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"Babes In Search Of A New Mate Know It Gets Harder And Harder As Time Goes By To Find The Right Chemistry." (GIANT UNDERSTATEMENT)

Of course, you're still fabulous, but it's more likely than not you have no idea where to actually meet a new potential mate, and therefore feel you are wasting valuable romantic time (not to mention body cream) alone in your house. Why? Because if there's no chemistry, you'd rather not bother, right?

OK, SO... below is some information that may just increase your chances of finding chemistry quicker.

Online Dating Sites Are A Very Realistic Option (More amusing than TV with a possible pay-off). It's a percentage game of course, but since the word is spreading from couples who have met that way, more and more quality men and women are showing up.

Go 'dabble' for FREE in between the ads at If nothing else...Take the The Plentyoffish Relationship Chemistry Test (POFCT). What is most important is how your personality interacts with the personality of your romantic partner on each dimension, or what is commonly called “chemistry.”

Based on decades of empirical research in psychology, the POFCT captures the five key ingredients that can determine whether or not two people have the “right” chemistry.

The 5 key dimensions of the POFCT are:

  • Self-Confidence, or the degree to which a person feels comfortable with him or herself. People that are high in self-confidence tend to be assertive and competent in both their private and public relationships. People that are low in self-confidence tend to be reticent and somewhat anxious.
  • Family Orientation, or the degree to which a person supports and values the family. People that are family oriented tend to want or already have children, are very close to their immediate relatives, and prefer cooking at home to eating at a restaurant. People that are not family oriented tend to be individualistic, unconventional, and very much enjoy attending parties and social functions.
  • Self-Control, or the extent to which a person exerts control over various aspects of life. People that are high in self-control tend have strong emotional reactions to things and try to regulate those feelings by micromanaging and attending to specific details. People that are low in self-control are usually relaxed, even-tempered, and lenient.
  • Openness, or the extent to which a person is open to and dependent upon others. People that are high in openness tend to like a wide range of things (e.g., food, music, movies, etc.), in part because they are concerned with pleasing other people. In contrast, people low in openness are very independent and opinionated; they know what they like and aren’t apt to change their opinion.
  • Easygoingness, or a person’s work ethic and degree of mental flexibility. People that are high in easygoingness are very relaxed, broadminded, and unaffected by change. In contrast, people low in easygoingness tend be hardworking, firm, and sometimes inflexible.



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