Growing up, I had a somewhat rough childhood. Despite this, I've grown into a very capable, intelligent, and strong individual.
Right now, going through the process of divorce, I have days where I see very little strength in my own peripheral vision. There is a very bleak light at the end of the tunnel for me in this stage in my life — and this can be somewhat daunting.
So many friends have told me that they would have broken down, or that they are amazed at the strength that I've shown during this difficult time. The irony of the situation is that I don't feel very strong and can't envision the aura of strength around myself that is apparently depicted to some of my friends.
I decided to do something about this problem of mine and I sent out a mass email to my friends and family asking them for examples of how I was strong. I was overwhelmed with responses, and one of them stood out because there was some homework involved.
The reply was to take a sheet of paper and on one side of the list, put all of the pluses in your life, and on the other side, to put all of the minuses. On paper, the minuses don't look so huge, and the plus side is far greater than the side with the minuses on it.
This perspective really made me think about how I could turn my bad situation into one with a little more peace. Not only did I grasp the love and hope my friends gave to me in their replies, but I am able to look at my plus and minus page anytime, and make changes accordingly.