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This is a group for all of us to post the quotes that make us feel good; from spirtual, inspirational, and funny things that make laugh to things that make you go ..." Huh.."
 

THE GEOGRAPHY OF A WOMAN:

  • Between 18 & 22, a woman is like Africa, half dicovered, half wild, fertile & naturally beautiful.
  • Between 23 & 30, a woman is like Europe, well developed and open to trade, especially for someone with cash.
  • Between 31 & 35, a woman is like Spain, very hot, relaxed and convinced of her own beauty.
  • Between 36 & 40, a woman is like Greece, gently aging but still a warm and desirable place to visit.
  • Between 41 & 50, a woman is like Great Britain, with a glorious and all conquering past.
  • Between 51 & 60, a woman is like Israel, has been through the war and doesn't make the same mistakes twice, takes care of business.
  • Between 61 & 70, a woman is like Canada, self-preserving, but open to meeting new people.
  • After 70, she becomes Tibet, a wildly beautiful, with a mysterious past and the wisdom of the ages... only those with an adventurous spirit and a thirst for spiritual knowledge visit there.

THE GEOGRAPHY OF A MAN:

  • Between 1 and 70, a man is like Iran, Ruled by Nuts.


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  • Comment Link Terry Lewis Wednesday, 22 January 2014 15:18 posted by Terry Lewis

    I lost everything due to a 6 year divorce I am on welfare while my ex husband enjoys the life style we were accustom to we were married for 29 years

  • Comment Link michelle Saturday, 02 November 2013 19:17 posted by michelle

    I am 23 my husband and i are divorcing the divorce was decided just last night i feel like i cant go forward in life he was such a huge part of my life everything in my future was planned around and with him. he was verbally abusive, a alcoholic, and has bi polar disorder. We dont have any children but i feel like i lost myself when i lost him his family was my family and it all gets wiped away so quickly. I need someone to be able to talk to someone who has been in my shoes.

  • Comment Link Karen Friday, 31 May 2013 20:01 posted by Karen

    You sound a lot like me. I was married for 33 years. The first half was pretty good, but the last half just got worse and worse. Our sex life was dead, and we didn't even sleep in the same bed, and even though we had holidays and spent time with my daughter and grandson, when we were alone we had NOTHING in common, except for going out to eat occasionally.
    We bought a vacation home when my daughters were just entering their teen years, with the agreement that if the whole family wasn't happy with it, we would sell it.
    After about 2 years my girls didn't want to spend the summers there, and neither did I. However, he loved the shore and refused to sell the house. He would spend every nice weekend alone at the shore because I had to stay home for the girls, and the pets.
    It truly tore us apart. I would go occasionly, but was always running back and forth to our home, while he'd stay there for 3 weeks at a time.
    I was also very involved in my church, in which he had no interest. Once in awhile if I begged him hard enough he would do me the favor of going to a service with me, but never got involved, and never enjoyed it.
    He even stopped going to movies with me, and wouldn't even watch a movie I rented at home.
    I eventually, at the age of 60 got up the courage to go to a lawyer, after my daughter told me he had asked her for her lawyer's phone #.
    It was a really hard decision to make. I did end up getting half of our assets, and the ironic part is, I got the shore house because it is cheaper for me to live here, than where we lived before.
    It's been really hard learning how to do everything myself, but luckily I did find a friend who could help me with a lot of stuff around the house I never would have been able to handle.
    I still feel guilty, like I shouldn't have taken any of his money or alimony, even though I raised 2 stepsons, 2 daughters and a grandson, and worked part time since my kids entered school.
    My sister thinks I am an awful person. My kids are OK with it. I found out he found a girlfriend in less than six months after I left, and they tell me he's very happy, but the guilt is still there. That's the hard part for me - that I left a man of 63, who thought I'd be there forever, even though he has lost all interest in me or my feelings. Sometimes I know it was the right thing to do, and other times I feel like I just should have stayed put out of loyalty.
    He is also a hoarder, which was extremely frustrating, and never finished any projects he started. Also, he was so tight with a buck I felt like I could never buy anything. When I finally found out how much money he made I was floored! He never told me the truth about it, so I can relate to everything you've said. Good luck, I am still working through my guilt feelings. Maybe it's just the generation I came from.

  • Comment Link NatLeon Friday, 17 May 2013 22:53 posted by NatLeon

    Ok, I am getting divorce and need help

    What do you do when people close to you say things like 'you need to go to the shrink so you don't spend your life making a collection of husbands'

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 19 February 2013 13:03 posted by Guest

    I feel you. I have a 3 month: I feel you. I have a 3 month old baby and my husband sounds the same...except that I love him and that's what holds me down and the fear of a nasty divorce. But I find myself often during the day wishing I could do it. I'm just afraid he would take custody of our baby.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 19 February 2013 13:01 posted by Guest

    Thinking about divorce a lot but terrified: My husband and I have been together for 10 years, 4 we've been married for and now have a 3 month old baby. He is very controlling and does whatever he wants but if I do half the things he does he gets mad. He says it's because he knows what he does and I don't, and I should always consult him. So yesterday was my final outburst, he is christian and I am catholic and we had decided we would bless him through him church, because he wants to and yesterday he told me he had set the date. Yes, he set the date without consulting me. I was so angry it just pilled up on top of other stuff, that we began to argue and what's worse is that it was in front of the baby. I am emotionally done I just don't think I can take it anymore and he sees no wrong in anything he does he says he is who he is take it or leave it...yes that's his attitude.

    And.. lately I just find myself thinking a LOT about divorce but I am just very very afraid. I'm afraid of what will happen and how I will be. I know he would try to fight custody of our baby, and that's what I fear the most, I would die if he would get custody.

    Advice please help Im in desperate need

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 21 January 2013 23:27 posted by Guest

    Hang in there..I feel your: Hang in there..I feel your pain Im going through the samething.. I can relate. I feel like I am so quick with my kids and its not right but its hard to function properly..It consumes you..Good luck with everything:)

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 03 January 2013 18:54 posted by Guest

    Stop reading the text. You: Stop reading the text. You daughter can see what happens. Pray, take walks, don't let the depression take what is left of you. You need to do this.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 03 January 2013 18:50 posted by Guest

    It will hurt a long time and: It will hurt a long time and only time will help at this time. Do the best you can each day, try not to take it out on the kids. They are going thru it with you. It is not easy, it dosen' t make sence and it is not fair or right. You have to pull yourself together and be as strong as you can. Each day will pass. Talk to your friends,run, yell. Do what you can. It takes a long time. good luck, I will pray for you and your children.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 03 December 2012 09:01 posted by Guest

    My husband said he wants out: My husband said he wants out of our marriage. I am so sad I can't even function. I yell at the kids even when they don't deserve it. He is in a relationship with someone else and it kills me inside. I really want to stay married. What can I do? I need help, I can't even breathe properly.

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 12 October 2012 18:42 posted by Guest

    Reaching out: I have been married for 20 years. It is my second marriage and when I met this man I never intended to remarry BUT he seemed wonderful, caring, etc. The only "fly" in the ointment from the beginning was his daughter but she was 18 and lived in CA so it seemed like a small thing. We had a good life but he never had much interest in sex and gradually there was nothing. I begged him to get help but he refused and wouldn't touch me. Things got really bad a couple of years ago when he refused to do anything, or go anywhere with me. He became increasingingly angry and abusive. Suddenly at the beginning of August of this year I noticed that his cell phone seemed not to be where he normally kept it. After a few days I started to wonder about this and went looking, low and behold the call log showed call after call to a woman. Long story short, I got the cell phone records from AT&T and discovered that he was talking to this woman for hours everyday. I started searching the house, found cards, and worse, a credit card that he took out in my name and ran up to $18,000. He took an alarming turn for the worse in behavior and I started making plans to leave during a trip he had planned. I did it, left, with just my belongings, my dogs, one cat and left everything else behind, including many beloved animals. I'm camped out in my sister's house but I am so MAD!!! The woman is younger, he took out a restraining order against me even though I was gone and did nothing the court granted this so I can't even go back to my own home. He also petitioned the court for sole custody of the house. Has anyone ever heard of this. I started therapy this week and she suggesting I seek out an online support group.

    Thoughts anyone.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 08 October 2012 10:16 posted by Guest

    I really need someone to talk to: I have been married for 36 years. We've had the normal ups and downs. I have never had the luxury of staying at home. I have worked a full time job since before we were married. At one time, I worked full time, part time, went to college full time, and took care of our daughter and family all at the same time. Our only child is married now. Two years ago, everything was rocking along fine (as normal for us). Then I decided to trade my car. He never said "no, we don't need to do this now", or "you really shouldn't now", etc. I knew he didn't think I needed to trade, but I worked and I saved the money on my own for a new car. The day after I traded, he just came in....said "that's it, we are separating all the money....you have yours to do with what you want....I'll have mine...then you spend yours just like you want". (I have NEVER asked him for money..we've always deposited into a checking account to pay the bills, and what was left out of his check was his, and mine was mine. But he went ballistic. He forced me to cash in all CD's, stocks, savings, and we split everything except 401Ks and IRAs. I did it out of fear that he would cash in everything himself and take all the money. He is EXTREMELY greedy about money. This man will eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches every meal to keep from having to buy a meal out. Everything is money with him. We don't use a clothes dryer because it burns too much electricity.

    Now that he's separated everything, if I want to buy our 1 year old grandaughter something, I have to pay for it. He's too cheap. My biggest rub is when we go to buy groceries...I may pick up grapes or strawberries, and I have to hear, "do you really need those?". We used to go out every Sunday for lunch after church. All he wants to eat is a sandwich because it is cheaper. I just can't stand his selfish, greediness. He has an addiction to money. He hoards it. We never go anywhere because it costs money. I mean we never go anywhere.

    I have slowly over the past 2 years cut my feelings for him a little at a time, thinking if we do divorce, it won't hurt so bad. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. I want a husband who truly loves me and who wants to enjoy life and get out and do things. I want a husband who is not afraid to take part in church activities, be a deacon, take up offering, or whatever. Just do something.

    I am seriously contemplating leaving. I'm so scared though. I feel like I am on the edge of a river. The river is the divorce process that I must go through to get to the other side. And though I know in my heart I will be so much better off emotionally once I get to the other side, I am just too scared to jump in. I don't want to go through what I will have to go through to get to the other side. Please help me. I have thought many times of suicide, but I am a Christian and I know I cannot do that.

    I can't see going through the fight. Who gets this, who gets that...I'm afraid I will have to move...my house is paid for..why should I have to jump out and pay rent and find a place to live? I don't have the strength to fight this battle.

  • Comment Link Myst Wednesday, 05 September 2012 18:02 posted by Myst

    Where to go from here.: I am in the process of a divorce after 18 years of marriage. My soon to be ex-husband found a 20 year old so I get tossed to the side. My twins are split between our homes and as of right now I am left with almost nothing of the material possessions we collected over the course of the 20 years we were actually together. I was abused as a child by my father and had terrible depression. It also didn't help that it had been years since he touched me sexually. Yes, I admit, I was NOT happy in the marriage, but to be cast aside like this was SO painful, not just to me but my children too. He now lives in the house that we built together with her and one of my twins, who he is working on brainwashing against me, and I live with my sister in another state with the other twin and we are just trying to survive. The twin that lives with me told him right off what he was doing was wrong so he basically kicked her out too. The flaunt all the things they are buying together and he allows her to send horrible texts and messages to me to twist the knife in my back. The pain is so horrible and is not helping the depression I already had from a horrible childhood. I want to move past all this and start a whole new life but with all these terrible messages I get, it is hard. I just want the pain to end.

  • Comment Link Guest Tuesday, 14 August 2012 00:24 posted by Guest

    about to divorce: you break it to the man that you want a divorce? you've been married 8 years. Together 13 years. you are not in love with him anymore. You don't know if you ever were.
    You settled for security.
    he is mentally abusive. controlling. jealous. negative. other than that a great guy you don't love him. he badgers and harasses you until you give into his desires and controlling nature .
    your kids don't want the divorce. How do you make it happen and get over the guilt ?

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 13 July 2012 13:08 posted by Guest

    Am I doing the right thing here: Hi All,

    I am about to file for divorce now. Here is the background. I have been married for 1 year and 2 months now. It started out as an arranged marriage but after fixing the marriage date, his mom created problems saying some religious pastor had prophesized that i had some health issues and thereby wanted to stop it. But my husband wanted it to happen,I initially wanted to call it off but after 2 months of confusion he had emotionally brought me to such a stage wherein he suggested register marriage and i actually set a date even before the actually planned date and we got married with his friend's help. That would remain the stupidest decision of my life. We continued to live separately and revealed the marriage to my family only after a month. My family though shocked agreed to his plan wherein they conducted a small prayer ceremony with a few close relatives around and left me with him in his house in another city. He told his family only after a few days and then he realised he wanted his family in his life more than me and started threatening me with divorce after a week of living together. After that i got a transfer to his city, problems escalated he kept on threatening with divorce for almost everything. I have lived separately for 3 months, was then made to go back because of my family's pressure. There has been no stability at all in the marriage from the start. His mom had talked derogatorily about my character and yet he wants me to mingle with this family. He himself speaks very vulgarly and says only my family wouldnt be able to hear it and run away and his family is anyway capable of speaking more vulgar. In short he feels i am trapped. I have shifted 3 houses in the past 6 months because of all the problems. In the midst of all this he always wanted to raise a family. He is 34 and i am 26 and i had told him i want time to first make sure this relationship will sustain as he constantly threatens to divorce if anything doesnt happen his way. We had been having normal physical relationships but using protection yet he now denies it amounts to nothing at all and demanded a medical test a few weeks back to prove i am fertile. He said this in front of my parents and also said he doesnt want to live with me anymore but at the sametime he wouldnt initiate the divorce. So my parents have now agreed to help me to get the divorce. I have never been happy even for a day in this relationship. He had threatened me with even hurting my family using goondas. If at all things dont go his way he always threatens with divorce, he denies whatever wrong his family does and now even says if u dont want to take medical test come lets have a baby immediately. In between, he always acts all charming and says he doesnt mean anything he says during the fights. He tries to convince me that only i am overreacting. His family also has a history of not getting their children married off so easily. His elder brother had an engagement of 2 yrs which they broke off. So i think they always trigger him to control me more. I know i cant survive in this family or with him. I am from India and girls are advised to be more tolerant here. Just need some reassurance to know i am doing the right thing here by getting a divorce.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 15 March 2012 23:21 posted by Guest

    really laughed: OMG. Thank you. I REALLY didn't see that coming, and I REALLY needed it.