around the house that I had never done before. A wise friend suggested I recognize all of these new "firsts" in my life. I thought it a good way to look at all I now had to do alone/on my own as a positive; a what-I-can-now-do or what-I-have-learned-to-do list.
As I come up on the two-year anniversary of my freedom, here is a look at some more of the things I have accomplished on my own or had the opportunity to do for the first time.
- Changed the light board in my refrigerator light fixture - it take a couple "how to" you tube videos, but I got it done.
- Saw to the hiring and execution of new landscaping.
- Saw to the hiring and execution of a remodeled kitchen.
- Visited my sister and her family over Holiday break.
- Planted a vegetable and herb garden - a little concerned about this one; did it recently and I'm hoping something survives.
- Bought a steam cleaner and cleaned my carpets.
- Went on a road trip with my BFF, which I made the arrangements for.
- Did my own taxes.
- Purchased my own home.
- Registered a car in my name.
- Joined a meetup group (or two).
- Planted geraniums.
- Weeded my gardens by pulling out the weeds.
- Replaced the old molded caulk around my bathtub with new shiny white.
- Increased my retirement savings without approval from anyone else first.
- Started an annual tradition of a wine, cheese and chocolate party for my fellow colleagues/teachers before we begin giving and grading final exams - it has been a year and several had asked if I'm doing it again - huh, in spite of what he told me I do have social skills, people do like me & they do like being around me and talking to me.
- Did some volunteer work with my children - picked citrus for local food banks and packaged meals to feed the hungry (I was told if I was going to work, it should be to earn an income).
- Planned and enjoyed a summer vacation with my children.
- Watched my parents' dog at my house OVERNIGHT!
- I went zip lining with my children - broke my leg, but it healed!
So twenty is a good round number. I'll stop here. It feels good, even empowering at times to be able to do the little things I wasn't permitted to do before and to do the brand new things I've never done. Some may seem minor and small to others, but it's the freedom to do as I choose that makes it so great! So I leave you with one question; what have you done for the first time that makes you feel good about yourself?